To hate having to nag my husband out of bed every morning?

[MrsHelsBels74]

That's it really. Husband is working hard trying to sort the house out so is coming to bed late. But every morning I have to nag & nag him to get him up...at least 15 minutes & can be up to an hour at weekends. On the days I work I get up at 6:30 to get myself sorted & it's his job to get our son up. We never leave on time because he 'can't' get up.

AIBU to think he's a grown man & ought to be able to get himself up?

You definetly need a snagging list. Write down every DOY job that needs doing, highlight all the essential pre-baby jobs on there and ask him.if he is able to complete them in one month.

At the end of that month hire in a Man to finish the list.

How you have kept your patience in a house in this state with a toddler and pg woth a second is beyond me.

Is he this incapable at his job?

Cinnabar, you are clearly an intelligent and educated woman.

What the HELL are you doing?

His biggest problem is clearly "working hard trying to sort the house out" and an unsympathetic wife. Maybe he should quit the DIY.

Imperial

Sounds to me like she has the best of the deal. She is an early bird and irons a shirt and runs a bath. He cooks dinner, sorts the kids out and then runs HER bath! I know which end of the day I would prefer it! Based on her first post..WTF?! After reading her second....I want one of those!

cog

Maybe he should quit the skiving and actually get on with it. Working hard doesnt mean feeding the cats and then 3 hours getting mummy to make you cups of tea, it means actually getting on with it.

This thread reminds me alot of the H of another Mner whos idea of running a business is to spend lots of money renting an office and then spending all day on FB. Doing the house up was a nice idea but then he got bored...

We're both happy with our deal. And we love and respect each other. What's not to like (other than only getting 10 mins to get ready in the morning)?

Cinna start his bath 15 minutes earlier and take the lock off the door

Speaking from experience, no one moves faster than when someone else "REAAAAAAALLLLLY needs a poo" :o

cog

I don't mean to be unsympathetic I'm just incredibly worn down & all out of patience.

My partner is like that as well. I just leave him, but then I don't have a child to think about so maybe it's different.

I just leave him. You're lucky it only takes 15 minutes to get him out of bed, I've seen my partner take 2 hours. And yes, he's been 2 hours late to work in the past. Ridiculous.

I'd advise lower standards in the house, if it's not clean, no one dies.

My last boyfriend was the same, yellow, he was 43 and on a warning at work for his 'timekeeping' issues. Fortunately we had no children together so it wasnt my problem. It became a deal breaker in the end, amongst other things.

My partner has the kind of job where people do just turn up at various times throughout the morning, but 2 hours is pushing it and he's had a few comments and talkings to.

He isn't even meant to be in til 10! He lies in every single morning til at least 9 FFS. It really pisses me off, I just find it lazy and spoilt.

I think you've got together with the same guy Yellow! He was on flexi time, latest start was 10am, still struggled to get in for that time, had a couple of warnings. Don't get me started...