To be getting more and more angry

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I probably abu because I'm hormonal but....
I'm getting more and more pissed off at a friends gf's fb status... Story is (if anyone is interested)
We got married late last year but I was pregnant so we decided to postpone our honeymoon until this year.
DH's best friend announces he's getting married abroad in an expensive place
DH asks if we could go there for our honeymoon so we could go to the wedding as well.
Not somewhere is usually go but I agreed as DH really wanted to go.
Wedding is in 6 weeks time.
Last week they called it off and decided to cancel everything.
So now there's 30+ people all booked up to go there and no wedding to go to.
Now she's posting all over fb that she wanting to book various places (that I'd rather have gone to) I just want to write on there.
"so would I but I'm stuck going somewhere id rather not THANKS"
It doesn't really matter I suppose because it's our belated honeymoon and we are going to have fun but it just pisses me off, surely she should have a bit more respect for the people who have just spent over £1000 on going to their none existant wedding !! Phew rant over !!! God reading this back no wonder DH told me to stop moaning lol

I'm guessing she's also very cut up her that wedding is over and relationship has broken up?

Can't you cancel and book somewhere you actually want t ogo?

her behaviour is outrageous!

I would speak to her directy and say 'look, do you realise that there are 30 people with expensive airline tickets, and we re-arranged our own honeymoon to fit your Plan A, so it's rather insensitive to be posting the way you are'.

Oh, I see - is the wedding off, or being arranged for elsewhere?

Do you have travel insurance? I wonder whether it covers event cancellation? Probably not, but maybe worth checking.

Why have they cancelled? Are they rebooking for somewhere else or is it just wishful thinking on her part? I can see why you're annoyed but there's no point in replying to that fb status in the way you suggest.

yanbu at all and I would be very pissed off to have paid that amount of money which could have been spent on somewhere you really do want to go for a belated honeymoon/holiday, is there any chance of getting your money back?

If not go and enjoy then post all the pictures of what a fab time you had

I would also post on her fb page to let her know how annoyed I was but I am a bitch like that

blu suggestion is great I would put that on her fb wall!

They haven't broken up they just decided not to get married, they haven't been together long !!
DH won't let me speak to her about it because of his friend.
Suppose I should just breathe and calm down !! Our honeymoon holiday vouchers have been spent now so we are going to make the most of it !!

I would be pissed off at you arriving at my wedding " on honeymoon". She prob cancelled cos of you.

Was it at butlins Skegness?

Oh.
Well enjoy the honeymoon and thank god you Won't be married to either party.

Can you get married at Butlins ? That sounds like a fun filled cheese fest

YANBU to think it OP but dont post it, rise above. She sounds like a selfish piece of work and if I were in your shoes i'd be declining the invitation to wherever the hell she decides to book next. When asked why you can explain you cant afford it due to booking a trip to her first choice of venue!

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I think you can hire Peter Andre to minister the sacrament for a small fee.

I'm fence-sitting a bit here because actually, if a couple aren't ready to get married it makes a lot of sense to cancel rather than go through with it just because it might let people down. Any cancelled wedding is going to cause problems for guests.

However, I'm equally unimpressed with people who book the sort of wedding that require guests to spend silly amounts of money to attend. And I'd not be at all thrilled to read breezy little comments on FB that suggest the couple have given absolutely no consideration to their guests. Some of whom are now stuck with the expense of travelling to a non-event.

We won't be going next time chunky.. We couldn't afford this without our honeymoon money, it cost us over £250 to go to their engagement party too. Thank god we didn't go to hen/stag parties haha
I've calmed down now so no fb posting this time

YANBU and what chunkyjojo said.

It will be much ncier to go on honeymoon without a wedding in the middle anyway. Have a lovely time!

I totally agree with pandemoniaa

I think you should write what you suggested on that staus...I fucking would!

What a selfish airheaded inconsiderate twat she is.

I'd post what you said in your first post - in fact I'd probably post more than that. Don't this couple care that they've buggered everyone about and cost them all so much money It'll serve them bloody right if nobody goes to their actual wedding now. I certainly wouldn't go.

I'd be LIVID OP. YANBU.

We spent a fortune last year to go to a destination wedding in a location we wouldn't have otherwise chosen and had to forgo other holidays for a couple of years to afford it. If they'd cancelled I'd have been really irked, but put it down to one of those things. If the bride to be then started shouting about alternative travels, I'd have been furious. Mr. Pru would have insisted We rise about it though and remain quietly dignified as is his wont. I'd have had itchy FB finger though just dying to drop an acerbic line to shut her up

Just defriend her.

Okaaaay. Bit of positive reframing here ... You're going somewhere fabulous for your honeymoon, and so are loads of your friends! Parteeee!!

Have a fantastic time And post it all on FB

Ludicrous, selfish behavior by her.

Similar thing happened to my DP, his best friend called of a wedding at v short notice, but that was due to relationship breakdown. Luckily for the guests, it was to be held locally, but 8 guys had arranged to go to Las Vegas for the stag, was non refundable.

Anyhow, my DP was best man and it was a tough time for him, but the guys went to Vegas anyway (minus cold footed groom) and had a blast.

To me, the moral of the story is that while a) its always better to call off a wedding than to go through with it for the sake of politeness, its also b) daft and selfish to expect others to make expensive and inconvenient travel plans on your behalf.

In this case, my heart was breaking for the bride, and I also felt sorry for the groom. But as my DP had to sort out so much of the fallout, I also thought why did you muppets not just stay living together until you were absolutely sure.

feck me... you must really want to poke her in the eye...
I'm annoyed for you!!

where are you going on your honeymoon then? is it somewhere nice?

Wish they were my friends Garlic but we don't know any of them haha
But your right. We will have a great time, hopefully the weather will be good and we will post about it on fb.