to complain to my neighbours?

[yellowraincoat]

My neighbours' kitchen is directly above my bedroom. I get up at around 6.30 or 7 depending on the day. They get up earlier, at about 6 or 6.15. They have two young babies who they feed in the kitchen, meaning it is very noisy, wailing, cajoling, singing etc.

They are noisy pretty much all the time, which is probably why this frustrates me so much, but I am also losing up to an hour of sleep every night because of this. I don't know how they can't realise it's annoying! They have a large house with 2 floors above us and we are in the basement, so it's not like they don't have plenty of other places where they could go.

I have tried wearing ear plugs, but I find it really hard to sleep with them in because I hate not being able to hear. It makes me feel really anxious (we were broken into a year ago while I was in the house and had ear plugs in).

Would I be unreasonable to put a note upstairs or have a word or should I just put up with it? I'm only living here for another 6 weeks anyway so I don't care too much about neighbourly relations at this point!

Can you move your bedroom to another room in the flat?

I'm a bit hmmn but having experienced it myself I know where you're coming from. I lived in a semi with thin walls next to a family with 3 children, and the noise they made coming down the stairs to get up in the morning and at family breakast had to be heard to be believed. They would race up and down those bloody stairs, scream and shriek about it, thump, crash, bang.

I didn't complain. I should have done, but they were the sort of people who existed in a vaccuum and considered the fact they had produced multiple children so miraculous, everyone else should stop their lives in wonder. They also hated the neighbour's cat and complained constantly about it.

But what really got me is that they complained about the noise of DH using a tile cutter in our bathroom on the other side of the house after 7pm at night. It must have been very faint, and only happened twice, but no, they complained about it.

So on the basis that they think the world revolves around them, and for the sake of educating them that it doesn't, I think I would complain. In fact, I'd bring a recording of the cacaphony with me and play it full blast to them when you go to complain.

My poor neighbours. DS gets up all through the night shouting at full volume and is at full volume all day. I can't do anything about it and I try really hard and apologise often.

He also throws all manner of stuff on their garden and I find it lined up on the fence the next day. Poor things.

They are lovely about it.

I think it's something you have to suck up I'm afraid. Maybe you'll get used to it and learn to sleep through it.

Dozy, maybe the problem is that they never apologise or consider that I'm sleeping. Last weekend they were in the garden (at the back of my house) til 1 or 2 in the morning. I wouldn't mind if it was sometimes, I have parties too, but it is at least twice a month and then there is noise through the day too.

Raspberry, I'm not a state school teacher, so I am still at work, hence the getting up at 6.30/7.

I hope you are moving to a detached house or at least a top floor flat. We have young neighbors (early 20's not toddlers) and they often have a party at the weekend. I sometimes work on a saturday so I will ask them to be quiet and they do, but if I'm just at home with nothing to do the day after I don't want to spoil their fun. I am sure my baby will make much more noise then they do once he is born.

geegee, there's nowhere to move. Since they have an open plan room, there's noise everywhere really.

You're right though, people like that don't learn. It amazes me that some people seem to think that there's nothing you can do about the noise of kids. They could have carpets (not in the kitchen obviously), they could move inside the house after midnight if they're having a party, they could keep the windows closed til a decent hour and not have them open at 6AM. Even at the weekend, they're up at 7.30 with the windows open, shouting at each other.

Bah. I know I probably won't do anything, I just wanted to moan a bit. I would have a hell of a lot more patience if they would just come down and say they know they make a lot of noise and they're sorry.

Tbf maybe my neighbours don't moan because they hear me telling DS to be quiet/ see that windows are closed/ know that DS is disabled.