to complain to my neighbours?

[yellowraincoat]

My neighbours' kitchen is directly above my bedroom. I get up at around 6.30 or 7 depending on the day. They get up earlier, at about 6 or 6.15. They have two young babies who they feed in the kitchen, meaning it is very noisy, wailing, cajoling, singing etc.

They are noisy pretty much all the time, which is probably why this frustrates me so much, but I am also losing up to an hour of sleep every night because of this. I don't know how they can't realise it's annoying! They have a large house with 2 floors above us and we are in the basement, so it's not like they don't have plenty of other places where they could go.

I have tried wearing ear plugs, but I find it really hard to sleep with them in because I hate not being able to hear. It makes me feel really anxious (we were broken into a year ago while I was in the house and had ear plugs in).

Would I be unreasonable to put a note upstairs or have a word or should I just put up with it? I'm only living here for another 6 weeks anyway so I don't care too much about neighbourly relations at this point!

The baby noise is something you can't do much about, but the noisy kitchen clattering I'd be tempted to have a word about if it wasn't for the fact you're leaving anyway. I think people sometimes don't realise how noisy rattling round in a kitchen can be!

I lived in a flat where there was a kitchen on the other side of the wall from my bedroom, and they had a habit of doing the washing up at 2am occasionally - but it would be accompanied by so much slamming of cupboard doors and clattering of cutlery, it was like they were trying to re-create the Morecambe and Wise 'breakfast' sketch.

So I can understand why that kind of noise can drive you mad - and I still wonder why they only ever did it in the middle of the night!

Having children isn't an excuse to be inconsiderate, but I do feel OP has added symptoms and drip fed just a little to suit the thread direction.

First post stated specifically it was the 6am ish starts. It was only later when the majority said YABU that the thumping music and parties til 2am made an appearance

I'd be more pissed off with being kept awake until 2am than by being awoken at 6am - and if I was being kept awake til 2am AND THEN being woken at 6am and all by the same neighbours - then I would most definitely have said YANBU.

I thought you had a baby too op. Nevertheless, I think neighbours (with children or not) could be considerate of one another especially at 6am. I'd have a friendly word.

blimey...parties til 2am AND blending baby food at 6am!

it's six weeks, suck it up and make sure your next house is detached and soundproofed.

ANd btw do not imagine moving to the countryside for peace and quiet, I have had the shittest night's sleep due to the heat and the neighbouring field of cows.

Im in suburbia and get woken by a cockerel every morning. WIBU to ask my neighbour to stop his cock waking me up in the morning?

and the wood pigeons !! AARRGGHH!!

Thanks money is tight this week ...and it low-carb

Don't get me started on pigeons, I have 3 that visit. One has one leg and hops, well I ay hop, it sort of forgets it has a leg missing and falls over. One has half its head missing and the other has a nervous twitch when it swallows. Motley bunch. Wouldnt want any of them in a pie.

Internal noise drives me nuts as it's so intrusive, so you do have my sympathy on that OP.

The problem is that there's very little you can do about noise from very young children. They are just noisy by default and there's pretty much nothing you can do to change that. The other things could be addressed though (singing, crashing around, music etc) and if you were to complain these would be the things I would focus on.

Since you are leaving in 6 weeks I would just let it slide. Hope your new place is more peaceful!

Wow, some of you are being a bit...

When I said I don't care about neighbourly relations, I didn't mean that I was going round all guns blazing. I just meant that I don't mind if they take the hump.

I did say in my OP that there were other noise issues so I'm not just ramping things up because some thought I was being U. Yes, they have parties til 2, normally at the weekend, I guess one of them stays up while the other goes to bed.

Babylon, I haven't drip fed AT ALL. I said there were other issues with noise. Sorry if I didn't go into specifics, my OP was already quite long.

Could you swap your bedroom and living room around and sleep in a different part of the flat?

"I guess one of them stays up while the other goes to bed."

imnotmymum - why the confused face? I can hear everything that goes on upstairs. I know what they're doing pretty much all the time.

martha - tried that, I can still hear them, it's open plan.

To all that asked, no, I don't have kids, but I am a teacher, so I'm not totally inexperienced in the ways of noise.

I suppose it frustrates me because I always try to be quiet but maybe I am being unreasonable. I wish they'd sometimes think that they are bothering me, but I guess I'll just start getting up a bit earlier.

I wouldn't do anything either. I can sympathise though. My last upstairs neighbours had a baby and it was a nightmare when she was in the baby walker. They had wooden flooring with no underlay and we heard everything. We phoned the noise pollution place but there was nothing we could do. We even got someone our to see about soundproofing the ceiling but they said that as it was the floorboards that was the problem it most likely wouldn't work.

Just if they making that much noise how could anyone kids, partners whatever sleep. Why would you have a party in your house and one goes to bed ??

I think YABU, you are lucky your bedroom isn't below their bedroom or you could have screaming through the night.

Breakfast is probably already a stressful part of the day for them without the added worry of you downstairs loosing a little sleep.

Jumping, you sound em... interesting, not the sort that I would want in my life.

OP I would hate for whatever reason to have neighbours being so inconsiderate so early.

When my kids were young, I gave them a bottle first thing, breakfast at 8, and batch blended after 9.

I do think it's inconsiderate to have wooden floors in shared buildings actually.

I thought we established jumping not being serious ... and she opening a pigeon sanctuary