If I say something...

[Justme23]

Im sure most people have been in this situation but for the love of god, I can't hold my tongue any longer.

Due to cuts my lovely separate office has been removed and our offices are now open plan, part of this is fab, I get to spend lots of my office based work with a side of conversation but with that comes *judy.

Judy is for the most part a sweetheart. Judy is in a very dramatic relationship with a total turnip. Judys boyfriend told her she is fat (well she kind of is :$) and now she is on this diet.

Only she isn't on a diet, unless her diet allows for two family packs of galaxy minstrels a day, a HUGE jacket potato and whole tub of cream cheese ( because apparently cottage cheese and cream cheese are the same thing) a large bag of crisps and usually something from gregs.

Now we are a supportive bunch, most of us are on some kind of diet, I can't remember the last time I ate a take away, so we offer tips and encouragement.

We get an update every morning of how much she's lost/gained, tears and frustration (sigh) and endless "why haven't I lost anything, oh I'm trying so hard, so hungry, practically starving"

Well today I brought in a bit of last nights casserole and a honey yoghurt. I microwaved it and basically got a dressing down from judy because " it is so hard for her to diet when people around me are SO unsupportive"

I'm fuming now. I have spent hours listening to her moan and whine, I've lended her book

I have worked with worked with a few of these

I usually ask how the diet is going while staring at the biscuit/ crisps/ 1kg dairy milk. I keep staring at it, then at them and back to the offending item.

This is hilarious

You could be really, really evil and point out the really funny thread you found on Mumsnet about whinging dieters................... and hope no-one recognises you?

OP you should point her in the direction of some 'special' diets pills one of my colleagues once ordered off t'internet. Apparently if you took one every day while eating a low carb, low fat, high protein diet and doing plenty of exercise they helped you lose weight. Now call me cynical but I don't think it would be the pills which helped with weight loss in the scenario

Didn't work of course, because a family size bag of Doritos as a 'snack' doesn't count. I was doing low GI at the time for GD and kept trying to helpfully point out that my diet was sensible and easy but no, the pills are the key.

You could start a food diary for her with the Greggs food in it!

You're much better than me, I'm unfortunately blessed with being completely tactless and not noticing things, am also not too good at letting go of an argument so I would have loved the cream cheese is the same as cottage cheese discussion.

I would insist she joins MFP, you or one of the girls could be 'supportive' and join it with her then you can make comments like:

'Judy, you haven't added those minstrels in and omg it says you've had how many calories today?'

Oh I feel so mean! BUT releasing on this thread is doing wonders, I'm back in the office now and every time she sighs and says " oh sigh, I'm so hungry sigh " I keep thinking of what some of you have said and grinning. She's commented on how happy I am today :D

Don't even start on the pills though, we had a whole eBay hour over those until one of our OTs poked her head round the door and snapped " do you want to lose weight or DIE"!! And tutted!

I have just dropped into a conversation that a * friend didn't realise the calories for a whole bag of minstrels isn't what is displayed on the bag, she's furiously googling.

I actually LOL'd at the image of a hungry woman googling minstrels!

Tell her she needs to drink 3-4 litres a day, so bring in a 2 litre bottle of water or whatever and finish it twice. Will shut her up and give you lots of little loo breaks of peace.

at a manic eyed googling minstrels scoffer!

You could always pull her aside and tell her you are concerned about her. She sounds really unhappy.....driving a mile away to eat is not normal behaviour.

Every time she eats the minstrels or whatever turn to her and say " You won't lose weight if you eat those" if she starts moaning then say " But you asked me to be supportive of your diet that's what I am trying to do".

Or the nicer solution is to completely ignore every comment she makes about her food or her diet and hopefully she will go off and talk to someone else about it.

However I wouldn't stand for comments about my own lunch. Next time that happens I would feel obliged to say something like " Judy this is my lunch which I have been looking forward to eating. It's nothing to do with you or your diet so why don't you move away and let me enjoy it"

If it keeps on happening I would discuss her with your manager. Really we all know that losing weight is hard, but from my experience the best way to do it is to just quietly get on with it. You could suggest she joins weight watchers if she wants some more guidance on how to follow a plan.

She sounds rude and boring. Don't pander to it.

I was offered some sweets relatively recently by a professional middle aged colleague (who's not normally a moron) and he was boasting about how low calorie they were. I read the packet and we discovered that Rowntrees were talking about a quarter of that packet, rather than the sweet shop "quarter" that he was thinking of.

Surely if she comments about your lunch again, you could just say "Oh well, it's a lot less fattening than Greggs!" and give her a knowing smile.