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To be pissed of my brother is getting married on our anniversary?

78 replies

Lily15 · 04/08/2012 17:22

The title says it all really.Brother and fiancée are getting married overseas next month but are legally getting hitched here first in a registry office.Only just told me when. On my 2nd wedding anniversary. Bit pissed off. Would you be?

OP posts:
FalseStartered · 04/08/2012 17:34

i don't get it when other people are expected to celebrate your wedding anniversary, if they have been to your wedding, then that's it, surely?

WigGold · 04/08/2012 17:35

Nope, no biggie.

Olympia2012 · 04/08/2012 17:35

Ah you accept yabu!!!

Not many doGrin

LindyHemming · 04/08/2012 17:36

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JumpingThroughHoops · 04/08/2012 17:39

I think my dislike for my future SIL is clouding my better judgement.

G'WAN, G'WAN, G'WAN -Tell

SoupDragon · 04/08/2012 17:41

Say, with a broad smile, "oh how lovely! That's our anniversary! What a great way for us to celebrate it!"

But really, it is a non issue and will become more of a non-issue as the years go by.

ChaoticismyLife · 04/08/2012 17:41

YABU it wouldn't bother me.

DontmindifIdo · 04/08/2012 17:46

I would bother me a bit, and then I'd be annoyed at myself for being bothered because I don't 'own' the day...

I would suggest you say with the biggest smile on your face "oh how lovely, that's our wedding anniversary! We'll share the same day! Gosh, it'll be so romantic for DH and I to be at a wedding on our special day!" most brides would get upset at this and move the date...

BellaVita · 04/08/2012 17:47

Wouldn't bother me.

JennerOSity · 04/08/2012 17:49

Would not bother me. My dsil/bil got married on my first wedding anniversary, why not, it's a day in the year. We had a lovely day. It isn't as if all our friends and family should have been thinking of us that day not them. So long as the bash is a good'un it's as good a way to spend your anniversary as any other.

In fact I would go as far as to say it made it really special standing there a year to the day after saying our vows and hearing them say theirs - was so fresh it brought a tear to my eye and we shared their joy. Grin

ThePigOnTheWall · 04/08/2012 17:51

Erm...yabu. I actually think it's quite sweet

Filmbuffmum · 04/08/2012 17:53

DS2 was born on our 5th anniversary. I seem to remember telling DH through gritted teeth that he should forget getting any other present that year. I am hoping that eventually it might mean that we will have GPs available to babysit for the evening after DS2's party so we can go out for dinner. Hasn't happened yet though.

teacher123 · 04/08/2012 17:53

We got married on my sister's anniversary, I checked before we booked and she didn't mind at all, i think she was pleased to not have to organise anything that year to celebrate!

Indith · 04/08/2012 17:54

My BIL and his DW got married on our first anniversary. What is the big deal?

PicklesThePottyMouthedParrot · 04/08/2012 17:57

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest!

Boggler · 04/08/2012 17:59

Op IMO YABU.

Dh and I are the only ones to celebrate our anniversary and we don't don't really make a lot of fuss and we certainly don't expect anyone else in the family to even remember the date let alone make sure they don't book weddings, christenings birthday parties etc on it.

BikeRaceRunningRaceNoSkiing · 04/08/2012 17:59

Bil and Sil got married on our first wedding anniversary. That didn't p me off. Sil 's dress was a high street copy of my Amanda Wakely dress and Mil made them an identical cake with identical icing (unsual and designed by me). That p'ed me off.

mellen · 04/08/2012 18:03

YABU, why would it be an issue?

HecateHarshPants · 04/08/2012 18:04

Does it matter? Well, clearly it matters to you Blush sorry. But does it matter? You and your husband will celebrate your anniversary. They will celebrate theirs. Your families will send you a card.

Your anniversary really only means something to you. It doesn't matter how many people you share it with. It's still the day you two go out to dinner and toast another year of not killing each other Wink

Just congratulate them. If you want to be a bit snide Grin say "Oh, our anniversary? Great, at least we'll never have an excuse for forgetting to send each other a card, hahaha"

GhostShip · 04/08/2012 18:12

Nope. You don't own the day

oldwomanwholivedinashoe · 04/08/2012 18:16

Yabu. The only people that remember past the first anniversary are the bride and groom. I think you're being a bit precious about it.

Acumens100 · 04/08/2012 18:19

No, I would not care. You know, lots of people get married every day.

justabigdisco · 04/08/2012 18:21

I would think it was quite nice, actually.

Happiestinwellybobs · 04/08/2012 18:28

Wouldn't matter a bit! At least you'll all remember each others anniversaries. If they'd chosen to get married on the same day as you were getting married then I'd understand you being miffed!!

Arabellasmella · 04/08/2012 18:31

YABU, not a problem here, in fact it's quite nice i think.

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