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that people who grab tables at self service restaurants without getting food dirst

415 replies

Windsock · 02/08/2012 16:02

are nobs
owners of small kids etcetc ussual conditions apply
it REALLY annoys me.
this messes up the flow of traffic and one person sits there hogging a space where 4 people could get in eat AND have left byt he time their person arrives

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Sirzy · 04/08/2012 20:28

Im not whining, I am laughing at those people who "fume" over people ensuring they have somewhere to eat food before buying it!

janey68 · 04/08/2012 20:31

You seemed very scared just now at the idea that someone with a meal might come and sit at that table you've bagged. Until you realised that you're actually contradicting yourself, and did a swift ut turn cos of course, as you kept saying earlier, what's the problem with sharing a table...

Sirzy · 04/08/2012 20:33

Did I? What did I say that seemed scared then? I said I would refuse to be "ejected" from a table I was at which I would, I would have no problem with people coming to sit on any empty seats we had though.

janey68 · 04/08/2012 20:35

Good- glad we're all agreed that no one can actually prevent people who've bought food actually sitting and eating it - however important or entitled they might think they are Smile

FelicitywasSarca · 04/08/2012 20:35

Oh in an empty seat? That's fine.

It's just sitting in a PA huff in the seat the person queuing for food was going to sit in that I'd object to.

Politely asking to share with a group that have a free seat in a busy restaurant is normal.

exoticfruits · 04/08/2012 20:36

They are welcome to join me but I am not moving from my seat!

Moominsarescary · 04/08/2012 21:20

When did anyone say they minded people coming and joining them if there was an empty seat?

exoticfruits · 04/08/2012 22:02

They were talking about getting staff to eject me- or people like me. Therefore I said that I wasn't moving but they could sit on the spare seat.

FelicitywasSarca · 04/08/2012 22:04

people like you

That is the crux of the ridiculous nature of this argument.

As if using your common sense on a restaurant somehow makes you a pariah.

YouOldSlag · 04/08/2012 22:45

"table hoggers" are only people who are waiting for their food for around ten minutes. The amount of time they are using a table without eating anything would be around ten minutes. It has never taken me longer to get a tray of food or go up and place an order and bring drinks back.

I am not an entitled person, I would not object to people sharing my table and you seem to be forgetting so called "table hoggers" are in fact paying customers. We have not walked in off the street with a packed lunch in order to hug table for a few hours. We are paying money to eat as a family.

Does it honestly make sense for me to take DH, a 6yo and a 2yo in a pushchair or on reins into a queue and then wander round balancing trays and possibly hot drinks and carrying shopping and hoping that I can actually sit with both my DH AND my kids?

It's nothing to do with bad manners, it's bloody common sense and it's only this handful of people on Mumsnet who are shouting "entitled" and "selfish" at such sensible solutions.

I don't expect more privileges than the next person, I would share my table and I am not exactly bringing a packed lunch or hogging WiFi with one cup of coffee.

What WOULD be ridiculous would be taking my whole family up to queue in order to buy one tray of food, attempting to balance and carry a tray and possibly not being able to sit together or sit down at all. Why would you make lunchtime so stressful? Get a seat, nominate a buyer and give your kids something to do so they are not a nuisance or a hazard.

I've mentioned this thread to (non-selfish, non-entitled) friends and family and they are nonplussed that people think it rude to get a table whilst someone fetches the food. I have honestly never come across anyone who thinks it the done thing NOT to get a seat before fetching the food. It's really strange to me.

sue52 · 05/08/2012 09:37

Youoldslag, if you read the OP, it does say usual conditions for small children apply. I do think that adults (without very small children in tow) who do this are indeed selfish and entitled.

FelicitywasSarca · 05/08/2012 09:44

Can you explain why you think this Sue?

Why do you think it is entitled to want to sit down and eat at a restaurant?

People keep throwing these insults around without explaining why it is they think this.

Sirzy · 05/08/2012 09:46

So you think families should have different rules to adults? How is that fair? At what age do children all of a sudden have to queue then?

sue52 · 05/08/2012 09:50

Felicty This has happened to me in the past. I was on on my own in a self service restaurant , the last table was nabbed by a couple (one sitting down the other standing after me in the queue, bags spread over the available seat) and I was left standing with my tray. Annoyed me a bit.

sue52 · 05/08/2012 09:51

I think 5 year old are perfectly capable of standing quietly. I know mine were.

Sirzy · 05/08/2012 09:52

There were no other seats anywhere in the cafe? None at all? I have seen very few places with not a single seat left in all the various places of varying sizes I have been

sue52 · 05/08/2012 09:55

Now I know that cafe staff will ask people who have not yet paid for their food to move, I will never again have to.

Sirzy · 05/08/2012 09:57

When I worked in a cafe I wouldn't have, I would have found someone an empty seat but I certainly wouldn't move paying customers which is exactly what people are even if still in the queue

sue52 · 05/08/2012 09:59

But the other customer hadn't paid yet and I had. Why can't you sit in an available seat after you pay or do you have different rules for yourself?

Sirzy · 05/08/2012 10:01

I would find someone alone a seat if they were uncabable of saying "excuse me is that seat free"

I would never empty a table for someone though. If people are waiting for food why should they leave their table for you? Now THAT is entitled to expect that.

FelicitywasSarca · 05/08/2012 10:02

Yeh I'm not sure I believe there wasn't a single seat left in the cafe Sue.

Just sit in an empty seat.

And 'this happened to me once and it was annoying' isn't really grounds for dictating how all other people use a restaurant and labelling people who don't do it your way selfish or entitled.

FelicitywasSarca · 05/08/2012 10:03

We all could sit in an available seat after we pay (and do if we're on our own).

But most would prefer a bit more choice of table, and, when in a group this is possible. Great, everyone's a winner.

sue52 · 05/08/2012 10:03

I have food in my hand and they have not yet ordered wanting to asit down and eat it before them seems only fair.

FelicitywasSarca · 05/08/2012 10:05

Why because you were too disorganised to save a seat?

It's not a race. You can't turf people off a table. sit in an empty seat

No one is suggesting you shouldn't sit and eat.

Sirzy · 05/08/2012 10:05

If they are in the queue they will need the table in the time it takes you to eat unless you inhale food.

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