Dh asking this every day

[MrsRobertDuvallHasRosacea]

I have 10 weeks off for the summer.
I 'm not going away, but am taking everything nice and slowly. Most of my friends are away at the moment, but am quite happy pootling around on my own.
Getting up by 8.30, gym every other day. The house is clean, ironing done, food in the fridge.

Dcs are teenagers so don't need much attention...they are busy most of the time and out of the house, armed with Oyster cards and bikes.

But every morning dh asks what my plans are. Not in a particularly interested way, but a " are you going to waste another day doing not very much" way.
I am happy reading, going for a coffee, bit of shopping sort of thing. Went to V and A last week, Olympics on Sunday, got theatre booked next week, had hair cut yesterday.
But he is one of those men who has to be doing something all the time..golf, sailing, gym, swimming...doesn't read, have coffee or sit down and relax unless it is to watch sport. He only works about 5 hours a day as he has his own business, so it's not that he's jealous of the free time I have.

Anyone else have this?

No I don't.
What happens if you say "what's it to you?" or perhaps more polite words to the same effect?

10 weeks off!? Lucky you! Personally, I would spend a couple of weeks doing what you're doing and then do something a bit more active. But no reason you should do anything more if you don't want to. Maybe your DP is a bit envious? I definitely would be if my DP had 10 weeks off!

Oh I do pictish.
Then he tells me I'm getting defensive

Aren't you glad you aren't going on holiday with a person who has to be doing something every minute of the day?

He's probably a bit jealous of your 10 weeks off....

"Whatever I feel like."

Lie

Massive outlandish lies until he gets the point; or
Small rubbish lies that shut him up

Sounds like you are having a lovely productive time.
Ever consider asking him what it is that he cannot face in quiet contemplation?

Say 'Sod all, brilliant, isn't it?!', with a massive grin on your face. He'll get tired of getting that reaction after awhile!

10 weeks off-is it paid, if so-I want your job! I'm a teacher and have 6 weeks, but 10-are you an MP? ;)

He sounds jealous-do you think he is? Is he cross that you are blowing money on Olympics tickets, theatre and getting your haircut whilst he's 'out earning'?

No unfortunately I cannot say I am struggling with an awful problem like this. Really feel for you it must be such a terrible hardship. You sound like a wee pampered pooch

Good day to you

"as little as possible"

or

"conserving energy or higher purposes"

turn its on its head and ask him before he asks you.

he won't like it and hopefully get the message.

If he wasn't interested in what you were doing I don't think he'd ask you tbh.

Climbing Mont Blanc.

Love the outlandish lies idea!!!

letseatgrandma ..no he isn't jealous or upset that I am spending money. I think it's because he finds it hard to "potter" - even when he does the gardening, it's not relaxing, he goes at it like he has to have the best mowed lawn in the world.
He has 2 golf trips, a sailing trip and 3 weeks in Australia booked this year...and I'm very happy I won't be doing any of that!

His dad is exactly the same....at 80 he still dashes round, overcommitting himself to neighbours, even changing his holiday so he would be away at the same time as his friend, and not have to have a week on his own,

I think today I will tell him I have competed in the velodrome and single handedly resolved the Syriam crisis.
i have actually decided to visit the Stones exhibition at Somerset House . And have lunch.

anotherstressfulmorning
You okay there?

My dh does this too - drives me barmy because he is not really interested in the reply. Feels like he is checking up on me. This morning was a new variant - "What exciting things have you got on today?" Exciting...? It's week 5 of the summer hols with 3 kids under 11. Even when I tell him he just sort of grunts "oh right".

pampered pooch

I would just tell him what I am doing, what's the big deal?

I would say 'I'm reading this book...' and have a bit hat about it

Or 'I am dying for a frappachino so I'm off to starbucks ...'

Just tell him you will be delighting in your own company, exploring your rich internal world and feel so fortunate to find your own internal discourse so rewarding and its enjoyment so free of existential angst. You sympathise, it must be hard to be so scared of one's own inherent emptiness that a single moment in one's own company must be avoided so strenuously.

Sorry but at anotherstressfulmorning as well.

My DH is like this in so far as he cannot understand my fondness for pottering. I am more than happy doing my own, relaxed thing whereas he needs a plan and preferrably one that involves filling every available second with an activity.

We reached an understanding about a year ago where he finally started to appreciate that saying "time you enjoy wasting is not wasted time"

Glad that there are other potterers.
I work very hard at my job, just so happens There is no work for me July and August.
We shall see who drops dead of a heart attack first chez MrsRD.

Off to sniff someone's bottom now. woof

Just say "I don't know yet".

Goodness me.

I'm like your DH. Thats why I have a husband like my DH. He does triathlon. I used to do triathlon but now do running and showjumping. Every weekend I'm competing in one or the other. When he's not doing a triathlon, he will come along and help me. Today for example, I'm not working so I'm just about to go cycling and then horseriding, and in the evening I will do a quick swim. This is technically a rest day because I'm not running.

My Father had already had a heart attack when he was my age, MrsRobert, due to being overweight and not following medical advice to exercise and give up smoking, so I'll take my chances with the active lifestyle, thanks.