to think this was unpleasant and unnecesscary

[melonandpapayaandmango]

I took the DCs to the beach this morning: we played and paddled, then had lunch in a small cafe. The seafront is littered with small cafes.

We were in front of the window, and the cafe was one of those where the windows were huge. My DD (5) suddenly squealed, "Mummy, I can see that girl's bottom!" I looked where she was lookingand indeed a woman (presumably child's mother) was holding a girl who's leggings and knickers were round her ankles above a drain to pee in.

I have nipped behind a bush with DS before (DD has always been far too prim ) but I would never have one of them pee in public within spitting distance of toilets!

AIBU?

It's a little bare bottom - fail to see what's so off putting about that?!

In itself it isn't off putting, but no I don't want to see a naked backside, girly bits and wee when I'm eating. Sorry

YABVU and I can't quite believe the fuss.

It's a small child who probably can't wait and the mother is making the best of the situation by using the drain.

What exactly do you think is down a drain??

As for it being 'disgusting'..... It's only a bit of wee going down a drain, it's not all over the pavement. Dogs wee all over the place, you can't do anything about that. So you saw a child's bottom, big deal. Don't children run around naked on the beach any more?

If you're so offended by that, maybe you should just stay at home just in case you see anything else you 'don't want to see'.

I once came out of a pub to find a man peeing behind my car on the wheel. He was well hidden from the street until I jumped in ASAP and pulled away

Wouldn't have bothered me tbh. But can see why it bothers some people.

Actually I suspect your DD's horrified shreiks and annoucement of bottom on view drew more attention than the quietly weeing child did - I suspect most people (including you) may not have noticed otherwise.

Dogs piss everywhere, at least mothers aim their kids' pee down drains. Doesn't bother me at all.

Oh well, I'm clearly made of sterner stuff than you, wouldn't bother me in the slightest, eating or not.

Isn't urine sterile and not worth all this angst?

Were the public toilets open? Not flooded?

I don't see the massive deal. Its just a bum, its just kiddy wee [shrugs]

Naked backsides, girly bits and wee are the wallpaper of my daily life. I probably wouldn't have even noticed.

Ooh, you'd not like me then. DD had a poo on the beach yesterday.

But:
She's 4.
I dug a hole.
I lined it with a carrier bag.
There were no other people who could see or were within 500 yards (we were in the sand dunes).
I tied the bag and put it in dog poo bin.
The nearest toilets were a half hour walk away.
No trace of human poo was left on the beach.

I do think it was retro, haven't seen a drain wee for ages. But it wouldn't bother me, needs must and all that, and I'm never fussed about a childs bum.

I am intrigued by the jet piss method. I am wondering if I could do that. I don't think it would work

Haha, your DD sounds like me! I was a very prim child and used to get all annoyed about being made to wee in public!

If the dd is prim then its clear she gets it from her mum.