to not sensor my Facebook statuses...

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All of my friends on Facebook are people who know me personally so they (should) know I have a slightly odd sense of humour yet people insist on moaning about comments which I just don't see as offensive.

'it's how I am'

Is NOT an adequate defence against deliberately likening your friends to inmates in a concentration camp I'm afraid.

In fact, in my book it's not a good enough defence against hurting other people or being generally rude.

FWIW I would have a very cut up bum from the effects of my hoiking judgy pants if my friends all came out with matching tattoos... But I wouldn't post it. (although I might reconsider my 'friends')

Blimey, you sound hard work. You reserve the right to be rude, hurtful and offensive to your friends because they know what you're like?

I'd delete you in a nanosecond.

So you insulted a dozen of your friends in a status and you think they're being unreasonable?

Sounds to me like someone was hoping for a load of "ha ha you're so kooky and witty and your friends are so unreasonable" responses and didn't anticipate the backfire.

Delete the comment/apologise and move on.

Sarcalogos :o cut up bum.

I didn't say it makes it alright, I said they know what I'm like and they know if I'm trying to say something then another thing will probably come out of my mouth and screw it up...

Ha so lots of you would reconsider your friendship choices based on tattoos?

PMSL!

So in fact you do like their tattoos, but you accidentally said you didnt?

Doesn't sound v plausible.

I really wasnt expecting anything like that I was expecting more flamage tbh but you will be pleased to know an apology has been sent and status deleted...

friends are now pissing themselves that I caved in to authority and are now urging me to go and get my own 'bespoke' tattoo (although one is still feeling ripped off) not one thought anything of the camp association though :o

I think you were 'trying to be funny'

But what came out was the truth that you actually think their tattoos are tacky and standard issue.

Now I agree I can totally see why your friends would be offended by this. And 'it's how I am' just doesn't cut it as an excuse.

If a five year old upset another five year old and said 'I know I shouldn't have tried to strangle his cat push him over, but it's just who I am' we wouldn't accept that would we? If that is who you are, maybe think about how you can change?

I fucking hate the whiney "but that's what I'm like" defence.

Hear it so often, people who defend the rudeness of themselves or others in that way.

Do you really mean that being rude and offensive is a basic part of your personality?

Morris it wasnt an accident they know I don't see the point in posting for scars when I have so many for free and some amusing memories to accompany each one lol

I was ignoring that factor losingitall...

X post uple, well done for doing the right thing!

Fwiw I do have a couple of friends with dodgy tastes in tattoos, but they do have other redeeming features

Can you give us some more examples?

To some extent we all have to censor what we say (not just on facebook). Most people don't always say exactly what they think - though some pride themselves on doing just that and justify it by claiming to be a 'call a spade a spade' sort of person or 'just being like that'. They are probably just rude though...

I dont know if I got this right but

did you base your comments on photos coming up from people on your friends list? Is that what you mean by newsfeed?

So you made the comments about people on your friends list?

How did you think they were going to respond?
You are deliberately taking the piss out of your friends. So you are poking people with a pointy stick.

I am puzzled as to why you are suprised at their responses.

I dont care about tattoos but if you were on my friends list and you made such a glib reference too concentration camps I am not sure i would bother keeping you on.

Why on earth would you post a 'stream of consciousness' on a forum/web site? Because that's what it is. EVERYONE has to sensor what they say and write. Why should you be any different. You want to put down free flowing thoughts, then put them down in a journal.

Good idea Kniddy. Can we please have some more examples on which to judge adjudicate?

I don't think we're going to get any more examples, Mardy. :( Very unfair. I am ill and getting bored, I want to be entertained. :(

lol I've made a few controversial comments on fb and have had a few "wtf?" Replies but have never actually lost friends through it (surprisingly) as they know when I'm being offensive and whether I mean it or not but most of the time I just speak without thinking but mostly people agree with me so theres been nothing drastic.

Off the top of my head:

"why do people insist on posting pictures of their Childs every movement?"
"why do people constantly express how much they love their child i.e I love you so much x on Facebook, does you're child read fb much?"
"you know the benefits system works when you're phone breaks and everyone I know on them insist that they couldn't live without their brand new model iPhone"

Nothing too bad I shouldn't think.

Several of your examples would have resulted in me deleting you from FB.

One of the least pleasant women I've ever had the misfortune to meet was one of these "But that's what I'm like" Facebook comedians. It was a rare day when she wasn't banned from a group or lost a friend. Since she was blissfully self-centred, this didn't bother her much. Instead, she just banged on ever louder about how the rest of the world failed to understand her particular brand of "plain speaking".

The thing is though, you don't have to read those posts. If they really annoy you, you can hide them or even un-friend them. Or just grumble to yourself quietly, rather than posting it. It does seem rather rude to me and I would have un-friended you by now! Alternatively, I might have been tempted to post "Why do people not learn how to use apostrophes and capitals properly?" Equally unnecessary and equally rude.

Should that be 'un-friend' or 'de-friend'? I'm just too old for all of this...

I'm a bit shocked that people would reconsider their friendships based on tattoos.

Obviously if they get a swastika on their foreheads or something but otherwise I don't see why it should matter.

Shocked? I think people were half joking.

For me, it's not indiscriminate ie, if you've got a tattoo we're not friends. (in fact 2 of my best friends do have tattoos which look stupid )

But when your friends make life altering decisions it's only natural to have an opinion. Friendships are being reevaluated all the time- I mean which of us is still best mates with our whole nursery cohort. Someone raving to me about their (in my totally subjective opinion) ill-advised tattoos is going to make me thing 'we have less in common than I thought'. If they get the tattoo but don't endlessly go on about it and in fact stay the same sort of person that they were before then obviously nothing changes.

If someone got totally involved with 'tattoo culture' I would probably find we didn't have much in common anymore. Is that wrong?

So you're basically inferring your friends are boring, conformist, benefit cheats. That's what I would take from your FB statuses.

You should perhaps be a bit more tactful if you want to keep your friends. If not, then don't worry about what you post.

you may not have lost friends, but I guarantee they think you are a bit of a sarcastic passive agressive twat going by those sort of comments..

still, so long as you think you have a great sense of humour