To think it doesn't matter what type of colouring book a child wants as long as they are happy

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My Ds is way too young for colouring books but I'd dragged him into town to buy a present for my cousin who's 5. As I was looking I saw this little girl pick up a spiderman colouring book and ask her mum if she could have it. Her mum said spiderman is for boys you can have a princess one. The girl didn't want the princess colouring book as the spiderman one was better.

The poor girl didn't get a colouring book in the end as she wouldn't accept the princess one

AIBU to think that it doesn't matter what type of colouring book a child wants as long as they are happy? If Ds wanted a princess one he'd get one, same as if he wanted a spiderman one

YANBU.

No it doesn't matter.

Maybe the Mum didn't get that memo!

YANBU. Poor little girl, what an idiotic mother.

YANBU. This sort of thing grips my shit.

Yanbu. Some people are painfully ignorant.

Poor little girl .

YANBU.

You are so NBU! I hate this gender typing! Maybe that girl loves math and science and her mother may quash her thinking she is even smart by forcing her to "be a girl". Grrr, makes me so angry!

But without a pwincess dwess to colour all in pink, how will she ever learn that her worth in society is measured by how pwetty she is?

It does depend. I can remember refusing something similar to dd1.

Basically I knew that dd wanted the cheap free gift (a pen with one of those moving figures that slides up and down) and would not have used anything else from the set.

I offered her the set I knew that she'd use, which was more pinky girlie, because she would get more use out of it, and refused to get the one she wanted. (it had stickers and glitter glue as opposed to stencils which she hated)

Dd1 is very into her maths and wishes to study it at university. I don't see the link between being pink and girlie and not doing maths and science. I don't think that effected her ability to enjoy maths.

Utterly dreadful. However, why wasn't there a cool, female superhero for her to choose? I don't want DD to want to be a princess or a man.

But DeWe - if the set that had more stuff she'd have actually used had been the 'boy' one and the set that would have been a waste had been the pink one, presumably you'd have got the former? So yours was a practical choice, not just conforming to genderisation?

thats a different scenario than the one in the OP it would seem DeWe

OP, you are not being unreasonable.

YANBU! My 3 yo dd can have whatever colouring book she likes (dinosaurs at the mo). I don't agree with gender stereotyping, dd has crocs that look like dinosaurs and often wears her fairy dress with them and a pirate hat digging the garden up looking for treasure! I really try to encourage her to play with what she likes regardless of what gender it is 'aimed' at.

Well done kim. You'd have thought everyone would realise by now there's loads of women doctors.

I'd prefer a generic princess colouring book to a spiderman one for my DS, as I don't like to encourage specific brands/actions figures. Made that mistake once -> Bob the Builder.

Unfortunately I run into this all the time -> my son has a pink bike -> his grandparents offered to have it resprayed. My other son wore a hot pink t-shirt yesterday and I was asked what my daughter's name was.

Lucky me, my son is now conforming to the acceptable stereotype -> current favorite colour is blue and he loves dinosaurs.

current favorite colour is blue and he loves dinosaurs.

just like many of our DDs

Yanbu. Dd only wants pink. I'd be so happy if she wanted spiderman

MrsTerry, I don't think colouring a picture of a man actually turns you into a man. YANBU, OP

my DD adores princess, pink and pretty stuff and it is not me. So i got to play princess and sing tangled songs ect i do it because it makes her happy, so OP YANBU

YANBU Dd2 has just started wanting sticker books and colouring books and she's welcome to choose any of them that she wants. She happens to choose the 'pretty pink' one which annoys me as I'd rather she wasn't buying into the stereotype, but whatever she wants is fine by me.

I saw a dad yesterday tell his son he couldn't have Black Beauty from a rummage stall in town because it was a 'girls book' .... i'm not really sure where to begin with that one??

BB is a great book about animal welfare for starters ... i have no idea why it would be considered just for girls?

I guess he hadn't read it and thought it was about 'pwetty ponies' ... but even if it was....?

Jesus wept. This kind of stuff makes me cry for the future of humanity.

YANBU - I have a bit of an issue with the genderstereotyping of boys and girls. My DNephew went through a phase where he wanted to wear skirts whenever he played dress up. His favourite was a Snow white full gown. He was never happier than when he was twirling in it.
BIL and SIL had a huge issue with this, and even shouted at me when I let the little love dress up as tinkerbell with my DD (who is very pink and fluffy).
I responded with "he won't turn gay because he wears dresses! Look at David Becham in his surong! He just wants to dress up." But all the in-laws thought it was damaging him and band him from dressing up as a girl.
He now has a very rocky relationship with his mum and dad, and said he wants to stay with me as I just let him be!

DS today was fluttering around the garden (wearing DD's fairy wings) singing "I am a buttyfly flutter flutter!" couldn't be happier that he has such a great imagination . He likes cars, dinosaurs, robots, dirt, football...dollies, teddies and littlest pet shop.

I hate all the pink coloured toys at Early Learning Centre. I prefer to buy vivid primary colours. not just because I am buying for both genders at once you understand