To be pissed off that SIL calls DS with name and middle name and middle name

[olimpia]

Especially as she also commented that the two names don't go well together! It's driving me insane! He's only 5 months old!
I'm staying at hers with DS and I'm seriously worried I might lash out tomorrow of she keeps doing it. I think she's just trying to wind me up!

I must be thick because I don't get what you're saying.

Well it's his name isn't it?!

Yep...she is.
Ignore it completely - she'll end up looking a proper fool when she is the only person to use both names like that, when even his parents don't.

Leave her to it. She'll tire of it eventually, especially when she gets no reaction.

Do you mean that his name is John Fred Joe Bloggs... and she calls him John Fred Joe? Why does this annoy you?

Name + middle name. E.g. Is Edward Mark awake yet?

Why don't you say "I've noticed you always say edward John instead of Edward; is there any reason for this?"

You don't want people using his actual names?

She's always done it and it hasn't annoyed me as much until she said earlier today that the two names don't go together. I said that perhaps she's tight but we chose the middle name for a reason and we didn't expect him to be called with the two names together. I said that no one calls him with the two names. I hoped she would stop but she keeps doing it! The problem is I'm staying at hers for a couple of days and I do t know how to get through tomorrow!

It is a bit odd to tag the two names together in everyday chatter. Apart from my little nephew who tags DDs two names together as he says they make her sound like a Pokemon

Just ignore it. She'll be the only one doing it so will look a bit daft without you even needing to do anything.

MIL used to do this when we gave dd2 Sil's name for her middle name.

I just told her to stop.

Its quite simple really.

Why non earth is this a problem? I do this with mine all the time- "Patrick John, come here" "Grace Frances, are you ready?".

Don't sweat the small stuff!

Simple but I'm worried it won't come out right because I'm so about it a d the last thing I want is confrontation or bad moods

Of course it didn't come out right because now she's doing it to piss you off after you told her to stop.

My inlaws do this- and DH and his brother are often referred to as abbreviations of both their names (e.g. DaveRob). Luckily my DS's names sound ridiculous like this so he gets the full two names. I find it a bit strange tbh but there are far more irritating things they could do

mynew so do you think that if I tell her again she'll ignore it again or I risk looking really about it?

How about "You know, you sound a bit of a knob SIL+SILmiddlename. Just call him Edward like everybody else." and do this face

"and we didn't expect him to be called with the two names together"

huh? its his name! it is affectionate to call someone by both, Mary Kate, John Michael etc my aunties used my middle name as did some friends

Is she doing it to wind you up?

I'm not surprised it pisses you off, it would me as well, especially if I knew it was done spitefully.

Ask why she's doing it. IME people do this kind of thing for 2 reasons - to annoy, and because they think they can get away with it.

I don't think she did it spitefully before. After calling her tight, I think she's being a bit spiteful.

And, is it really that big of a deal? It is his names and you named him. Aren't you proud of it?

yab a bit u

it IS his name after all.
my parents sometimes call my children both their names, and did a lot when they were babies.

i'd just chill out about it.

What's her middle name OP can you start calling her by both?

No it's not affectionate! She's Always trying to provoke people and in the only one in the family who gets on with her ok because I ignore the provocations. Up until today I didn't think it was yet another provocation but after she said the two names don't go together I feel resentful every time she says it. It's a bit like she's taking the piss of my 5 month old. I'be got to spend one more say with her and I don't want it to go badly

I think YABU - from your post it seems you are objecting to someone using the names you have chosen for your DS. I don't see the problem.

It makes her sound a bit pathetic. I'd just say each time she says it "He doesn't have a double-barrellled first name you know, x is his middle name? Do you have a middle name? Do you want us all to call you Suzi Ermintrude?"
Perhaps when he was born you overstressed the middle name bit and she genuinely think he has a double barrelled first name. There are plenty of Demi-John etcs around.

Most people give their children a middle name but don't expect it to be used like their first name is. Your SIL is a knob. It doesn't matter if she doesn't think the names go together. Your baby, your choice!