A bit of background: after 20 years together, almost a year ago x-H left me for another woman he met on Twitter. We have a lovely DS, now 6, who has a learning disability.
x-H says that the OW makes him happy and understands him; he felt criticized and neglected by me. My version of events is that DS's disability put a lot of strain on the marriage, and we were not able to adapt our relationship to the new circumstances.
Anyway, it's all been very civilized. TBH between my FT job and DS, I haven't had much time to get angry or do the so-called grieving. DS lives with me and sees his dad very often, initially only at my place but from this month also with the occasional sleepover at his dad's. x-H is very fond of DS but he's also said he's keen to have his own space.
Anyway, several of my friends, plus my DM, think that it is my duty as a mother to meet the OW, because now that DS is spending more time with them, I really ought to know what she's like. Also, DS is not always able to tell me how he feels, or what happens. What if, they say, the OW is really horrible to him?
Now, I can see their point, but I just do not wish to see what she looks like, or hear her talk, or have to be civilized to her as well. I feel tired just at the thought of it. AIBU in not wanting to meet this person? Am I just in denial? If so, it's not such a bad place to be...