WWYD - Report close family member to police for drink driving ?

[Fourfingerkitkat]

This would be there 3rd offence...already been caught and fined + community service on 2 previous occassions so I'm pretty sure a third offence would mean a custodial sentence. They nearly ran over a pedestrian yesterday but thank God know one was actually hurt. They somehow also managed to get home in one piece but were hysterical and confessed what had happened.

This is not my DH fyi so would not directly impact on my children.

WWYD ?

I think you need to think how you would feel if you DIDNT report them and they did it again, but this time injured someone / killed someone. I understand it would be a hard thing to do, but fwiw, if it was me and I didnt do anythign and then someone was injured or killed as a result, I would feel awful......

Do it.....they need help

Of course you should report them, but that's so easy to say. Would I? I hope so. Are there other family members that you can ask to report this with you, so you are not the "bad" guy on your own? Making a decision to report someone close to you which can result in a custodial sentence is not easy. I hope you do the right thing and I hope that you get the support of your family, and that ultimately this idiot appreciates why you have done so.

Loie159 - I have tried to report them but have been told that since this happened yesterday the police can't do anything. The person I spoke to checked the called/records from yesterday and there was no report of a pedestrian being injured or dangerous driving. I don't know the make or registration of his car. Don't even know his address...as I explained earlier, I take very little to do with him now because of all the shit that has happened in the past.
Narked - he doesn't have a pattern as such, he can go for weeks without drink then go on an almighty binge..at least that's what he used to do.

I need to try and speak some sense into his partner. She should be calling the police if he does this again.

Spoke to my Mum earlier and told her what I'd done. She looked terrified...I don't know if anyone else in the family would phone the police to be honest. Which I'm quite ashamed to admit....they'd all expect someone else to do it. Nobody wants to be the bad guy.

You're trying. To know what he's doing and not try - especially his partner who knows exactly when he's out driving drunk and the car reg - means carrying some responsibility for the consequences of his drink driving. How will they feel if he hurts/kills himself or others? And the law of odds isn't on his side. He's gotten away with it several times already, eventually he will have an accident.

You're not the 'bad guy', all those facilitating him are. Make sure the police know that he is an alcoholic who regularly drives drunk. He needs to be put off the road before he destroys innocent peoples lives.

Report when you see him driving drunk. Reporting after the fact is pointless unless the courts are monitoring his drinking. The police can't do anything about it.

If someone was up on the roof with guns, yes report because they are likely in the act of harming someone. You report when they are in the act of driving drunk not when they are sitting at home watching tv.

Four just wanted to post to say well done-think we all know its a 'no-brainer' but well done to you for following through and reporting-hope for everyone's sake he either stays out of a car or is caught before he hurts someone.

FWIW I have told DH before that I would report FIL.........if MIL and FIL visit our house for a family party, FIL always makes noises about driving my parents home (they don't drive) and we always manage to get his keys off him before he drives (not that I would EVER let my parents even go near the car!). DH and MIL know that I would have no hesitation in reporting the tw@t....!

mynewpassion - As I explained, my brother no longer lives at home (he is about 40 mins away). I take very little to do with him, do not know his home address or his telephone no. I see him occassionaly when he visits my parents. Therefore it would be impossible for me to know when exactly he is drink driving unless he turned up at my home pissed (which is highly unlikely). I only discovered he did this yesterday as his partner called my parents upset when she realised what he'd done.

Even though nothing will actually come out of my call to the police today I feel better for doing it and have a clear conscience.