To speak to my neighbour about his deliveries

[HummingbirdPie]

Ok, I know I'm going to sound like a right miserable old trout now, but this is starting to bother me. My neighbour gets things delivered to his house and, as he's at work, the postman always knocks on my door and asks me to sign for them. I don't mind the odd package but this is pretty much every other day and always right when I've started feeding newborn-ish DS or when we've both retired to bed for a much-needed nap!

I could not answer the door, I guess, but I don't always know who it is (DH and I sometimes get the odd delivery) and my mum pops in occasionally. But what else can I do? It's not like I can speak to my neighbour and ask him to either a) get his things delivered to work or when he's at home or b) state on delivery instructions 'don't bother the miserable old trout at number 4' is it?

Put a note on your door saying please do not disturb, baby sleeping and if he still knocks, then have a word.

YANBU, it does my nut in too.

I just say to the delivery driver that no, I won't be taking parcels in for my neighbour because I am having to do it constantly.

Don't feel bad about it.

You could also put a note up on your door saying "No parcels accepted for number xx"

And give your mum a key if you want to!

Just say no. I do.

You could ask your neighbour to get his things delivered to his workplace. Why not?

Just tell the postman/ drivers if it's the same one to leave at other neighbours, as you can't do it anymore.

Or leave a note on your door saying parcels for number x can be left elsewhere/ we do not take parcels for neighbours.

I say no.

My asshole neighbour used to put the instruction "leave at No. 13" without asking us at No. 13, I was also on maternity leave at the time. I read the instruction on one of the bits I signed and thought cheeky sod. After that I refused. Since then there has been a fall out over something else which totally confirmed my suspicion that they were morons.

Delivery companies often ask you for an alternative place to put parcel if you are not in. I always get them to leave mine in the garage, - maybe your neighbour could put a sign on his door 'leave parcels in greenhouse/porch or whatever. - Go round and explain to him that it's disturbing you so he can do something about it - he probably doesn't realise. Either that or open his parcels and use the contents, that will soon stop him

Put a note on your door saying "Baby sleeping - please do not disturb"

Problem solved

Does your neighbour come to you to pick up the parcels or do you take them to him? Either way if it's on a regular basis I would mention that's it's becoming inconvenient and could he make sure they get delivered elsewhere. Miserable trout or not I'd put a stop to it.

Yes put 'baby sleeping - please leave deliveries at a different house'.

It may be that he has put your house number down, but it's more likely that the postie just picks your house. They just need telling to pick another house. If needsbe look particularly anguished next time you answer the door and tell them how much it's upset the baby to be disturbed.

thank you - glad to know IANBU!

YANBU, please do either have a word with him or put a note on your door. I'm in the opposite position where I'm getting a lot of deliveries for different things building up to the arrival of DC2 and my lovely neighbour is on maternity leave. I feel absolutely mortified that she keeps getting disturbed and whenever there is an option to put delivery instructions I always put to either leave in a safe place or I'll collect from the depot, please don't disturb our neighbours. Lovely neighbour always says that she doesn't mind but I don't want to take advantage.

oh yes, I'd be annoyed in your shoes. A note on the door is the way I'd go.

We used to take a lot of deliveries in for the ppl over the road, more often than not I ended up taking them over, as they had been sat in my hall for days, sometimes the elderly woman who lived there, would look through the window and refuse to come and get it, so I had to lug it back across the street.

I ended up telling them to go fuck themselves, when one of the rare times they decided to collect their own parcel, they did so after midnight, when all the lights were off in our house and we were in bed. Came downstairs after the door was banged on for a couple of minutes to find the 30ish bloke who lived there asking for his parcel, I saw red, it was not pretty! I do not take any parcels in for anyone any more, even though we have moved twice since!

Think it's a case of being reasonable. Take them if it is not inconvenient and when it is don't answer door. Pretty simple. I think to refuse to accept them when it is very little trouble is petty and will cause a bad atmosphere for no good reason. You never know when you will need or want a favour from your neighbour.

Just say no if it bothers you. They would put a note through his door for delivery to be rearranged.

I recognise this thread. Have you posted about this before OP?

I'm going to disagree with almost everyone else here and say YABU - unless your neighbour is actually putting down in his delivery instructions that parcels should go to you if he's not in, it's not his fault that you keep accepting them. Occasionally delivery drivers do this to me, and it drives me crackers because I don't keep the same hours as my neighbour and would much rather she didn't accept my parcels. Sometimes I don't even know she has because the bloody delivery man hasn't even put a note through my door. You should just refuse to sign and let your neighbour sort out redelivery at a time convenient to him.

YANBU op i had this with our neighbour she works during the day and her 18 year old daughter is a lazy cow the mothers words not mine who refuses to open the door. I was getting delivery guys knocking the door daily with parcels for her. In the end i spoke to the normal deliverydriver who came back to me with a parcel i missed an told him I wouldn't be taking them in anymore as it was getting ridiculos. he totaly agreed with me and then told me th reason he had to card me was because he knocked the neighbours house whos parcels i was always taking in and she refused to take mine in. I have never taken a parcel for her since.

YANBU. I like the note idea.

One of the good things about living where I do is that we all take in packages for each other. If I am in, I am more than happy to take deliveries for neighbours who are out, knowing that they will do the same for me.

However, if I was the only neighbour in all day every day, I might feel differently!
YANBU to not want to get out of bed to answer the door. Let your mum know to text you if she is at the door.

Am I mistaken, but some companies only deliver the initial/all parcels ro the billing address and do not accept a different delivery address (fraud reasons).

I am more than willing to take deliveries, my only stipulation is that there is a delivery notice put through the door.

I can understand if you don't want to be disturbed - can you not just ignore the bell ?

TBH it is often annoying to have the 'must leave it with a person' condition that lots of Amazon delivery companies use. I order lots from Amazon and would rather they just left it in the porch half the time, as I very much doubt anyone is going to nick my 2.99 DVD of An Officer And a Gentleman which is out of sight anyway. If I was getting something really expensive delivered, then I'd stay home. But City Link etc all insist on getting parcels signed for, so you end up with this situation where the postie gets to know which neighbours are likely to be in and just takes it there. It's not necessarily the neighbour being cynical or taking advantage!

The notice on the door is just for feeding/sleep periods, surely? Also, like I said, tell the postie next time one comes that the bell keeps waking the baby and can they try another house? I have had ones who have their own small kids and immediately understand, once they know the situation.