to get cross when dh expects me to heat up his tea?

[PiedWagtail]

Last night I ate with the kids - risotto, so easy for dh to heat up later. At 9 ish I was relaxing on couch with wine and cripss just having finished work when dh came in (he was working too; we both have home offices) and asked about tea. I said, I ate earlier. Cue grumpy look; 'oh, I'll be doing my own then?'. Grrrrr. It took him 2 mins to reheat the risotto, it's not like I was asking him to catch the chicken, pluck it, cook it..... etc!! Drives me mad. Plus, he has only cooked about twice in the last 6 months. Gah. IABU??

My DP goes to the pub about 3 times a week, gets home about 9.30 to 10 or on a friday he stays out till about 11.30. He has never asked me to get him his tea when he gets in as he knows what the answer would be (a few f words and a lot of offs).

He is a grown up and after cooking for the kids, washing up, feeding the dogs, bathing the kids and getting then to bed he is fucking dreaming if he thinks I am cooking him anything.

He decides to go to the pub, he can sort his own tea out.

But to be fair he never asks me.

Because of work I am seldom home before 6pm (often later) and the DCs have always eaten separately from DH & me during the week. I would have been pretty hacked off to find that every night I had to eat on my own.

DH & I are a couple as well as parents. For us eating together is part of being a couple.

Too many times I read on MN comments about many areas of people's lives(laundry, food, ironing even holidays) where I start to wonder if the people are actually in a relationship or just lodgers in the same house.

IMO YABBU (you are both being unreasonable) and should make sure that you dont find that you have set your feet on the slippery slope of separating lives.

Probably a minority view on MN!

Thanks Gnome - we do usually eat together after the dc are in bed, but on this occasion I was hungry at the dcs' tea time and wanted to eat then! I agree, eating with the dcs yet also maintaining our own relatonship are both important.