to think this was unpleasant and unnecesscary

[melonandpapayaandmango]

I took the DCs to the beach this morning: we played and paddled, then had lunch in a small cafe. The seafront is littered with small cafes.

We were in front of the window, and the cafe was one of those where the windows were huge. My DD (5) suddenly squealed, "Mummy, I can see that girl's bottom!" I looked where she was lookingand indeed a woman (presumably child's mother) was holding a girl who's leggings and knickers were round her ankles above a drain to pee in.

I have nipped behind a bush with DS before (DD has always been far too prim ) but I would never have one of them pee in public within spitting distance of toilets!

AIBU?

I don't see what the problem is, tbh.

I avoid looking out of windows when i am eating, because usually you will see much more unpleasant sights than a child having a wee.

I agree KissMyEmbroideryHoop.

As I said, my DD was horrified and she would be beyond mortified if I ever expected her to do this.

I really dont get these threads at all.
Nothing personal melon because they are quite regular.

Do you think it is a less common sight these days because kids are in nappies for longer?

No one would have bat an eyelid when I was a kid and when my older ones were little.

Sounds like the mother in the OP was trying her best - she was hanging her over a drain.

It wouldnt bother me a bit if I saw a small child having a pee. I would assume they couldnt wait.

Meh, it's only wee.
Last weekend at beach a naked wandering toddler poo'd & poor embarrassed mum was cleaning up after it like a dog. Shit happens... er, literally!

*Still glad those days are behind me

It's an interesting one, OhDo. Perhaps it's partly because children are in nappies for longer, but I don't know.

Don'tEat - yes, to be fair if I'd seen that I would probably have laughed (not in a nasty way of course) as it does happen but actually instigating it when toilets are near - I don't know, I wouldn't.

but I have a prudish child!

It's completely fine for little ones, as long as you try and be descrete. Dd 5 (asd] went in a bush yesterday, big open park no loos at all. Ites either that or we walk 15 mins home disrupting her play and risk her wetting herself. After all what's the difference between dogs wee and child wee

I once saw a child of about 5 years old in an outdoor pedestrian area call to her mother that she needed a wee. Her mum "on way into Top Shop" called over her shoulder "you know what to do".

Child then pulled pants down, dress up, and bent forward so her hands and feet were both planted on the floor with her body making a U shape. Bottom to the breeze, she then peed all over the ground. The effect of the positioning was that the wee flew backward in a neat jet rather than dribbling down her legs. She has clearly been taught to do this, as no child would naturally hit upon this method.

I was agog. 1) the kid was old enough to hold a wee for a couple of minutes and 2) there were toilets in the shopping centre over the road within 1 minute's walk.

At a secondary school I taught in, a mother weed in the shrubs by the front door before coming in for an appointment.

Errrr iago I would have asked to use your loo

It really wouldn't bother me seeing a small child peeing into a drain.

Peppin I should teach dd that . But if there are loos nearby we use them. If there are none I find somewhere descrete for her. Of curse I make her use the toilet before we g out, but if it's a hot or warm day I cannot stop her drinking

some gd stuff. i think its the lack of privacy thats the issue, u neva kno wot pervert is at a busy seaside resort do u? also i agree with the poster who sed its givin the kid the wrong idea, u cant just wee anywhere wen ur older can u?? .plus i agree i wudnt wna see it wen i was eatin...but then i am really 'cekky' wen eatin, (a Welsh term, means easily put off, for those of u who r not welsh lol)

I was at traffic lights the other day, ones with the East European bucket-and-chamois mob - the woman hoiked up her skirts and peed in the gutter, right on the crossing. A sight to behold

perverts? at he seaside? Oh-mi-gosh!

i'm in the 'it's just a wee and a childs bum' camp - no harm done

My 7 year old has a bladder problem and when she needs to go she has to go right then or wets herself. Normally I can plan around toilets stops but we have had to do emergency street wee's. Having people stopping and tutting is very embarrassing for both dd and myself

I think it's quite considerate for her to have ensured it went into the drain! It doesn't bother me a bit with small children.

I'd think the child could not wait another second...and that happens with toddlers a lot!!
Yabu.

Small children generally don't give a fig about privacy - they love the world and assume that the world loves them, so the world isn't going to care if they wee into a drain.

Some small children and not so small cannot hold on until they reach the nearest loo, it's just the way they are.

And if we were to live our lives looking out for perverts, we'd never leave the house!

YABU who cares, it's a small child, pee goes in drain, exactly how offensive could a child's bottom be?

As for dignity, there was a small girl in the park the other day whose parents were over the other side out of view, she dropped kecks for a pee in full view of the whole place. It was actually pretty funny watching her trying to work out how to do it without getting her leggings wet. She was sticking bum out, bits forward in odd ways, worked it out in the end though .

YABU if it was a young child. DS (nearly 3) is potty training and on a two hour journey across town the other day by various forms of transport he had 2 or 3 wees at the side of a road. We were nowhere near public loos and we are all still learning how long he can or can't hold it for. They don't give a toss a dignity but I do tend to shield him with my body from general viewing where I can. Very at the "perverts at the beach" comment. I mean, really? Poo is unfortunate but not always anticipated and so long as its picked up, meh!

YANBU. I was sitting in the car in the supermarket carpark the other day, while DP and DS went in. The people in the car next to ours let their little girl have a wee between the two cars which DS would have trodden in to get in.

I have to say, I'd be seriously concerned at the pervi-ness of a pervert who liked watching a child poo! Yuck!

DD2 frequently can't hold it on the way home from preschool so we do the drain thing, for pees. She's 4 FGS.

When she moves to school, I will encourage peeing before leaving school whch worked well with DD1.

There are better things to worry about.

(I did let DD poo in a potty once and lobbed it into bushes in the lay-by a long way from any houses) as we were mega low on petrol and lost and I just needed to concentrate on getting to a station without DD writhing in pre-poo agony)

YABU.

Its a childs bum and some wee, dogs wee on the street and we don't all stop and tut at that! child wee isn't any worse than dog wee. As for the naked bum it's just that a childs bare bum, when did that become unpleasant?

I would let my child wee in the street rather than go into a grubby public loo, here in Sweden it is compleatly normal to let children wee on the street.