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To find DS2's swearing quite amusing?

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libbyssister · 22/07/2012 17:28

Just had this conversation with DS2 age 3:

Me: now DS2, were you being silly again in the garden?
DS2: well I was saying fucker again because DS1 was teaching me how to say fucker and I said it was naughty to say fucker but he still kept saying fucker. And Grandma told me that it wasn't nice to use the word fucker so I'm not going to say fucker any more even if DS1 tells me to, as fucker isn't a good word...

All while I was wiping his backside too!!

I'm all for desensitising the word but I'm don't think it's losing it's power even when he uses it 10 times in one sentence!!! Grin

Quite funny tho'. But I'm off to give DS1 a roasting!! Angry

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SamanthaSingsTheBlues · 22/07/2012 17:55

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AllYoursBabooshka · 22/07/2012 17:55

I also think the way he did it was quite funny, Not the actual swearing.

I doubt very much he will go around swearing at everyone. Judging by the conversation he clearly knows it's rude, He's just testing some boundaries.

Libby is hardly encourging it!

AllYoursBabooshka · 22/07/2012 17:56

encourging

liketochat1 · 22/07/2012 17:57

I'd be very annoyed with ds1 but pleased with little one's attitude.

emmieging · 22/07/2012 17:58

Er no... My kids say plenty of amusing things but I wouldn't find a 7 yr old teaching their little sibling to say fucker funny.

puds11 · 22/07/2012 17:59

You sound like a great mum.

McHappyPants2012 · 22/07/2012 18:00

My dc have swore but I didn't find it funny and they where put on the thinking spot because of it.

amck5700 · 22/07/2012 18:00

she wasn't finding the teaching of the swearing funny - she was finding the way that the little one kept repeating the swear word as he emphasised the fact that he wasn't going to say it any more - big difference.

Annunziata · 22/07/2012 18:02

Funny when they're 3, not funny when they're 13.

RubyFakeNails · 22/07/2012 18:10

I think it's funny. It's swearing, not a crack pipe.

Once my dh's aunt came to stay with us, she was losing her memory. Bit and when she couldn't remember things would always say BOLLOCKS!!! with a little wave of the arms (all very ott but that a whole other story). Anyway my DD1 started. Opting this when things didn't go her way, she never got the word quite right it was always box, bollus, buckux, all different but we used to find it so. So funny.

DH and I are swearers so maybe that makes a difference, but it didn't toffees anyone, I can't see the harm in laughing.

iamme43 · 22/07/2012 18:18

mmmm no my son has never swore [in front of me] he is 10.

He has asked me what various words mean and I explain and tell them they are not nice to say.

I also say people who feel the need to use these words lack the intelligence to find a better word.

scentednappyhag · 22/07/2012 18:21

I don't think it's fair to say that swearing denotes a lack of intelligence. It's very expressive language in the right place- people who never swear are not having the right food or the right sex Grin

Losingitall · 22/07/2012 18:22

Dear God this Mum is getting so much abuse! How many of your perfect kids swear but not just in front of you!

greenbananas · 22/07/2012 18:24

I do think the conversation with your DS2 is kind of funny, but also that DS1 fully deserved his roasting. Hope he takes heed of it - it is not nice to hear to children swearing (or adults for that matter).

BertieBotts · 22/07/2012 18:29

DS called me a stupid bugger the other day Shock after some confusion, I realised that he meant it in the sense of "person who bugs" and was quite impressed at how he had managed to come up with it as a word form by himself.

Told him it was a bad word and he wasn't allowed to say it, anyway.

It is funny! Grin It's just a word! It's not hard to explain that they're not allowed to say it. And if they do swear when not around you, so what? Confused When I was at school there wasn't any teenager who didn't swear. Didn't mean they were all doing it in front of teachers, parents, potential employers.

BertieBotts · 22/07/2012 18:29

Although I do get a little judgy about the advert where the child says "Holy cow, they're good!" Blush It just sounds wrong.

SamuelWestsMistress · 22/07/2012 18:29

I think it's quite funny. At least he knows it's a bad word. Mine tell me off when they hear me say bad words and it's not like I use them when they're their...they sometimes slip out if I'm driving and children have satellite ears that can hear you in other rooms!

My cat often tries to trip me up when he's hungry and can be a real pain. When my DD (4) was about 2 I heard her chase the cat and shout "piss off bloody cat" at him. Took me completely by surprise but my god it made me chuckle!

I don't like children swearing maliciously but this and the scenario you have been in are totally different!

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libbyssister · 22/07/2012 18:36

See, not only did I find my own DSs swearing funny, but now I'm laughing at everyone else's DC's swearing as well. I am truly a terrible parent Grin.

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toxicwaste · 22/07/2012 18:38

YANBU this was a funny conversation.

I admit, I swear infront of my children. Not at them, but infront of them. (why won't the bloody car start etc) They know that it is adult language. Just as adults do things like drive cars, drink wine, and pay the bleeding bills.

My eldest,aged 7, did say bullshit the other day (totally in context, homework stuff) and was reminded with a bit of time out that that is not acceptable language at his age. Better than hearing words for the first time in the playground/on the bus and not having a clue when to use them.

willowstar · 22/07/2012 18:48

My little girl used the f word in perfect context when she was about 2 and a half, I was mortified as I had really made a big effort to not swear in front of her for months...however I did find it very funny and kind of admired her usage. I didn't make a fuss and she never said it again.

usualsuspect · 22/07/2012 18:51

I thought it was funny OP

ReshapeWhileDamp · 22/07/2012 18:52

Yeah, I'd have had to hide a smile, OP. Grin It's scarily easy to come up against very adult language these days, so not sure it's a reflection on a parent if a small child comes out with words like that. And as you said, to him it's just a word that he knows he's not meant to say.

Better not tell the thread about the other day, when I muttered something about DS2 being a little bugger (he SO is) and DS1, who has the bloody hearing of a bat, said 'Yes he IS a bugger mummy'. Trying to suck up. HmmGrin OK, I'll put on the Bad Parenting hair vest now.

ImperialBlether · 22/07/2012 19:35

Seven isn't a small child! He's old enough to know not to say that. I didn't think it was funny - I would have been horrified.

And I've never heard my children swear. They're now in their 20s. I know they must do, but they don't say anything in front of me. I swear but they have never heard me and neither have my parents. Surely you should learn how to speak appropriately?

voddiekeepsmesane · 22/07/2012 19:37

Oh so very fucking funny Hmm

Inneedofbrandy · 22/07/2012 19:50

libbyssister And meeeee

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