to be very disappointed with my brother and sister's reaction to DV in the street

[terter]

I went out for lunch with my brother and sister this lunchtime, we were sat outside and midway through it, a man was dragging his girlfriend/partner/wife through the street by her hair whilst shouting abuse at her. I saw it and said we should go over and help her but my brother said "no chance look at the size of him" and my sister agreed with him saying that you'd have to me mad to go and talk to him. I then said we should at least call the police and my brother disagreed saying that it's best no to interfere in other people's lives and my sister then chirped that we don't know the backstory and we don't know what she'd done .

I'm really disappointed and annoyed with them both I quickly finished up and settled the bill and they wanted to go on to another bar for a drink but I went home instead as I'm fuming with them. AIBU?

tilop
"YANBU if it were my brother I'd grab him by the hair and drag him down the street and then see if he still thinks that " you shouldn't interfere in other people's lives". Your sister's views are equally odius."

So you advocate female on male violence. Not really a surprise given your "odius" response.

Boney- You are obviously deliberately being disingenious towards her post

oliup

What part of " if it were my brother I'd grab him by the hair and drag him down the street " am I misunderstanding?

Seems fairly clear to me.

Both of us know that she would almost certainly would not do that and she suggested it to emphasis her PoV.

unless you know tilop personally you know no such thing. You are assuming that she wouldn't.

She may well be using it for emphsis but she could easily have said that she would have argued the point further with her brother.

Also she made no reference to doing the same to the sister, just that the sisters' views where odious.

I would be reluctant to intervene myself, I've seen too many people step in in these situations, and the person stepping in has always been assaulted or given verbal, not only by the violent partner, but also by the victim.

I would have reported it though, in the hopes that should she report it herself, my witness report would strengthen her case.

I've seen people try to stop dv incidents in the past and then seen the woman either verbal or physically attack the person. There's no point trying to do anything these people don't want to be helped.

I've stepped in when I've seen a couple going at it hammer and tongs - and been given a right mouthful - by the woman for my efforts. I left it to the transport police to deal with. (Late night drunks at the train station)