To really scared and pray I'm not overdue again??

[lastnerve]

Expecting dc2, first time round In went 42 weeks + and had to be induced , tablet, waters popped everything. it was horrible making an already painful experience even more so, dc's heartbeat dipped and had to have help with the delivery. machine was too high and had to be turned down.

was crazy like I had no control over my own body. was put in stirrups even though I didn't want this. as I have hyper mobility and my knee caps pop out sometimes I am opting to go on all fours this time.

And as silly as this may sound , I feel like much less of a woman that my body really couldn't be bothered to go into labour and I feel like if it was to happen twice it would be real confirmation that I'm not a proper woman and that something is wrong with me. I'm really scared to not go into labour naturally this time and often jealous of women who do. I must me mad.

AIBU to be scared of this happening again, and has anyone else been in my situation.??

PS also meant to say that my MW told me (not sure how accurate either of these are):

• you are more likely to go overdue if you have in previous pregnancies
• there is some evidence that tall women have longer pregnancies. I'm 6'1 so I guess I backed that up both times but it could be rubbish!

You think I'm following you around because I called you out for being a bully on one thread?

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You have an inflated estimation of your own significance, my dear.

Oh for christ sakes. Giving birth isn't a competition as to who can come up with the most horrendous story of splitting, stitching, ventous, c-sections, blood donations or who can shell peas and go back in the kitchen all mother earth with one strapped and suckling and 4 more hanging round the ankles whilst whipping up a cous cous souffle and a benign smile.

Look, feeling like a bit of a failure because you have had to be induced, and especially when the resulting labour and delivery had been traumatic (and it doesn't have to be disasterous to be traumatic) are all valid emotional and psychological responses to what happened to you.

Your experience may not have been as bad as others... Mine was pretty bloody awful, but I lived and so did my baby. I should be grateful, right? I was, actually, but that didn't stop me from sliding headlong into catastrophic PND, due, in large part to birth trauma and feeling like a failure and that my body, and by extension myself was, well, a bit rubbish. Not up to the job. You get told "failure to do this, and failure to do that", it's not surprising you feel like a failure.

It's all bollocks, of course, but impossible to see that at the time ? and for some time afterwards. Some people can brush it off and carry on. I couldn't. Many can't.

On the upside, though, lastnerve, having been induced at 40+16 with DD1, I went into labour on my due date with DD2. I was happier than you could ever have imagined someone having contractions could be. It wasn't anything like as painful (I'd also thought I was a wimp for needing an epidural when "only 3 cms", in truth it was because my uterus was hyperstimulated, not because I was pathetic) and DD2 was born after just 4 hours active labour, in water, with just a bit of gas and air when she crowned.

Truth be told, it was only this, beautifully redemptive experience which really banished the PND I'd had following DD1, and allowed me to move on.

On the practical side, I truly believe acupuncture helped a lot with getting me into labour on my due date. I started sessions a month before and ratcheted up the intensity as we went along. I had my last session 12 hours before I went into labour. Get someone recommended for antenatal accupuncture though. I found mine through the NCT. Cant hurt to try?

Really hoping it goes better for you this time... Ignore those who have belittled your feelings on here. There are many of us who understand them and sympathise.

((((((un-mumsnetty hugs))))))))

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I had a similar delivery to you first time at 42+17. Was convinced the same thing was going to happen again but went into labour and had a natural delivery at 42+10

My first vaginal delivery was hard going too but my second was amazing. Just a totally different experience and so easy and natural!

Thankyou for the supportive comments.

I'm 5'8/9 so maybe that tall theory has some stead.

I have also thought It maybe because a relative came to stay with me like 6 weeks before I was due and literally did everything around the house I basically slept all the time and just lazed around I wonder if that is more the reason.

This time I have a 3 year old the size of a 5 year old to haul around and a home to run. so I may come more on time. I can handle being a bit overdue its just being induced really. I think psychologically it would be pretty bad.

Hi lastnerve, I was induced with both my boys but the births couldn't have been more different - DS1 induced cos of PROM, agonising pain, epidural finally given, 12hrs of labour, baby born in theatre one push away from a section.

When I knew I would need to be induced 2nd time around (pre-eclampsia) I asked for an epidural immediately, DS2 was born after 4 hrs, in a peaceful labour room, with dh and the MW present. It was bliss .

I know epidurals aren't everyone's cup of tea but it worked for us. Good luck!

Thankyou maybe I am getting too hysterical too quickly.

I ended up having 2 emergency c-sections and I know what you are saying, I went through a phase of being envious of other people and feeling like a failure as a woman. I have now got over myself and am thankful that the medical intervention saved my own and my two boys lives. That's all that matters really. Induction was dreadful for me. It's not pc but I wouldn't hesitate to book myself in for an elective section if I were evere to have another.