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64 replies

Justme23 · 26/07/2012 17:01

Im sure most people have been in this situation but for the love of god, I can't hold my tongue any longer.

Due to cuts my lovely separate office has been removed and our offices are now open plan, part of this is fab, I get to spend lots of my office based work with a side of conversation but with that comes *judy.

Judy is for the most part a sweetheart. Judy is in a very dramatic relationship with a total turnip. Judys boyfriend told her she is fat (well she kind of is :$) and now she is on this diet.

Only she isn't on a diet, unless her diet allows for two family packs of galaxy minstrels a day, a HUGE jacket potato and whole tub of cream cheese ( because apparently cottage cheese and cream cheese are the same thing) a large bag of crisps and usually something from gregs.

Now we are a supportive bunch, most of us are on some kind of diet, I can't remember the last time I ate a take away, so we offer tips and encouragement.

We get an update every morning of how much she's lost/gained, tears and frustration (sigh) and endless "why haven't I lost anything, oh I'm trying so hard, so hungry, practically starving"

Well today I brought in a bit of last nights casserole and a honey yoghurt. I microwaved it and basically got a dressing down from judy because " it is so hard for her to diet when people around me are SO unsupportive"

I'm fuming now. I have spent hours listening to her moan and whine, I've lended her book

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Justme23 · 26/07/2012 17:05

After book after DVD to help.
What more does she want from me?

Next time she over dramatically Pleads to god for an answer as to why she's still a size 18 to 20 would it be unreasonable just to say its probably because she eats more in her lunch hour than the rest of us do ALL day... !

I'm a terrible person.

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degutastic · 26/07/2012 17:06

YABU to have "lended" her something Grin but she sounds like a numpty!

QuestionTime · 26/07/2012 17:07

Yanbu. Would drive me mad too!!

Iggly · 26/07/2012 17:08

When she cracks open the fifth chocolate bar, ask her innocently if the diet is off.

buggyRunner · 26/07/2012 17:08

Tell her- if shes inflicting her diet on you - then you have a right to comment IMHO!

cocolepew · 26/07/2012 17:09

Oh god you have my sympathy, I get this in work. They go to WW, count all their bloody points, then go home and down a bottle of wine and a family pack of nuts.

JumpingThroughHoops · 26/07/2012 17:09

People on diets do nothing but talk about food; it is their obsession, they feel everyone else must feel their pain.

I work with people like this too.

I could tell you all about the Ducan , the Atkins, the Cabbage, the syns etc etc and I've never been on a diet in my life.

RubyRosie · 26/07/2012 17:10

She called you unsuppoetive because you microwaved some casserole to have a hot lunch? She sounds like a loon.

Justme23 · 26/07/2012 17:11

Degutastic for some resin my iphone won't let me say l e n t?

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Tee2072 · 26/07/2012 17:12

Tell her why, next time she asks. 'Because you eat enough fat in one sitting to last you an entire week. You're not dieting, at all. Are you exercising? Didn't think so.'

waterwatereverywhere · 26/07/2012 17:14

Tell her you're on some fab new diet where you can eat as much as you want as often as you want. Tell her you've lost 3 stone in the 3 weeks you've been on it. Wink

Now THAT's unsupportive Grin

ChaoticismyLife · 26/07/2012 17:15

It won't let you say reason either Grin

YANBU

degutastic · 26/07/2012 17:17

lol, justme23, autocorrect doesn't like you today - resin Grin

btw, waterwater's suggestion is awesome Wink

PomBearWithAnOFRS · 26/07/2012 17:18

You can either turn to her and say "look you stupid mare, you are fat because every time you open your mouth you stuff food in it." or you can smile sweetly, and put up with her angst and drama. If she complains about what you are eating tell her it's tofu and lentils or tell her that you're sorry but it's not you that needs to lose X stone to keep a turnip happy. Just decide if you want the peace or the angst...

Sausagedog27 · 26/07/2012 17:26

Can you be all passive aggressive and comment every time she eats a bag if minstrels 'tut tut tut, you won't lose weight eating those' 'oooooh, your not having a good day today then eating those' 'I can only manage to eat salad at lunch- I don't know how you can fit all that potato/cheese in' 'I read in the paper that those foods are really bad' etc etc!

Justme23 · 26/07/2012 17:31

Heehee I know, it really doesn't. It's probably just counting down the seconds till I can open a bottle of red.

The problem is she is so likeable 50 percent of the time. But it's driving me up the wall. Last time I dieted I lost two stone just by eats less and doing more, I've told her to join a gym, her boyfriend is a bit of a gym case so who better to ask, bless him, she really backed him into a corner with the " so you think I'm fat"...

You would think we would be used to loons, working in mental health and all :)

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ThymeLord · 26/07/2012 17:33

Arf at "lose X stone to keep a turnip happy" Grin

ThymeLord · 26/07/2012 17:35

If it was me (and i'm possibly not the most patient person in the world Grin) then I would come out with the truth the next time she mentioned it.

JumpingThroughHoops · 26/07/2012 17:35

How about - "I didn't know they made calorie free minstrels now"

bushymcbush · 26/07/2012 17:36

The correct word is loaned.

I'll shuffle back to pedant's corner.

Oh, and Yanbu.

Lonelylou · 26/07/2012 17:44

Is she keeping a food diary? By the sound of it it would need to be heavy with a lot of pages. but the excercise of carrying it round should kill a few calories Grin

Justme23 · 26/07/2012 18:19

Those are good, I might try the zero calorie minstrel one.

The most laughable part is that she is secretary for an OT specialising in eating disorders.

It's either that or I break my no takeaways rule and order the biggest fattest dominos and see what she does :D

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ViviPru · 26/07/2012 18:23

What more does she want from me?

Point her in the direction of MyFitnessPal. It's the only way she'll realise "why haven't I lost anything" when she is "trying so hard".

YANBU OP. Sounds like a frikkin nightmare.

TheLaineyWayIsEssex · 26/07/2012 18:28

bushy would that be pedant's corner Wink

TheLaineyWayIsEssex · 26/07/2012 18:28

Blush i deserve that, i meant to type pedants'. Fail fail fail

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