to leave MN since I've been outed in RL?

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Kind of makes the whole anonymous internet forum a bit redundant.

Was hoping to make Mumsnet Royalty with my witty, insightful posts and wise counsel....

MN Royalty is used as an insult more than a compliment TBH.

How were you outed

I agree usual - a term used to suggest cliquey-ness and favouritism.

Definitely not something to aspire to.

Liked your post on page 2 Mrs DVere
I think too that to make posting worthwhile you have to share things

I've posted so much and included so many details of my life in different posts that I'd be intrigued to know if anyone's recognised me.

When people say they've been outed do you mean someone came up to you and started talking with you about things you've posted, and couldn't know about any other way ?

How well known/ identity preserved do you all think most posters are ?
Have you ever recognised anyone in RL ?

If you mention Mumsnet Royalty, you really have to say who you mean.

Oh, and I don't get:

a) why you would want to be Mumsnet Royalty - it's never meant as a compliment, always an insult!
b) why you just can't namechange

Stop stirring

It's easy. Mostly I am me. (well this is my olympic name).

I have 2 other personas I use to post under. 1 I hardly use but is for purposes of things that would out me and the other is for things I don't want people attaching to my normal posting name iyswim?

98% of stuff I post under my usual name. I just only post what I would say in RL. It's more about not hiding behind a name on the screen.

Well if you are saying stuff on here you wouldn't say in RL then why bother posting.

Noone cares anyway, mumsnet royalty must be the saddest and funniest claim to fame ever.

Outing type 1 = someone from your real life recognising you, if they are the subject of your AIBU thread this can be nasty.

Outing type 2 = you are a famous person and someone links your MN name to your real name on here.

They both seem to happen, type 1 more often than type 2.

Hi, I'm back, sorry to post and run but did re-think whether this was a good idea. It's not but to hell with it

It was an Outing type 1 (on the Fridaynight scale above) and it was nasty

I started this thread because I thought that someone could help me from their own experiences - I do want to share details of my life so I can be honest and helpful but am scared of this causing trouble in RL. If I mentioned "a friend" in passing but this got back to them, they might not be best pleased that I was commenting about them on an internet forum.

If I namechange, it just seems like delaying the inevitable - eventually I'll give myself away and be outed again.

So it seems like my only option is to leave MN but I don't want to do that

Yes, overthinking. Leave, dont leave. Only you can decide.

Your resons for not wanting o namechange are silly so struggling to understand the motivation for this thread tbh.

Oh, and of course you can post without getting recognised, ive been here 7 years and have had several rl siyuations that would have sent aibu into meltdown in that time, but. Didnt post about them cos, gee, i would have been recognisable and want to keep my mn privacy. Or else i drastically change some key facts. Its not difficult.

So a real life friend has recognised you on here talking about her or a situation involving her and she's told you about it and been upset by it?

Or has someone else told you they recognise your thread is about other friend?

Either way I would name change if I thought anyone in RL knew my name here, whether I'd talked about them or not - I just like to chat here separately from RL.

Name change and start again is my advice, if you want any particular posters here to know your new name you can always pm them when you next bump into them on a thread.

So have you actually been outed?
I don't understand - surely the damage is already done?

I went back to my original name when it happened to me as I thought it was pretty pointless namechanging as anything I had already written would have been read already and passed about etc - there wasn't much I could do about it by then.

I do now namechange (and change info) I want to talk about anything which may harm me, identify me in a way I don't like, or identify another person.

If you have been outed you have my sympathy - it's shit.

Name change regularly its no big deal. MN royalty is an urban myth. You can be a regular poster without being royalty...and without having the same name. Being referred to as royalty is usually not a good thing anyway. So if you want to leave MN for that reason, YABU and a bit daft! MN is to good to leave because you want to be part of something that doesn't really exist.

Don't post anything you don't want people to know.

If you have a particular problem, namechange for that problem only and never use it again. That way, someone can't link your usual name.

Yes, and 'Royalty' is always an insult. It is always said in a sneery way and used to suggest that a poster is a sad bastard with no life or that anything they say is meaningless and people are just arselicking.

It's really not a nice thing at all.