To refuse to let OH bring our kitchen chair back inside tonight.

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Despite my incessant snarking gentle protests, OH has taken one of our kitchen chairs (cheap pine crap) outside today so he 'has somewhere to sit while he smokes in the garden'. I asked him to bring it in at about 3pm as we were going out and he 'forgot'.

We got back a while ago and I have just been outside and watched a little spider (about the size of a sunflower seed) build a MASSIVE web between the fence, windowsill and kitchen chair. The web is the size of a dinner plate, it's taken him ages (and he had to fix it twice as a couple of bluebottles flew straight through it).

I have told OH he has to leave the chair there now as it seems mean to move it given all the effort tiny spider has put it...it's a prime web spot, he's a canny wee spider!

OH says I am being ridiculous and it's JUST a spider.

I've asked him how he'd feel if he build a fabulous house, that took him forever and an alien turned up and knocked it down because he built it on their space ship launch pad.

OH says I'm insane.

It's a stand off.

AIBU...am I?

*disclaimer, I've had a drink or three and I like spiders.

Spider comes first. I often refuse to disturb things because there's a strategically placed web somewhere. I just wait until it's blown away or something.

Remind him that he will want a smoke out there tomorrow too so would only be taking the chair out again, his life runs so much more smoothly when you are happy, and that if he says anything against spiders, he's a wuss. That should do the trick

Yeah. The chair belongs to the spider now.

What is your opinion on chickens?

I would get my furniture because it costs money and it's just a spider!

I would do exactly the same as you have done! My OH would be wanted to destroy the web and kill the spider :(

cute picture of spider to tug on his heart strings

I love chickens, they're sweet and they taste nice, if a chicken nested on my kitchen chair then I'd leave it the chair at least until it was plump and juicy enough to eat.

I figure the spider will move along fairly soon anyway, they're pretty transient aren't they, spiders.

I think they move on fastish.. And think of all the flys he will be catching, spiders are our friends!

Spiders must be protected.

The world has gone to pot when people have lost the understanding of the importance of protecting spiders.

Today, spiders, tomorrow, who knows?

YANBU. Spiders are the best!

Hmm... The only problem is that you are going to have to bring the chair in eventually, and what if the spider spends the night tonight making the web better and better, 'decorating' sort of, only for you to destroy it tomorrow evening? After he/she has chosen the curtains, and put up pictures.

OH says I'm insane

'mmmmm, yep.

You sound exactly like me, DH also thinks I'm bonkers.

Now you must name him (the spider).

My Mum once got well 'Oh don't be so stupid' with me, because I started up a bed on the floor so as not to disturb our cat, who was on my bed. So I know where you are coming from.

It's just a chair... and not precious... let the little fellow christen the web once I say, then destroy it.

I like spiders too... but felt very evil this morning when I hoovered up about 4. There are just too many in the house at the moment.

Tell him you have checked and it's a rare, endangered species. It would be illegal to disturb it.

If that doesn't work: Leave the bastard!

kickingKcurlyC - Why would you say that why? I bet the web looks all pretty tomorrow morning all sparkly and dewy...does that count as decorating d'you think?

I have considered moving one of the solar lights closer to the web to attract more flies, but I'm worried that might come across condescending. I mean he's built the Buckingham Palace equivalent of webs all on his lonesome, he probably doesn't need my help...

...wonders if spider is a girl.... calls it Francis/ces.

hiddenhome you may have just cured my fear of spiders, that one looked like a puppy.

YANBU.
We watched our wing mirror spider build a fantastic web whilst we sat for 45 mins and waited for DH to go somewhere and come back.

We pulled off, and of course the web was destroyed immediately.
We all felt very very guilty.

i think the most worrying thing here is that you watched it build the thing long enough to see two flies break the web and watched it rebuild it twice.

Our wing mirror spiders build extra strong webs that generally survive short trips

But they can throw those houses up in the blink of an eye. It's the equivalent of a pop up tent for Francis/Frances. And what if it rains? Pine chair will be all mank and grotty by the morning - plus I'm almost sure I read in the Daily Mail that foxes will always poo on a pine chair given the chance. If not foxes then squirrels. Will no-one think of the chair? What sort of a night is it going to have FGS?

Well it's better than sitting watching Hollyoaks or some similar drivel.

That's a good point, Hassled. Poor chair. :( Maybe the OP's OH could hold an umbrella over it during night, in case it rains.

Leave it out. Poor spider.