AIBU to dread going out and making smalltalk with Smug Pregnant Mum?

[Pinkforboys]

In my defence I've been trying for dc2 for 4 years, have had 4 failed IVF transfers, 2 miscarriages and have been waiting 4 months for FSH levels to reach acceptable number for highly regarded last-chance-saloon IVF clinic to give me that last chance.
Meanwhile Smug PM is pg for 3rd time. With twins. I find it very hard to put on the smiles and interest at her latest isabella oliver dress and troubles finding a big enough people carrier....
Please- tell someone tell me to get over myself!!

Thanks for brining this into the open pink.

One of the biggest sources of shame I have ever had was when going through fertility and then subsequent Mcs (six in all) was feeling like I wanted to say "fuck off and die" to every pregnant friend when they imparted their happy news. Its hard to write this as it still feels so horrible and bitter and unpleasantly jealous but I managed to get through it- and learnt a lot about myself in the process.

Most friends knew of my struggles (as I was always being rushed into hospital) and I found it hard to cope with their rejection (as they didnt know what to say so said nothing- I was ALWAYS the last to know) or their well meaning trite jolly comments (oh it will be you next!). Its very difficult to know what to do for her, but this woman appears like a friend you dont need in any event and well done for managing the night and having a good time.

I am now twenty years down the line and still with empty arms but much more sorted as I have a step family which is a blessing.

I suggest you try the infertility boards, too.

I expect your friend is probably quite nervous about carrying twins and coping after the birth, and would appreciate your support

Hopefully she also supports you with your problems

If not then quite honestly why are you friends?

We had infertility issues too. It used to crack me up inside as I felt my body was really rubbish and letting us down. I was never jealous of other peoples babies/pregnancies though as it wasn't my baby! I was really glad that non of my beloved friends had to deal with infertility. I managed to find a forum on babycentre with other people in a similar situation and it really helped me cope. It wasn't easy though.

Maybe tell her a little of what you are feeling but also tell her how glad she doesn't have your issues.