to feel my neighbour was being rather rude towards me by

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telling me to have a good evening in the middle of our chat and then staring into my eyes almost defiant?

I know they're a bit unfriendly around here but I felt insulted. This has never happened to me before!

She said hello to me and I said hello back then chated about how the garden has overgrown and how long it was. I seak to her about twice per year and she lives bang next door to me.

Next time I shan't bother.

It has bothered me greatly for some reason.

No!She is a bit thick and socially awkward. I forgot this about her until I wrote the chat down, just now. The other neighbours are unfriendly and odd too. I feel a bit peed off that she spoke to me that way. Lesson learned, I'll just ignore her from now on.

Glad you feel better about where you live....that's me done my good deed for the day lol

ps I didn't expect someone/almost a stranger to come out with that either - never mind run out of their house to do so

Odd neighbour you have, Meep. Really odd.

Me too, Get. I really struggle. That's why all the lessons from my husband. when he met me, I would tell someone I was bored or not interested in what they were saying not to be rude, but just factual and to save them wasting their time telling me something I didn't care about.

i no longer tell someone I don't care, even if I don't care but it's really hard, all this social stuff.

The 'other neighbours' are three other familes out of twelve.

So can someone please tell me why wishing someone a good evening is rude

I did say, upthread.

It's not why. It's when. When wishing someone a good evening is rude.

I have always cared about what people are saying to me on the outside even if I actually didn't feel thew same inside. Probably why it has bothered me so much. There is a bad atmosphere here between three families here as we are all very different.

Get a life?

I don't need two..sixty

So, you think she's a bit thick and socially awkward, which you'd forgotten until she wished you a good evening, and now you have resolved to ignore her.

Yes, that makes perfect sense and clearly yanbu in your world where neighbours are not neighbourly.

Can you do the smile and wave but keep walking thing? You only have contact due to geographical links you are under no obligation to be friends. Polite to keep the peace but live your own life I say. If you are getting negative vibes then just shrug your shoulders and don't put any effort into relations with her(or other neighbours) other than smile and wave but keep walking.

(I on the other hand will be doing the grimace and run thing)

Well I say run but I'm best just lying down and rolling away arn't I?

If deliberately misunderstanding my opening post makes you feel better about who you are zeno, I am glad :)

oh meep,

Have a good evening Coconutty

You wish someone a lovely evening at the end of a conversation and generally you don't do it with a glare, well I don't glare.

WTR, you do know you're in AIBU? Just checking.

Change it to "she wished you a good evening in a way that you found odd" if that helps.

Have a good evening zeno

Meep123 you're neighbour sounds so rude.

My mother might do this as she is deaf? If not case then just be grateful she's not a nosy chatty cow, that's worse.

Hey, she just stared at me! Weirdo.

Is Coconutty your neighbour Meep?

True body I never ever chat to her, I never see her. she isn;t a gossip at all. Just weird.