To speak to my neighbour about his deliveries

[HummingbirdPie]

Ok, I know I'm going to sound like a right miserable old trout now, but this is starting to bother me. My neighbour gets things delivered to his house and, as he's at work, the postman always knocks on my door and asks me to sign for them. I don't mind the odd package but this is pretty much every other day and always right when I've started feeding newborn-ish DS or when we've both retired to bed for a much-needed nap!

I could not answer the door, I guess, but I don't always know who it is (DH and I sometimes get the odd delivery) and my mum pops in occasionally. But what else can I do? It's not like I can speak to my neighbour and ask him to either a) get his things delivered to work or when he's at home or b) state on delivery instructions 'don't bother the miserable old trout at number 4' is it?

YANBU

We have a parcel safe fitted by the front door. We always put on the instrcutions that parcels can be left in the safe and there is a code number to record if it is a signed for parcel. It is lockable.

Perhaps you could suggest your neighbour gets one of those if the problem is on going?

I sat feeding 3wk old DD yday as a delivery witch lady peered right in my front room window after banging on the door. The parcel was for the house across the way from me.
Had I not been feeding DD I would have gone postal at the way she banged on my door. As it was she got off with a raised eyebrow and a fuck the fuck off stare.
[hard face bitch emoticon]

This is a difficult one; when I was a SAHM I accepted lots of parcels for the neighbours which did get annoying. However 15 years later I now work full time and it is really useful to collect parcels from the neighbours rather thn the post office. So is sort of swings and roundabouts perhaps they will help you in the future?
I do always get them a bottle at Xmas and offer lots of thanks

Is your neighbor telling the delivery person to go to your house? If not, you can't blame him. The delivery people are taking it upon themselves to do it. They could him a "tried to deliver" note and he could go grab it at their location.

Put a note on your door 'deliveries for other houses not accepted - do not knock' and tell your neighbour about the Amazon Locker service available in local Co-op stores (and maybe other shops, too) (Amazon has a big locker in the shop, they e mail you a code when your item is there and you go to the shop to collect it)

Blu - thanks for that info.

I agree with you it is cheeky. My neighbour started doing this. I saw it on one of the delivery notes. The delivery driver even used to leave things in my porch for all and sundry. I sellotaped a huge note saying any parcels left in my porch for anyone other than my house would go in the bin. That did the trick. I will take parcels in for my immediate neighbours but nobody else. They have moved now but the previous neighbours had a delivery and the guy asked if I would take it in. It ended up being a table and chairs. The idiots had gone on holiday and I was left with this table and chairs in my hallway for two weeks.

What blu said

Not at all unreasonable to say no! I used to be pleased to take deliveries for our old neighbours, until they assumed we'd find room to temporarily store 2 single beds in a small terraced house with two toddlers about the place. I like the note-on-the-door idea.

Used to have this with my neighbors who have now moved. After taking in a TIRE and waiting 3 days for him to collect it, I snapped when the same blasted delivery guy asked me to take a bicycle for them. Not just any bike, one of the super expensive racing ones that I would have to store and be responsible for until neighbor could be bothered to get it. The odd amazon pkg, fine, but every day is so ridiculous.

I always used to do it but snapped the day the delivery man said 'could you please take this parcel for no 3'. 'Yes I said, of course'. And then the delivery man then said 'could you also take in this parcel for number 9 and a parcel for number 7?' . At this point I said, no actually I've changed my mind. I can't take in any. I am not a postman.

Just put a note on the door.

It might not be your neighbours fault - I can't remember the amount of times I've arranged for stuff to be delivered on my day off or on the weekend and they've delivered it early/late and left it with a neighbour despitee saying not to and they haven't left a card!

Put a note on your door.

I think I must be the only one who doesn't mind taking in parcels for neighbours as they do the same for me. It all evens out in the end. But I suppose if it was every other day without fail, I would perhaps get a bit miffed.

I had this last week with the delivery service hammering on the door. I finally opened the door and told them I don't take parcels in. The delivery people were knocking the same day the previous week. If neighbours can't arrange to have packages delivered when they are in then it is their problem. The package can't be important if they can't chase it up.

My miserable, grumpy, complaining , rude and selfish neighbour either didn't answer the door, or said no to the postman, and he left parcels at her neighbour's . I was shocked at this unpleasant manner, but her neighbour just accepts it. I just happened to be out. Years on, I don't go out much, but postdeliverer always leave them by front door behind flower pot as is a quiet 8 house cul-de-sac on the 2 mornings I do go out. If it needs signing for, some sign for me and others leave a card to arrange re-delivery. You should speak to your neighbour and explain it is really inconvenient now you have the baby, and he has to arrange someother way

It might not be your neighbour's fault - we work full time so miss a lot of deliveries, but are happy to pick things up from a depot if a card is left. However lately a few different couriers have been delivering and leaving things with several of the neighbours!
The neighbours haven't minded, but I always feel a bit guilty that they have to be disturbed twice - first by the courier, and then by me picking the item up!

I admit to being at home most days and the postman knows that so do couriers so I do take in packages for various neighbours. They have been good to me in time of need so what is taking in a parcel a few times a month occasionally?

I took in a loo that was delivered to my next door neighbour on the wrong day because the driver misread the delivery note. Luckily we have a shed that we could put it in for the 10 days until my neighbours came home. Not sure I'd have wanted in my small hallway for that long!

I don't mind taking in parcels for neighbours and they do the same for me. It's one of the things that makes us a community.

YANBU to be annoyed but it your neighbour isn't necessarily being unreasonable either.

I'm not allowed to get things delivered to work, so deliveries go to our home address when I'm at work. We're not far from the sorting office or various depots so quite happy to pick up from there but often you either can't give these instructions or they ignore them.