To expect dh to hang the washing out without being asked??

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I need to know honestly if I am being unreasonable- got back from camping yesterday so have lots of washing, camping stuff all over house and general end if term stuff everywhere, house is a mess . Today I took dd1 6, dd2 4, and ds 18mths to tescos then as they were v good to the park where we lost track of time and had to rush home for swimming lesson at 4. I did manage to make dinner ready for when we got back and do 2 loads of washing. However I did not tidy hous, nor hang all washing out. Dh got home shiksa I was at swimming lessons and watched telly for about half an hour. When we got back, I put dinner out and sat down to eat with children- cue massive row about me not having my priorities right, being lazy and never doing anything and we live in a pigsty etc etv etc. anyhow the end result( after much screaming in front of children) was that I told Hom if he could do better than to do it. I explained to children that I loved them and was going to the shop and would see them in the morning and for the first time EVR walked out and went to friends for a coffee.

I admit the house does take a back seat ( have pnd- still taking tabs for it, feeling lots better ) and I spend most of my time when not at work ( only work 3 days- teacher) with chn and have been a bit behind recently with end if term. Usual job split- dh does ironing, I do everything else.

I am prepared for the brutal honesty and would value opinions x

Your husband is a twat.

What a shit house! Does he have form for this type of bollocks? You BOTH work and yet you do the lions share of the housework! Tell him you are either going to split the chores more accordingly (60/40 split- 60 being you) or you are getting a cleaner which you will both pay for. I'm assuming he helps create the mess and washing and he wants to eat the meals you prepare- he can fucking well do his share then. If he doesn't like it then he knows where the door is and don't let it hit him on the way out....and mean it!

he is a twat.

you are not lazy because housework is not getting done, i belive children should come first and after weeks and weeks of rain and depressing weather who wants to be stuck in cleaning when the weather is hot and sunny.

op if you can afford it just get yourself a cleaner

What the hell does that post have anything to do with the thread title

well put nobhead

We argue about this constantly- I can be lazy and the house is a mess quite often- I have suggested a cleaner but it is more untidy than dirty?

Well I left the washing in the basket in the middle of kitchen floor so he wound see it and put it out when he got home mini mischeif

I can be lazy

how

Well, I don't do much after children in bed , just veg I suppose, but they are usually up at 6 so I am just knackered!!!

i don't do much once the DC go to bed. You are allow time to unwind and relax.

I do the housework when i am ready to do it, all i do once the kids are in bed is uniforms ( i haven't even done that tonight as its only mine to do)

Let me guess- you ALWAYS get up with the DC too eh? Tidy away your own "mess" and leave his for him to clear away. My DH is a bit feckless and lazy sometimes but if he EVER told me I had my priorities wrong because I had had a fun day with DS he could get to fuck. If anything he would say leave the cleaning and tidying and take DS out.

Am I feeling sorry for myself - is this just part of Pnd or is it more than that- you are right my dc come first no matter what.

I don't think it is your PND- he's being an utter twunt!

no you are low and the person who is supposed to love you is making you feel worse about yourself.

Lots of people have hinted that I would be better off without him but tbh I can't face the hassle? He has already said he won't move out and I can't afford to - I think he may be a bit depressed too but he would never admit that- any other suggestions???

A rota sounds like a good idea- I have 6 weeks off now and would like to spend it with dc not doing all the housework

Is this part of PND? No

Is it part of being married to a nasty selfish twat? Yes

Tell him to step up or fuck off.

I cant tell you how mad this has made me, I will post again soon when I can get my mad thoughts in order!

Yes I know kotinca but isn't it a sign that I thought about it so quickly???

He has already said he won't move out and I can't afford to

This isnt just about housework is it :(

Well with regards to hassle, being shouted at and called lazy by the person who is supposed to be your partner would be far more of a hassle to me. Leaving sounds like the easy option in comparison.

He is a twat. You sound like a great mum and I have no doubt that not only would you and your kids be happier but that your whole life would run smoother without this sulky man-child causing everyone stress.