to not have much sympathy for Anthea Turner.

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So Grant Bovey has apparently done the dirty and she's kicked him out. On the one hand, I feel sorry for any person whose relationship is in tatters for any reason, particularly infidelity as it tears you apart.

My first husband cheated on me with my closest friend (her DH was also ex H closest 'friend'. It was absolutely the worst time of my life, I was devastated to think that the two people I loved and trusted so much would do this and it took me a long time to get over it. I felt stupid, humuliated and above all empty and I thought I would never be happy again. They went ahead to marry and 8 years later they divorced because she had an affair, I found it hard to care at all.

I think I am normally quite a nice person so I don't enjoy others' misery but I am finding it hard to sympathise with Anthea given what their history together is. I'm being horrible aren't I? I suspect I am.

Sorry don't know her history.
However when someone cheats on their spouse, surely they are the one betraying the commitment and loyalty. Not OW/OM.You don't know what fake sorry tale has been sold to the OW/OM.
Not condoning the OW/OM but lets reserve our harshest fealings and comments for the spineless spouses who break the marriage vows

as we are quoting.

" a leopard can't change his spots"

um

"what goes around come around"

I have no sympathy either. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

What made her think he wouldn't cheat on her????

Yes, YABU - none of us know what goes on behind closed doors and the poor woman has faced years of judging over her affair and the whole "snowflake" incident. She deserves to be able to deal with this in private.

dont wash your dirty linen in public

Going against the grain here but I feel sorry for her and thinks it's really harsh to say she deserves it, karma coming around etc. There's a world of difference between doing a bad thing and being a bad person and whatever the ins and outs of their relationship and break up, I think it's unnecessary for anyone to take pleasure in it. I understand what it's like to be cheated on as do many of the posters here and I'm certainly no particular fan of anthea turner either but I just think it's sad when any relationship breaks down.

AT shoved being a perfect wife in our faces, she made this all public, even sold her wedding pictures.

No sympathy at all.

Whenever I see Anthea Turner mentioned I think of her great weakness, the Cadbury's Snowflake. God, I loved those - I think she should issue a special re-release to mark the occasion.

Nope, no sympathy here. What goes around etc..

All this enjoyment of someone else's pain is horrible. Relationships are much, much more complicated than people 'owning' each other and 'stealing' other people's partners. People fall in and out of love and lust for so many different reasons.

Anyone who gets any joy from this needs to take a good hard look at themselves. Horrible.

Yes people do fall in and out of love for different reasons , however to have an affair with a man knowing he's married , especially with children, is just plain wrong , so that's why I for one have no sympathy for AT, she deserves him to cheat on her too !

Ooh ooh I've got one...

"if you marry a man who cheats on his wife..... You've married a man who cheats on his wife"

I feel bad for any woman who a man has treated like shit.

'Cast ne'er a clout til May be out'. If only she'd lived by those all important words. Probably.

I feel for her. But he was hardly a good bet to start with. If he'll do it with you, he'll do it to you.

I cannot stand Anthea Turner...but I do feel quite sorry for her right now. And quite surprised at myself for it.

They've been together for years and years now and I do think she genuinely loved him.

At the time of the affair she was painted very badly, perhaps she deserved it for the hurt she helped to cause, but mostly I think it was because her career was based very much on being a good, golden girl and the press like nothing better than to rip a false image apart when the chance to do so is handed to them on a plate. If you'd asked me then I don't think I would have believed I would feel sorry for her, but I do, because I think she did and perhaps does still love him very much.

The end of a long marriage can't be easy, no matter how it began.

No, because above all else she is a massive smug twat. Her twattery knows no bounds. She probably has sex with white gloves on to avoid 'penis germs'.
That is all.

errmm -- wasn't his first wife AT's friend? So, not a lot of sympathy for someone who can do that, but can't say I'm gloating either. Meh.
Although she might have seen it coming -- spots, leopards.

They both came to a do I was working at many years ago (12ish!).

He was just plain creepy (the sort that made the hairs on the back of my neck itch)

She was odd - professional and smiley, but totally blank eyes, no expression in them at all.

They held hands or touched the whole time but not in a 'real' way if you see what I mean.

Just remembering it makes me shudder.

Sorry was meant to be 12ish? years

No sympathy from me I'm afraid. She had an affair with a married man with young children. So now it's been done to her.

I shall chuck in a 'you reap what you sow' cliché then.

Whilst I don't wish her ill, karma has bitten her on the arse and it's her own fault.

Her book was the biggest load of shite i,ve ever read, although that doesnt mean that her husbsnd should be caught at it.

I think theyre both nobheads tbh and now there is a nobhead on the market (turner) ... Prhaps she will go back to bruno brooks who,s real name is kevin i think

garbled and making no sense but i was up early and am poooped

What he does withyou, he'll do to you.