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AIBU?

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to think this was really rude (and childish)?

91 replies

reluctanttownie · 30/07/2012 15:38

Went to pool for early morning swim. Pool gets very crowded quickly and I (like most others there) have a favourite lane I try to get if possible. I and a few others were first through the doors at opening time. As usual I had bikini on under clothes, but to take advantage of being unusually early I went straight to the pool, left clothes on lounger nearest the steps into the pool and climbed in. I was down the steps, into the pool and halfway accross the pool to the lane I wanted (on other side from steps) when this other woman comes literally running along the edge of the pool flings all her things on the lounger nearest the far lane and dives into that lane. I am in the adjacent lane by the time she lands, a matter of inches away from her, so I stop and look at her in amazement. She looks back at me. She clearly is planning staying there, so to give her a chance to back out politely I say 'Oh, are you taking this lane then?' and she says (very haughtily, and utterly irrelevantly) 'I've been taking this lane for 15 years' (I've never set eyes on her before, but never mind).

By this time I'm fighting the childish temptation to just swim into the lane anyway and fight her for it, but I manage to maintain moral highground by saying casually 'Oh, I was rather hoping for it too, that's why I was in here so early' (I got here first, hint hint) and swimming off gracefully (Wink Hmm) in the lane next to her.

AIBU to think she is a rude ghastly old trout?* First person in water gets first choice of lane, right?

*Extra points for tactical suggestions for next encounter.

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OldGreyWiffleTest · 30/07/2012 15:40

Oh deary me!

LoopyLoopsHasAnAdventure · 30/07/2012 15:41

YABU to care

YABVU to be so ageist

MadamFolly · 30/07/2012 15:41

Hmm, I think she was being childish but so were you for throwing a strop over it. Surely it would have been better just to ignore her and take another lane. It does not really matter in the grand scheme of things does it?

ChaosTrulyReigns · 30/07/2012 15:42

You wear a BIKINI to the swimming pool? Shock

PleaseTakeOffYourJimmyChoos · 30/07/2012 15:42

But while you were in the pool FIRST she was in that specific lane FIRST.
Your fault for being too slow.
Besides what does it matter?

FutTheShuckUp · 30/07/2012 15:43

I think getting there first to get your favourite lane is childish never mind the rest! How do you cope when you have a real problem?

reluctanttownie · 30/07/2012 15:43

Ageist? Confused

Young trout....young trout...nope, doesn't quite have the same ring.

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LRDtheFeministDragon · 30/07/2012 15:43

You have a favourite lane?

WTF?

I wonder what I would say to someone who, when I was in the water, asked me if I were 'taking this lane', especially if they were in the next lane at the time, and not even the same one!

I don't think it'd be as polite as what she said, and it would have included a lot more sniggering.

sugarice · 30/07/2012 15:43

Swimming rage. Grin does it matter what lane you're in?

Dprince · 30/07/2012 15:45

Oh dear, ' preferable lane'. Really?

lifeistooshort · 30/07/2012 15:45

blimey you must have so much time on your hands if your only worry is to get a swimming pool lane

PleaseTakeOffYourJimmyChoos · 30/07/2012 15:47

Thaks for the laugh OP though!I find it amazing that people like you exsist!

Helltotheno · 30/07/2012 15:48

OK as a swimmer, firstly, I have to jealously ask: do you get a full lane to yourself every time you go swimming? If so, lucky you. I consider myself lucky if I'm sharing a lane with two others and even luckier if their swimming is on par with mine.

Secondly, no, the old passive-aggressive hints never work and I personally make sure I always pointedly ignore same. You're better off just giving a piece of your mind and getting on with it.
But if she was in first, what's the prob?

Feminine · 30/07/2012 15:48

This can not be for real Confused

and even if it were,what on earth could be done now?

Are you worried she will be back? Grin

FutTheShuckUp · 30/07/2012 15:49

In fact the more I think about it the more laughable it actually is! Hoity toity woman number one saying 'oh are you taking this lane then' when its clear shes in it and hoity toity lady number two laying claim to it as shes been in that lane for 15 years (wasnt she like a shrivelled up prune?)

Kladdkaka · 30/07/2012 15:49

Sorry, I don't know if you're being unreasonable or not because the whole 'first day of sales' approach to a lane in a swimming pool makes me go Confused.

Pagwatch · 30/07/2012 15:49

Six of one, half a dozen of the other surely.

If i am honest i am not sure she did much other than beat you at your own game iyswim.
If I were you I would look at her behaviour and my behaviour and step back a bit. I think she rather sounds like you in a few years.

Trills · 30/07/2012 15:52

YA very lucky to get a whole lane to yourself, YA both BU to expect to get a specific one.

If you get a whole lane to swim in then the pool is nothing like what I woudl call "crowded"!

reluctanttownie · 30/07/2012 15:52

?? Jeez.

As I said...
I didn't throw a strop.
I DID just take the next lane.
I didn't get up early to get that lane, I happened to be there unusually early because I woke up early.
I don't really care (on the contrary, I was amazed at how much SHE seemed to care, running for the lane!) but I was curious to see whether I was alone in thinking her behaviour was rude.
I was exaggerating significance of incident somewhat for humour. People do that sometimes, you know.

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ahopskipandafurryone · 30/07/2012 15:53

Surely you have to share lanes in the pool no matter how early you are? And if you are lucky enough to get a lane to yourself does it honestly matter which one you get?

Anyway YABU as she got to the lane first.

wannabedomesticgoddess · 30/07/2012 15:54

Think you were both as bad as each other tbh.

Two old trouts in the pool then :o (your words not mine)

MaisyMooCow · 30/07/2012 15:54

Personally I would make it my mission to get there even earlier next week and get in that lane before her. If she says anything your response should be 'I'll be taking this lane for the next fifteen years' Grin

Viviennemary · 30/07/2012 15:55

I'm not au fait with swimming pool etiquette. Don't suppose Debrett's covers it. But she got there first I suppose. And all's fair in love and war.

usualsuspect · 30/07/2012 15:56

YABU to call her an old trout and a bit sad to have a favourite lane.

PenelopePipPop · 30/07/2012 15:56

Ooh gosh have no idea about lane grumbliness. But Chaos am I not allowed to wear a bikini to the swimming pool? Why not?