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AIBU?

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Original poster

to be really pissed of my DR is an hour late!

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lola88 · 01/08/2012 10:21

DS is lactose intolerant so gets prescription milk has been for 5 months now he is 6 months i have to start weaning him on to milk, little by little in 6 weeks try him with one bottle of normal formula (once he is used to milk in his food) so that all fine.

Yesterday i phone the DR to order his repeat prescription to be phone back and told the DR has cancelled it because he's 6 months and needs weaned from it! I had to explain to the receptionist the ins and out of why this was wrong before she would make me an appointment for the DR to phone me so I and explain it to the DR. So spent all last night wondering how the DR can think wean at 6 months means stop dead called HV to confirm i'm right she told me no way was i to put him straight on to 5 normal bottles a day it would make him really ill tell DR any problems phone back.

So now i'm sitting waiting for the idiot DR to phone for my 9.15 phone appointment so i can tell her how it bloody works i can actually feel my blood boil with every min that goes by. I timed DS nap to go down for 9.45 so i can get showered and go out for 11 now i'm not going to be able to shower until he's up and will be late!

sorry for the rant but i'm so annoyed this is not the first problem i've had with this DR they 'forgot' about is last week and we had to wait an hour n a half with a starving DS in the waiting room!

Still no phone call.

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PenisVanLesbian · 01/08/2012 10:22

You know they might be dealing with actual sick people, so oddly enough yo wouldn't be the priority.

PenisVanLesbian · 01/08/2012 10:23

and if he is lactose intolerant why would you just start giving him milk? It doesn't work like that.

wannabedomesticgoddess · 01/08/2012 10:30

Wow. Really unhelpful there penis. A need for your comments??

Your DR sounds like an idiot. If this was me I would be changing. I know this isnt always possible though.

Can you phone the receptionist and ask why your appointment seems to have been overlooked? If you had just not shown up for an appointment they would have gone apeshit (well mine do) so I find that a courtesy call if the DR had been called out would have been appropriate!

PenisVanLesbian · 01/08/2012 10:40

Yes, I think so. Oddly when doctors have actual sick people in front of them, sometimes they are not available for phone calls. Go figure.

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lola88 · 01/08/2012 10:43

Penis my son will be a very sick person if he doesn't have the correct formula and at 6 months i have to start introducing lactose so cooking with milk, cheese giving yogurt etc.

wannabe i did was told twice she will phone shortly, finally phoned 5 mins ago had to explain to weaning process i've been advised to go by from HV and it was a senior DR that called!

I've got forms for the other local doctor filled in and ready to go in once i'm ready :)

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lola88 · 01/08/2012 10:44

They give you an appointment for the phone so i don't think expecting them to phone around the time is unreasonable. Have you got a lactose intolerant baby penis?

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maybenow · 01/08/2012 10:47

i feel for you OP - i don't know why people think 'weaning' means stopping. it's the same with bf... starting weaning at 6months does not mean there will be no more bf. (nor ff but for some reason nobody assumes it with 'regular' formula)

Sidge · 01/08/2012 10:53

So a doctor is an idiot because s/he doesn't phone when scheduled?

As frustrating as it is I doubt their tardiness is down to stupidity.

ontheedgeofwhatever · 01/08/2012 10:54

You are sort of being unreasonable. I agree that they seem to have got it wrong about the prescription. However I don't think its fair to get angry about the timing. I've had to wait an hour plus for appointment whilst sitting in the waiting room before now - the lady who came out eventually was still in floods of tears and clearly needed the doctors time very badly.

It would have been better if you'd had a phone call to say doc was running late but the receptionist is probably busy trying to deal with irrate patients who are actually there in front of her and hasn't managed to call you.

I hope they call soon and you get it sorted out. If its any consultation I waited in all day for the midwife yesterday with a 5 day old baby I'd been up most of the night with and she didn't come and I didn't dare sleep in case I missed her. At 6pm my neighbour dropped a note round from midwife and it turned out she'd knocked on the wrong door! I was a bit upset too to be honest.

PenisVanLesbian · 01/08/2012 10:55

I have a severely lactose intolerant child, which is why your post makes little sense to me. If he will be very sick with lactose, why give him lactose at 6 months? Either he has congenital lactose intolerance in which case the lactose will just make him ill, or he has acquired secondary lactose intolerance, in which case 6 months is too early for re-introduction. Neither makes sense.

SarkyWench · 01/08/2012 10:56

pmsl at "Have you got a lactose intolerant baby penis?"

