To be pissed off that SIL calls DS with name and middle name and middle name

[olimpia]

Especially as she also commented that the two names don't go well together! It's driving me insane! He's only 5 months old!
I'm staying at hers with DS and I'm seriously worried I might lash out tomorrow of she keeps doing it. I think she's just trying to wind me up!

No not "tight" sorry it's my phone correcting the spelling! I said she was probably right

She's taking the piss out of your 5 month old by calling him by his name???
Find something else to fret about. Quickly.

Then I amend and say that she's not being spiteful at all. She's called him that from day one so no, not winding you up or being spiteful.

My siblings and I have our own lovely nicknames for our nieces and nephews. So do the grandparents. No big deal. Its our own way of saying we love them and they are special to us.

how about saying "will you stop calling him that, now.. we call him Edward, and that is what I want everyone else to call him"

quite simple, takes about ten seconds to say...

Just do the same to her.

And your husband.

And MiL.

And cat.

She'll soon realise how bonkers it all sounds and stop!

I only ever heard my middle name when I was in trouble! I'd just say to her, actually we just call him fred. If you so it in a sweet helpful patronising tone it might wind her up. He he heeee

I sometimes call DS 'first-middle name' and sometimes 'first-middle-surname'. It's just affection. It has possibly happened as we have been very determined not to shorten his name (which is Oscar and we don't like Ozzie) so it's kind of gone the other way.

If she's doing it in that tone I'd be fine with it. If it's to highlight her opinion that they don't match I would also be having to make myself ignore the kitchen knives.

It's my brother's wife, not my DH's sister. Trust me she IS doing it to take the piss/ to be unpleasant. She provokes all the time but I usually just ignore her.

Shall i mention it to my brother?

Then boot her out.

Tell her if she doesn't stop taking the piss then she's not welcome in your home.

Is it raining where you are?

I'm at hers! And overseas! What a stupid cow. I should have listened to my mum telling me that she's quite nasty.

Tell her if she can't call him by his proper name, she shouldn't speak to him at all. Or, say you'll end up making a name badge for him, just so she doesn't make the same mistake again.

I only EVER got called by my first name and my middle name when I was in trouble!! I do that to my DD2 and DS, my DD1 doesn't have a middle name.

My DD2 gets called an affectionate shortening of her middle name most of the time.

I think it's odd but if your SIL is doing it to wind you up, then giving her a reaction will only make her do it all the more!! As they say on 'tinternet 'Do not feed the trolls'.

Just ignore it and don't mention it to your brother. You only have to see her for another day or so.

Ah, then let her get on with it and ignore her.

Then come on here and bitch about her to us.

And don't visit again!

Ignore her.
If she is the sort to provoke people all the time she does it for a reaction.
Dont give her a reaction and that will piss her off more than anything you can say to her.

IGNORE HER. It will confuse her.

Sounds like she was doing it for a while and you were not biting so she made the comment about the names not going together to ramp it up a bit.

And it worked didnt it?

Yes Mrs DV it worked because I used to find it odd but didn't mind too much until I realised today that it was a provocation and she's taking the piss. And she says it more often than needed!

smile next time she does it and say "aww, you are really lovely sometimes. It's so nice that you keep using the full name after what you said about it. Come here." give her a hug and then say, "you don't have to keep doing it, I get it, you're sorry for being a bit mean before - don't worry, we all have foot in mouth moments." Then walk off smiling before she can say anything back. See if you can loudly say to your DB how nice it is that SIL is making such an effort with you and what a great Aunty she's going to be to DS [First name only]

If she's just doing it for a negative reaction, a positive one/totally missing hte point of her bitchiness will throw her, it's really hard to say "wait, no - you're wrong, I'm not a nice person, I'm being horrible, you're wrong!"

PIL do this, and MIL does to DH and SIL too. DH and SIL also have 'pet' names. I just find it funny now because it sounds like they're reminding themselves of DC's names!

Why would it annoy you? It's his name

Olimpia she was trying to wind you up all along and the nasty mare got annoyed that it wasnt working.

How childish.
You really will get the best revenge by smiling sweetly and going about your business.

She is going to hate that.

Besides, if you have a go at her, she can act all innocent and say 'what?! I was only saying his name'

Any you will look mad.

My mum still calls me by both my names...Cause, you know, they're my names...

If they don't go well together, why on earth choose them?

What don't mind said.

Or failing that find out her middle name and insist on calling her by both her names. (with a big broad smile).

;-) kill with kindness.

This wouldn't bother me at all, but you could ask her not too if you want. TBH if this is the worst problem you have with your MIL then she deserves and your everlasting gratitude

have you read any of the usual MIL threads

Dontmind That is pure genius! Will you come and live with me and teach me how to be a Proper Grown Up? I always have the wit of the staircase