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AIBU?

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Original poster

For paying DH (to be) £20 to monopolise his bath!

33 replies

BrevilleTron · 25/07/2012 22:46

Was planning on seeing DH2b tonight after a long shift building cars. He txt me to say 'going out with a mate whose long term girlfriend has just walked out- let me know when you are in the area'

AIBU to have thought..
Ok your mate needs you a bit more than I do tonight so here's £20 to have a drink with him. Didn't think it would be nice of DH2b to have to cut short the drink( presumably whilst said mate is pouring heart out) to say 'I'm off gotta see t'wife"

I am now luxuriating in his bath, MN'ing in peace with bowl of delish pasta.

People at work have said I'm a mug and 'ooh wait til you've been married awhile'

He had his mates before we met. So did I
We intend to keep them!

So AIBU?

OP posts:
WithoutCaution · 25/07/2012 22:48

Nope. Enjoy your bath Smile

OldLadyKnowsNothing · 25/07/2012 22:48

Yanbu, and very thoughtful. Enjoy the wallow!

BambieO · 25/07/2012 22:48

Nope NBU although I wouldn't have paid I would have just jumped in anyway Grin

BoysBoysBoysAndMe · 25/07/2012 22:50

Eeeww-eating pasta in the bath?!?

However, you sound like a lovely considerate wife to be otherwise.

Yanbu.

Original poster
BrevilleTron · 25/07/2012 22:50

I normally don't pay but he hasn't been paid yet and I get paid weekly

His bath is SO much better than mine Envy

OP posts:
SoleSource · 25/07/2012 22:51

I love a good soak. Do you have a big bath?

Original poster
BrevilleTron · 25/07/2012 22:51

Disclaimer. First time I have ever eaten in bath!
No pasta shells floating yet!

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FredFredGeorge · 25/07/2012 22:52

YMBU - if he was really wanting an excuse to get away from his really dull and depressing mate who he felt he had to offer some succour too but didn't really want to waste the evening.

But he should've told you or just man up and tell it straight to his mate. but YANBU to enjoy the bath - not sure how you saved him 20 quid though, he's probably drinking twice as much and buying his mate them...

Original poster
BrevilleTron · 25/07/2012 22:52

His bath is Victorian and huuuge!
Mine takes a calendar month to fill up and my hot water appears to be powered by an asthmatic hamster

OP posts:
BambieO · 25/07/2012 22:53

Always the way! Somehow they are just better when not run for yourself. I love sneaking in DH's bath I am a terrible selfish wife and proud

Original poster
BrevilleTron · 25/07/2012 22:55

It's a mutual mate and it was done by txt so I think if he wanted to he could get out of it. The guy is one of our ushers at the wedding so I want to make it better for him as he is lovely. DH2b doesn't go out much so I'm quite glad to see he is out with mates. I dropped off the cash to the pub and told them both to have a drink on me.

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NorksAreMessy · 25/07/2012 23:02

That was a very kind and thoughtful gesture.

Don't listen to the grumpy soothsayers. We have been married 24 years and still do that sort of stuff. It makes us happy.

I have just moved into a house with a double ended bath that makes me very happy. On Sunday I had TWO baths, one for cleansing and one for wallowing. Bliss

BewitchedBotheredandBewildered · 25/07/2012 23:06

Sounds like win/win all round. And you sound gorgeous, that's how it should be.

Original poster
BrevilleTron · 25/07/2012 23:11

Wow first AIBU and quite impressed!! Did think people at work were being a bit mean. I love the guy partly because of the way he treats people
Thanks wise MNers.
I am now a delicate shade of lobster and smelling of some weird pomegranate raspberry cranberry concoction. Not sure what it was I found it in the back of the cupboard and wanged it in.

Nice.

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JeezyPeeps · 25/07/2012 23:49

Does he know you had his mates before you met?

;)

Seriously though, sounds like the perfect excuse for a soak in the bath. You'll have plenty of chances to spend the night together, but his mate needs the support now.

Enjoy!

whois · 25/07/2012 23:50

Win win. YANBU. You both need friends as well as each other so you def did the right thing.

Original poster
BrevilleTron · 25/07/2012 23:51

Ha ha should have previewed that one.
Ahem
He has his own mates ( none of which I would touch with a barge pole) and I have mine ( ditto)

That has made me Grin

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MammaTJ · 25/07/2012 23:57

You sound Luffly!!! Imagine if you had taken the opposite veiw and had posted

My DH2B text me to say 'going out with a mate whose long term girlfriend has just walked out- let me know when you are in the area'. Well I was meant to be spending the night with him, so we had an almighty row about it!! Now the wedding is off!!

May you have a long and happy life together.

BagofHolly · 26/07/2012 00:00

Leave the bastard! It will get worse!

Grin

You sound like a top girlfriend. X

bogeyface · 26/07/2012 00:06

Am I the only one who doesnt really care about the original Q but wants to know whether the OP will be living in nice bath house after the wedding, or crap bath house? :o

twofurryones · 26/07/2012 04:15

No Bogey I am also quite concerned about that Grin

JumpingThroughHoops · 26/07/2012 06:09

I'd put money on your marriage lasting; you are able to keep your separate identities, acknowledge that you don't have to live in each others pockets, you know others needs will temporarily come above yours, whilst secure in knowing that you are the most important thing to each other.

Kelbells · 26/07/2012 06:38

Ah! You sound like a lovely, considerate wife to be Grin I hope you had a luxury soakathon last night and some appreciation when the dh2b got home Wink

MammaTJ · 26/07/2012 07:00

Bogey I was wondering that too. Also who the pink pomegranite stuff belongs too!

TeaOneSugar · 26/07/2012 07:04

bogey that was my first thought, long soaks in the bath are one of the secrets of a happy marriage IME.