Purple2012 · 01/08/2012 10:58

The thing is, I can understand you being pissed off at having to wait, however yabu to call the dr an idiot. A couple of times I have had a very long delay in getting into my appointment, when I've gone in the dr had apologised and said they had a walk in emergency. It's one of those things. My nan was in the doctor the other day and collapsed, the rest of the patients were hugely delayed because of this. What should the doctor do, kick people out that need urgent care to deal with routine stuff?

wannabedomesticgoddess · 01/08/2012 11:03

I said the DR is an idiot as he/she assumes that a lactose intolerant baby will suddenly be fine with milk at 6months. And that as the OP is presumably following THEIR advice, cancelling the prescription is nothing less than idiotic.

Add to that a tardy approach to appointment keeping or atleast courtesy calls, it sounds like a badly run practice.

I wouldnt be discussing my private matters with a receptionist either. Why should the OP "prove" she needs an appointment?

Just because we dont pay our GPs in the UK does not mean we shouldnt expect a reasonable level of customer service. After all, it is our taxes paying their wages.

maybenow · 01/08/2012 11:04

i think the OP is calling the doctor an idiot because he doesn't seem to realise that 'weaning' means gradual cutting down and not sudden withdrawl.

however, to give the dr his due, maybe he just wanted to discuss this with the OP at an appointment rather than issuing a repeat prescription but it's still a pretty bad miscommunication leaving a child without their main source of calorie intake!

OldGreyWiffleTest · 01/08/2012 11:13

I had a lactose intolerant baby - no way could I start introducing milk at 6 months! He was nearly 2 before I could try, and then it was goats milk now cows. He has never been really able to tolerate only the smallest doses of cows milk - I spent years buying soya Easter Eggs, soya drinks, soya everything.

They DO NOT become tolerant to cows milk at 6 months all of a sudden!

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lola88 · 01/08/2012 11:24

well then penis surely you can understand why im annoyed with this nonsense of cancelling his formula?

He's had a tiny amount of lactose the paszt 3 days and has been very moany and had runny nappys today so i think i will need to leave it a while before i try again hence why i NEED to prescription

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PenisVanLesbian · 01/08/2012 11:27

I think you're missing my point entirely. You should be annoyed with your doctor for suggesting you give a lactose intolerant baby lactose, not at all because they didn't phone you when they were meant to. The former is the reason to be annoyed, the latter is not.
I suggest you change your doctor and learn more about the condition. You do not do a challenge on a 6 month old, its ridiculous.

wannabedomesticgoddess · 01/08/2012 11:36

What is it with MN lately. Every thread I go on where the OP is asking for advice attracts people who just seem to want to slate the parenting skills of the OP.

Her baby is 6months old penis. I doubt she has time to extensively read up on the ins and outs of lactose intolerance.

She is following advice given by a doctor. She now sees its not working and is reassessing the situation. I hardly think calling her ridiculous is necessary.

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lola88 · 01/08/2012 11:41

you know your name does really suit you Penis

I'm off

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SCOTCHandWRY · 01/08/2012 11:44

Instead of faffing about with a very unnatural, highly processed product, why not try Goats milk instead - available in all big super markets these days, fresh and UHT - almost nobody is allergic or intolerant to it. You can get small pots of Goat yogurt with fruit in some supermarkets too.

My DS has been on it since I stopped BF at about 13months, he's 21 months now and CAN have very small amounts of cows milk (as an ingredient), but any greater amount than that makes him sick.

MikeLitorisRings · 01/08/2012 11:44

I dont think penis has slated the op's parenting at all.

More like the advice given to the OP.

Moominsarescary · 01/08/2012 11:47

I agree with penis ds1 is lactose intolerant and we didn't start reintroducing it back into his diet until he was 5.

Even now at 17 he can't tolerate too much.

wannabe are you really saying that having a 6 month old means you don't have the time to read up on something that makes your child ill?

RoseWay · 01/08/2012 11:48

My advice is stop getting stressed out with doctors or you'll explode before your child is one, sit back relax and chase up if needed.

My personal favourite from my GP was when I went to get a calcium supplement for DS (prescribed by consultant) as he's allergic to milk protein. She asked 'can't you just give him cheese?'. I just smiled and said 'well I've also thought of taking him somewhere rocky to lick the rocks, but in the meantime here's the letter from the hospital' (she wasn't offended, totally went past her).

Why get angry, deal with it, move on, it's one of many experiences you'll have with your kid(s).

crashdoll · 01/08/2012 11:52

The OP has not been slated for her parenting nor did she ask for advice. It was simply a rant.

YABU btw. Doctors don't have all day to sit around and make phone calls. It's annoying when you have to wait but not so annoying that you need to call the doctor an idiot.

sparkle12mar08 · 01/08/2012 11:53

I too agree with Penis - OP the information you have been given by the doctor is potentially dangerous and you need to challenge it quickly and effectively, and that means you need to stop being so defensive and do some research yourself. I'm a little surprised that someone wouldn't try to find out every scrap of information they can about the fact that their child's sole source of nutrition makes him severely ill.

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