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to think this is a stupid idea?

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extremepie · 15/07/2012 17:29

A friend of mine has a 5yr old DS.

His ex and his son's half siblings live up north so he doesn't get to see them very often.

He has decided to take his DS out of school on the last day of term to go and visit his ex and his siblings.

I understand that he wants to take him for a visit but why does he have to take his DS out of school to do it?

Neither he or his ex work so I know that isn't an issue for them, I don't get why he can't wait until the weekend, or any of the following 6 weeks of the holiday!

Admittedly he probably isn't going to miss much 'learning' on the last day of term but I kind of feel like that isn't the point. I'm not sure why this is bothering me so much, possibly because said friend's DS got into an extremely good, oversubscribed school (they even increased the class size for him) and I feel like DF (friend) is not very appriciative of this fact by pulling his DS out of school whenever he feels like it for quite flakey reasons.

Arrrg, am I just being an unreasonable bitch who should mind her own business?

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picnicbasketcase · 15/07/2012 17:31

In the nicest possible way, yes you should mind your own business.

PenisVanLesbian · 15/07/2012 17:31

Yes, to the last bit. None of your concern if someone elses kid misses school.

Dprince · 15/07/2012 17:31

Yes you are and yes you should. (although I wouldn't have used the word bitch :) )

Tee2072 · 15/07/2012 17:32

Picnic is nicer than me.

Beak out. You sound like a jealous cow, not a friend.

RuleBritannia · 15/07/2012 17:34

Are you the new (prospective) partner of the man you are talking about?

mumeeee · 15/07/2012 17:35

Perhaps they have something planned for the weekend, It's the last day of term and will be beter than travelling on the first weekend of the school holidays.

SPsFanjoLovesRussellHoward · 15/07/2012 17:35

Keep out of it.

Herbsmum · 15/07/2012 17:35

What?
I really think you should keep your nose out.
Last day of term,aged 5. Not a huge issue imho

RuleBritannia · 15/07/2012 17:35

It doesn't matter whether or not you are, you should keep your nose out.

50shadesofslapntickle · 15/07/2012 17:38

I think you make a valid point - why can't he wait, but sadly it is up to him - although he should really think more and wait

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extremepie · 15/07/2012 17:39

I probably am a jealous cow but why does he have to make his son miss a day of school?

Its not like its the only day he can visit!

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PenisVanLesbian · 15/07/2012 17:40

Why shouldn't he, if he wants to? Its not like he's not going to have like a million more days of school....

StripyMagicDragon · 15/07/2012 17:41

YABU. none of your business. I think it's down to jealousy over the school, as you say.

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extremepie · 15/07/2012 17:41

Oh and, helllll no Rule Britannia, he his one of DH's best friends, have known him about 16 years!

I'm not going to say anything to him about it but it just bothers me that he doesn't seem to think it's a problem (FWIW, this isn't the first time he has taken him out of school for non-essential reasons).

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akaemmafrost · 15/07/2012 17:43

What on earth does it have to do with you?

God there's some weird posts on MN today Confused.

pinkyredrose · 15/07/2012 17:44

I wish I had your life OP. I wish I had so little to worry about.

Tee2072 · 15/07/2012 17:45

Seriously, get a grip. Not even sure what it has to do with you anyway. Except that you're nosy and interfering.

SaraBellumHertz · 15/07/2012 18:01

But it's not a problem. Really it is not.

TapirBackRider · 15/07/2012 18:13

Taking a 5yr old from school on the last day of the year to visit his family (who he hardly gets to see) is not a non essential trip.

Also, "Its not like its the only day he can visit!" - how on earth do you know this? Are you really privy to the day to day workings of this family to this extent?

The child is not missing anything important, and you sound as though you have a problem with this dad, and not just about missing one day of school.

YABU.

EllenParsons · 15/07/2012 18:14

YABU - not sure why it's your business at all tbh

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extremepie · 15/07/2012 18:21

-how on earth do you know this? Are you really privy to the day to day workings of this family to this extent? -

Sadly, I am, we speak every day and he delights us with all the ins and outs of his life. That's how I know about the trip in the first place!

I didn't realise there would be so many people who would not think a child missing school is a big deal!

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LadyBeagleEyes · 15/07/2012 18:22

I really don't understand why it bothers you so much Op Confused.
It really is none of your business.

picnicbasketcase · 15/07/2012 18:24

A year 6 child skipping a day when there's a test or something, that would be bad.

A five year old, last day of term when they're likely to watch a DVD and play all day, not really that bad.

alrightythen · 15/07/2012 18:29

Are you sure that you're not just pissed off that this friend's son got into a good school more than him missing the last day of school? Do you have kids? did they get into the same school?.

Like others have said it's really none of your business what he chooses to do with his son on the very last day of term.

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extremepie · 15/07/2012 18:30

-The child is not missing anything important-

That's not really the point, the fact is it is a school day and DF doesn't really have a good reason for him not to be there.

Although I am sure that the fact my DS (same age) has struggled to get any school place at all, let alone one in one of the most oversubscribed schools in town, is colouring my view somewhat!

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