To find DS2's swearing quite amusing?

[libbyssister]

Just had this conversation with DS2 age 3:

Me: now DS2, were you being silly again in the garden?
DS2: well I was saying fucker again because DS1 was teaching me how to say fucker and I said it was naughty to say fucker but he still kept saying fucker. And Grandma told me that it wasn't nice to use the word fucker so I'm not going to say fucker any more even if DS1 tells me to, as fucker isn't a good word...

All while I was wiping his backside too!!

I'm all for desensitising the word but I'm don't think it's losing it's power even when he uses it 10 times in one sentence!!!

Quite funny tho'. But I'm off to give DS1 a roasting!!

My grown up children swear in front of me , because they are adults.

My teenage DS swears

So when your children invite others to play and the other child says, eg "Fuck off, you're not playing with that" do you think, "Oh he's so funny!" or do you think, "You're not coming here again, mate"?

Personally I find other peoples small children swearing , but very . But it stops being funny when they are about 4.

I don't find my DC swearing at all funny.

They are only words

My DS 3.5 used to mis-pronounce fox so that it sounded like fuck and I would find it amusing and he still misses out the L in flag - "Look mummy I made a fag!" he told me excitedly yesterday after a workshop at a local festival.

Fortunately he has absolutely no idea about swear words yet being the oldest, I have the joys of playground education to come I'm sure.

Not to be encouraged but YANBU to have found that sentence amusing, I think I would too in those circumstances.

UsualSuspect, you're very naive if you think a word is just a word!

I don't think it is just about words it is about what is acceptable from a 7 year old then a 3 year old. Words like fucker are used at people. Fuck is a very versatile word but when used at someone or about someone they are spiteful.

A 7 year old and definitely a 3 year can not tell the difference between "oh fuck" when something has gone wrong and saying " you fucker" *at someone.

Until they learn the difference a no tolerance level is needed IMO

That's very funny!
You can shield kids forever. Obviously ds1 is older and think its fun teaching the younger one a naughty word. And obviously the child knows its naughty! He's saying he won't say it again.
Don't be so uptight.

I would have struggled not to laugh OP.

When DD was around two she spilt some juice in the hall and came into the kitchen shouting "Oh shit, oh shit!"

I was trying so hard not to laugh I turned it into fake crying and told her mummy was upset at her saying a bad word :o

Shes 3.5 now and is the word police in this house. Even "shut up" when said to the barking dog gets a horrified look from her!!

I sort of see how some people could find this funny, but I just find it so revolting to hear words like that coming out of small children's mouths that personally it would have just made me wince.

Ad when I had 2 11 years olds tell me to "go fuck myself you fucking bitch" after telling then they really should stop playing with the diesel the road workmen had left down the road I felt intimidated and scared.

It's not the swearing I don't like its the viciousness of swering at people

Of course it's funny. The way he said it was funny. He said it once repeatedly I grant you and he knows he shouldn't have said it. DS1 is getting a dressing down for saying it to his little brother. Probably no need to call SS just yet. OP sounds like a lovely Mum. What's the alternative? Making a face like a cats bum and writing a piece for the daily mail? I remember DD saying oh shit over and over again when she was about 2. Hasn't said it since as I ignored it. She tells me off for saying 'oh god' now she is 4.

Little amuses the simple, as they say.

oh and I'll never forget my son aged 2 pointing at a bottle of sparkling water, me telling him what it was and him saying 'fucking water'. A family joke to this day, which he is in on. There is a massive difference between swearing at people and using a swear word to emphasise what you want to say.

It's the intent more than the word. It was said in a silly way not swearing at someone in order to hurt them.
For example I'd rather I heard a child say 'shit' as a joke, than shout something like 'I hope you die you idiot'.
Words gain their meaning through their use. Obviously it's embarressing if your child swears in public because uptight people cats bum
About it but you can't stop them ever hearing a word! It's about teaching them how to use language appropriately, which the the op clearly was.

You're absolutely right voddie, about teens and their swearing being more aggressive and while I found myself hiding a smile with DS today, I have said "Mind your language!" to numerous groups of teens who walk past us on the school run effing and jeffing. To be fair, they don't retaliate but it still makes me cross that they're swearing around my boys. Although maybe DS2 could hold his own

I completly get you OP.

My 4 year old overheard a lad saying Fuck when we were in a lift in Ikea.. took him about 5 minutes to say to me mummy the word fuck is naughty isn't it, I said yes please don't use that word, and he said what the word fuck? no mum I would never say fuck because at school if you say fuck your in really big trouble so I wouldn't ever ever say fuck ever again OK...

I didn't laugh but responded with my family traditional favourite of if you use swear words you get your mouth washed out with soap and water!! My mum actually did that to my sister!

YANBU OP it's the innocence with which it was said that's funny.

We don't swear in front of the children but DD (3.4) was told to 'fuck off' by another child at nursery and repeated it at her brother when she got annoyed with him.

I told her it wasn't nice and she shouldn't say it and asked where she had heard it. She told me who/what happened and I told nursery who said this particular child often swears.
Fine. Thought no more of it as she never said it again.

Couple of weeks later, on a bus chatting to an old lady and DD pipes up: 'it's not nice to say fuck off'. Old lady: 'pardon? I didn't catch that' DD (very loudly): 'it's not nice to say fuck off'. Cue nervous laughter from old lady and me, red faced trying to hurriedly explain!

Wasn't as bad as the other day on the train when she asked about everyone man or woman who got on 'is that daddy?' (for the record she was expecting to meet him and he'd missed the train!)

Love 3 year olds!

For such a sweary place normally, mumsnet seems to have a lot of pursed lips this evening.

DD had her own variation on this aged 2. And yes, it made me laugh.

Aww... She sounds edible Poche! :)

I know its bad but I can't help but laugh when children swear :-)

YANBU

Wow, there are some uptight fuckers on here tonight. I am an amused fucker. I think the context and frequency your DS said it was brilliant. And he clearly knew it was wrong - but so innocently explaining he wouldn't do it again. Perfect. YADNBU!

I only think its funny if dcs swear unintentionally like if they say stick and it comes out as... well you get the picture. Ok hes only 3 but hes saying he knows its wrong and also your other ds taught him so I probably wouldnt think it was very funny. Sorry. I would be a bit embarrassed knowing his gm had heard it too. When I swear however....fucking hilarious...