Why on earth would anyone want IL'S in the delivery room??

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I've only heard cases of this recently , is it a new thing? an American thing?

hearing about the dad,and his parents in the delivery room? Who on earth would want that?

Has anyone had that? AIBU?

I'm 24 weeks pregnant and, although not actually planning to have MIL in the room with me, I have asked her to come and supervise my home birth. She had all three of her children at home, and I think she will be great at keeping DH calm (I don't want DH in the room, definitely not, because he is utterly useless in this kind of crisis). DS1 adores her, and if she is around I know I can relax and get on with giving birth. If I need support while I am in labour, I would much rather have MIL with me than DH.

wouldn't work for me! the then-husband was present when i gave birth to daughter but i bitterly resented it!

I would :) if I ever get pg

Wouldn't be so keen on FIL (or my dad tbh) but if my MIL wanted to be there then I wouldn't object - in fact thinking about it, it seems like a good idea as she would keep DH calm as could explain things in his native tongue! His English is excellent but as I am a control freak I worry that when in labour I will be having to explain things to him as I have a way of helping him to understand that other people don't!

My mum has asked me for about the last 15 years if she can be there so that's a bit of a given! My MIL has 2 sons so it would be her only chance. I admire her as she gave birth to my DH at home and he was 9.5lbs my MIL is only just 5 feet tall so he was quite a whopper really especially as he is less than 10 stone now

Some interesting posts on here I think MIL's are maybe slightly diff to FIL/BIL'S

How would you go round and have sunday dinner after they've seen your hoo-haa??

Definitely not FIL

I can only speak for myself, but my mum and mil didn't get a look at my 'hoo ha' anyway!

I wouldn't! Only DH - not my mother either, and I can't even see why you want a doula.

Mine probably did, but tbh it doesn't bother me. She's had two babies herself and has all those bits so i'm not worried plus i'm sure she was concentrating more on the baby than my bits.

After the way FIL tried to cop a look at me BF its the absolute last thing in the world I would want!

I didn't have my IL's, (who are lovely anyway), but I did have my SIL...

She's a doctor, so nice hand-holding, (especially for DH ) and she gave me a cracking manicure while we were waiting for the inductions to take effect!

Oh and FIL was in the room for about 30 minutes when he dropped us off, he just sat and discussed who's car Dp would use to bring us home and stuff then said right i'm off and went home to wait for his grandson.

Didn't bother me at all, i wouldn't have had him for the last part

I can't get my head around having a doula though

I'm giggling at lola's MIL who "shat herself in the corner"

I don't have any ILs, but I don't think i would like random male relatives hanging about. i wouldnt have my mum there because she is highly strung, and judgemental and gets offended when I swear. love her to bits but in labour she would inhibit me and worry herself sick.

i suppose there could be many reasons.

especially if the MIL is more of a mum than her actual mum.