to be pissed off with "so are you going to try for a boy?"

[leobear]

Had my 20 week scan today, a lovely little girl, sister for DD. Am so delighted, and so pleased everything looks ok.

Hours since I had the scan = 4

"Are you going tor try again?" comments = 6

FFS!

I have 2 dd's. I get asked this all the time.

I say I'm done as it's not anyones business

Ignore, ignore, ignore!

Maybe ask "didnt know there was a specific way of trying for boy or girl, enlighten me"

I had the same when preg with dc3 having already had two boys.

Incidently she was a girl and I had someone say ah now you have a perfect family. WTAF?

I guess it's my own fault for telling people - although this is from family!

ffs! what's wrong with people?!

what happened to "i'm so pleased for you!"?

yeah, try "oh, what's wrong with two girls then?" [innocent face]
or "these days, you don't only pass land onto the first born Male, you know"

Stupid comments should always be met with a blank look or a "Sorry, what?" If a person has to repeat or explain themselves they soon realise of their own accord how ridiculous they sound.

I'm 24 weeks with DS2 and I get this. It's rude but people say daft things to pregnant women and sometimes I think it's just for something to say. Like there's a social obligation to comment!

Totally agree! I gave three gorgeous boys and you can't believe the number of stupid comments I got from random strangers as well as family members! I was and could have bitten their head off at some point!

Have not gave

But it's only right that you want a little prince, without which your family is incomplete, innit? [/sarcasm]

I had the opposite when we found out DC2 was a boy, people telling me that as I had a girl and a boy I could be 'done with two'. And if I want three kids, shitforbrains, what business would it be of yours?

Also, congrats on healthy bubba, and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy don't strain yourself beating idiots to death

YANBU. I have one of each and when DD was born I had a friend ask if I was happy to get my girl. I've also had many comments about now having a perfect family, especially since we are stopping at 2. We only ever wanted two though, so their genders weren't really relevant, they would have been the perfect family for us whoever they were!

No, I'm going to use the money I'll save on buying boys' clothes to spoil my girls rotten.....or similar phrases.

I remember doing work experience so many many moons ago. The boss was pregnant and about to go on maternity leave and one of the mothers turned to her as she was leaving and said "I hope you have a girl". The boss already had a little boy. I've never forgotton it - it struck me as such a horrible thing to say, as if another boy would be a bad thing.

Looking back as a rational adult, I'm not sure why this is but it still really annoys me when people say this.

I was told to "pray for a boy" by one of my in-laws when pregnant with dc2. That was back in the day when I held my tongue.

I have 2 dds and if I had a penny for every time someone asked me if I would be trying for a boy, I would be rich.

It used to annoy me tremendously, but I think my skin has become thicker now (or I have got used to the inevitable comment on my lack of male offspring) as it just doesn't irritate me as much.

Just ignore! I have 2 DDs and so far I have only had a couple of comments.

One was, "ooh DH is outnumbered" yup, he loves being adored by three lovely ladies .

People are often surprised that I'm chucking out the baby stuff though. I haven't got the "perfect pair" y'see.

Ooooh! The stupidest reaction I have ever had was from a cabbie when dd2 was 4 weeks old.

"You must try for a boy", he said. "Who will your husband take to watch the footie?", he asked.

"Erm, he can take both girls to the footie. I didn't know you needed a penis to be able to appreciate sport?", replied I.

As you can probably guess, we did not develop a friendship in the course of that short cab ride

The mw asked if I'd like a girl this time, my face was between and I think

I'd only just finished going through my history and telling her about loosing ds4 at 20 weeks last year

Sometimes people just don't think

YANBU!

I had a load of stupid comments when we were expecting DD2. Worst were those directed to DH, asking him if he wasn't disappointed. DH really had no preference at all for a certain gender child (less so than me in fact!), but people kept assuming that he wanted a boy!

What I remember more though are the two co-owners at DD1's creche. The evening after the scan, when I picked up DD1 they asked if we knew. We told them, expecting the same 'oh well... you can always try again' comment. One told us how much she loved having a sister and the other told me how much pleasure she had from having two daughters. Actually the nice comments stick much more than the insensitive ones!

We LOVE having two girls. They are each others best friend, ally and partner in crime. You will indeed save a fortune on not having to shell out for blue things covered in tractors and cars (in the beginning at least, no knowing what they'll end up wanting later on!)

So sorry about your ds4, Moomin.

The sport thing is really annoying. 2 family members have asked who DH will "enjoy the sport with" !!!

Blank stare and a 'sorry I have no idea what you mean'.

Although think people just say crap to pregnant people to make conversation.

People are stupid! I used to go with my Dad every weekend to watch football. He was a poor sod with 2 DDs too!

Thanks Leo dp still has no one to watch sport with as so far none of the boys have shown the slightest interest

I get the 'trying for a girl/football team?' comments after producing 3 gorgeous boys.

I may make it look easy but we're not made of money and my body's had enough of producing babies.