to be pissed off with "so are you going to try for a boy?"

[leobear]

Had my 20 week scan today, a lovely little girl, sister for DD. Am so delighted, and so pleased everything looks ok.

Hours since I had the scan = 4

"Are you going tor try again?" comments = 6

FFS!

It's an annoying thing to say. There's plenty of advantages to having 2 girls (or 2 boys, for that matter).

And you can't guarantee that trying again would get you a child of the other gender anyway.

I have a colleague who had 2 DDs. He really, really wanted a boy. So, he convinced his wife to try again. She got pregnant with girl triplets

So many people have said to me in the past "all men want a son". Why? What do they think they will get from a son, that they won't get from a daughter?

Next time someone asks, just tell them that you are trying for a kitten this time... Or maybe a baby zebra (or indeed any animals of your choosing. maybe this is another minefield area ). And then see their faces contort as they try to work out what you are saying...

worked a treat for me!

I got this, mainly from MIL who still wants me to try for a boy!! I love my girls, would not change them for the world (would obviously have loved them as much if they had been boys) and I don't want anymore.

My line for next time it is commented on is "a penis is not the holy grail"

I have 3 boys and am pregnant with number 4.

I've lost count of the amount of 'girl' comments I've gotten so far.

I'd actually really love another boy

YANBU in the least, OP, but you know that. People can be terrible idiots around pregnancy, but you should call them on it because most of the time, I'm convinced, they have no idea they're being so rude and moronic because they're 'just making conversation'!

I did the blank look and 'Sorry, what?' approach, which often makes people rethink any dumb comment without you having to get aggressive, which can be exhausting, when it happens all the time.

Of course, it didn't stop my idiotic MIL from responding to the announcement that DP and I were having our first child (me aged 39) by saying not 'Congratulations' but by saying 'An only is a lonely!' as if it was a brilliant insight she was sharing. And not just saying it once, but saying it four or five times in case we hadn't heard her, until FIL (a darling) told her to stop.

YANBU, OP and many congratulations!

Congratulations OP

I've found the perfect answer to be *Are you really that interested in my sex life?

From the other side, I adore my sister and we have a brilliant relationship. I can't imagine having a brother and never especially wanted one.

I'd go for the standard Mumsnet 'did you mean to be so rude?' riposte, myself. Congratulations, OP!

I have 2 ds' and got he whole 'oh trying for a girl' thing during my third pregnancy, it turned out she was a girl so now I get 'oh you can stop now you have got a girl'. I reply that no, I will stop now as I do to wan more children 3 is plenty and I woul have felt the same if it had been a third boy (that and the fact that I was told my womb is very thin after 3 CS' and there would be risks!

I have just had ds2 and have had endless comments about trying for a girl. Endless.

It's very irritating.. the worst thing is I would love a little girl. I wasn't even a tiny bit disappointed to have ds2 because as we hadn't found out the sex ahead of time, I had a mental image of both a girl and a boy... but I do feel that in doing it this way, I feel I've "lost" the girl I imagined and I'd love to meet her too someday.

Next time I will find out at 20 week scan as I did with ds1 because I didn't have any of these feelings about his gender and I really would be happy with three boys. It was all the wondering/waiting to find out that made it harder as I found myself looking at cute pink clothes etc and still imagining I had both.

Almost as much as when people as if I'll have a sibiling for my DD so she won't be an only child. I'm a single mother with no partner fgs. Immaculate conception??!

I'm pregnant with dc3. We have 2 DS s already. I'm actually feeling pressured to find out the sex just to combat the stupid comments. There's so much assumption that I'm desperate for a daughter. I really want 3 children no matter what sex they are. With 50/50 odds I certainly wouldn't have gone for it with this pregnancy if I wasn't entirely happy to have a third son. Children are amazing. My DH nan has already said the 12 week scan looks like a girl because it has a nice round head.... Hmm I'm not sure of the scientific theory behind that one.

I have two girls of 3 and 10wks- I was so angry about the responses I got when pg, I started a thread too

Seriously, I was getting pity faces from strangers because I was having a child of a particular gender. Even the sonographer took one look at my DD at the 20wk scan and said "Hopefully it's a boy!"

I found it all very difficult as I had horrible antenatal depression and gender disappointment when pg with DD1, and had (successfully) worked so hard to be happy having a girl before we tried for DD2.

When told the gender of a child, the correct response is always "Congratulations".

Fuckwits.

I read a book once where the author said:
There are two responses to the question "Do you want a boy or a girl?"
Either "Not really" or "Absolutely" depending on how nauseous you have been feeling that day.
(She finished it by saying "Unless you wish to punch the questioner in the nose, in which case I will be happy to hold your coat"!)

'No, we decided not to try for a boy, because you have to do it outside and standing up and I wasn't brave enough.'

I'm with babybythesea there

While I was pregnant, DH's stock answer to the question "Do you know what you're having?" was "A baby."

YANBU

I have three boys and have lost count of the times I've been asked "are you going to try for a girl" and also a nice comment of "your life will not be complete if you don't have a girl"

Do people not think we can be happy with just same sex children? I love having three boys tbh and (after seeing my two neices grow up) quite glad I've got them.

Congratulations btw, you must be very excited and at least you'll be able to reuse clothes, one of the perks of same sex children.

Now I have 2 ds and a baby dd people say "you got your girl then", like ds2 was meant to be the girl. Didn't find out sex till she was born but fully expected anther boy and would have been equally happy.

Oh I had this, currently pregnant with DS3 and I got bombarded with "oh .... Never mind, you can always try again" as if we'd somehow failed by conceiving a boy.

I had my 3rd girl last year and a few people have commiserated that my husband will have no -one to play football with. Just ignore, some people just feel the need to fill silences with whatever falls out of their mouth

It really doesn't bother me, a quick stare or "no I shouldn't think so, I'm fecking tired" usually suffices. My mil had the same kind of comments - she had 3 boys

I also have three boys and am pregnant again, and constantly get 'maybe you'll get your girl!' I've started just replying 'I don't care', and changing the subject. It really really pisses me off!!!!