WIBU to send them back or say something

[imnotmymum]

OK. I have a Son who just turned 9. My step MIL has a DD who 9 and a bit. We do only see each other a couple of times a year as live in differing parts of country but speak, text regularly so always in contact. We have conversation about kids and her DD is large for her age and then we discuss my DS who is tall but skinny and we discuss best places for clothes etc. she does call him "small" but he is not just sporty and a healthy weight. On his birthday they sent him a tshirt and shorts. The t shirt fine (although not his thing as a character top of something he not into but ...) but the shorts were age 11-12 and so obviously would not fit him and she would have been aware as we spoke the previous week. My DH is cross as it seems thoughtless and my DS is not really bothered as easy come easy go but should I mention it or ask her to change them or just leave it?

I do want to reiterate I was not going to be snooty and send them back and that it. Just would it be appropriate. I guess it is a long list of pressies that are just not right and tend to think it is pot luck out of the pressie drawer. That said I just believe presents should reflect the person and an effort should be made he is their Grandson for God's sake. Ok maybe not a dig at size I totally believe that was UR but with comments and sizes et. a worm gets planted.

What a lot of nothing. I can't believe you spent time analyzing this gift and getting all huffy about it. Its not like she bought him a make-up kit; its just a size too big. Save it for next year. Thanks for the gift.

To be honest, I would be afraid to get you anything if you are going to spend copious amount of time trying to see hidden meanings in the gifts.

Why should we put up with it !!

Because to do otherwise makes you out to be an ungrateful loon. There's no entitlement to presents and while we'd all love to receive perfect presents that have been chosen with great thought, care, and accuracy, real life often fails to meet this criteria!

As others have said, age labelling is a notoriously unreliable indication of whether clothes will actually fit a child and I'm wondering if you've even tried the offending shorts on your ds.

Take the shorts back for a refund and then go and buy yourself a sense of fucking perspective with the money.

Cheesus H.

It is several sizes too big ! They buy 2 gifts a year for their Gkids and is it really really unreasonable to expect them to fit. Maybe I overthink when buying gifts for other people. I do not spend copious amounts of time looking for hidden meanings it is just the conversation she had with me it just seemed odd. Now Now thepeoplesprincess go and have a cuppa !!