it was dd's birthday last week, she was six. We received a parcel and separate card in the post from DH's older brother.
However, it was my son's birthday back in April and he received nothing from the same uncle, no card or even call/text etc. We haven't really heard from thus brother for months, he lives quite far away from us, and we in turn live quite far from the rest of DH's family.
I sent him a text saying that we'd received dd's gift but were surprised we hadn't heard from him at ds's birthday months ago. No reply, but the following day he left a message on my voicemail saying they were sorry, he just forgot, awernern't deliberately treating them differently.
Thing us - he IS, because there's been nothing forthcoming for DS. No belated card, gift, or anything. I'm not materialistic, I'm more about the thought than a gift, and I'm just as annoyed that on realising he'd forgotten, which he must have done, he didn't make the effort to acknowledge it, to ring and apologise or send him a wee card. It took me confronting him to get a reaction.
I have not given dd the gift yet, and tbh I just want to send it back to him, because in my eyes you don't give to one without the other. WDYT?