To feel a bit sorry for friends DD?

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I know this is none f my business but.....

My friend's DD (she is 14) was reading a book (not going to go into details and "out" myself - but it was made into a film and had a 12 cert).

Friend saw book had the word "fuck" in it and confiscated it.

AIBU to think this is a bit harsh (although I question a lot of censorship and said friend thinks I'm far too liberal!!).

Bit of an overreaction imo.

Very tame compared to what most 14 years see, hear and say these days. She is a nut.

Haha.....if she let's her dd out if the house then she IBU

If she keeps her indoors all the time, then you are BU

Yep she is a nut.

Anyone who has ever sat on a school bus will know that they swear like troopers waaaaay before they're 14.

Seriously.

My DD (12) turns down songs on her phone/ipod when they contain swear words so that I won't be offended .

OMG - YABU we simply cannot have 14 year olds reading words like 'F*CK'. It is not on. She did exactly the right thing and your pity is misplaced.

Errr which planet is she living on????

She can be a bit controlling about her DD - and I worry she'll push her the other way - is hard to suggest otherwise though.

It depends on the context. Don't particularly like gratuitous swearing as, what's the point. But can be great. Think opening of four weddings. Someone once told me that fuck is the only word in the English language that can be a noun, verb and adjective in the same sentence. " the fucking, fucker's fucked". So YANBU unless swearing just pointless. Further, why all the hang ups about swear words, that generally refer to sex and body parts when we happily use words like torture, murder and genocide, which I think describe horrendous acts. (steps down from soapbox).

Blimey, at that age I was reading my mums copies of Jackie Collins Books!

Ridiculous!

"She can be a bit controlling about her DD - and I worry she'll push her the other way"

yeah exactly that!

Was is fuck as in sex or fuck as in fuck i just dropped a rock on my foot?

Either way I think it's a bit Ott she should be glad to have a 14 year old who reads full stop!

skippy84 Yes my thoughts exactly.

I was allowed to read anything I liked (apart from The Sun) from an early age.

Never mind reading the word, DD (14) suspects her class mates of doing it.

She just has a tendency to sneak sixth form only books out of the school library.
Game of Thrones being her latest and the HBO series warrants an 18 certificate.
I ought to read it, DD says there is plenty of sex. It's nudity that sends the video rating skywards.

Yes OH loves Game of Thrones too

There's quite a lot of "interesting" sex in Game of Thrones: incest, rape , etc (not to mention a lot of violence) - if you haven't read it and your children are it might be worth giving it a look over so you can address any issues that may come up.

The Hunger Games? Heard they took out 'a word' to get it down to target audience certification. YANBU. I wrote a tiny booklet of all the swear words I knew once, about age 10?, and that word was the centre spread. My GM found it , but my Mum just smoothed it over by saying 'Well don't worry too much; GM does know all those words already.'

She must be on another planet if she thinks she's protecting her child with that.

MY dd read trainsspotting at 15 your friend would have a heart attack

yanbu it is just a word and she is 14 not 4

I read Riders when I was about 12

I found 'Last Tango in Paris' on the bookshelf, also at 12, and started reading it after my mum told me that she couldn't remember but thought it was a love story. I put it back again absolutely disgusted! Then curiosity got the better of me and I finished it a week later. I've still no idea if my mum actually realises what I read.

I honestly cannot believe that anyone of this generation of parents to teenagers would be so naive as to think their teenager should be shielded from such atrocities as the word "fuck".

I am 43.. my stepkids are in their mid 20's, and I really do find it quite unbelievable to read of the bubbles that some parents much younger than myself seem to live in, and try to raise their children in.

why are people on here more liberal to this stuff and saying they see, say and do worse at school yet go completely wackadoodle with the same issues in games and films?

I've never understood what damage people believe hearing or reading words such as "fuck" will do to their children? Surely if you teach your children that swearing is unpleasant and that only people with limited vocabularies swear profusely there is no problem?

YABU. It's not that the kids won't hear these words elsewhere, but it's a sign that you don't think it's a word you really want them to use or find to be just the same as any other word.

My mum is a primary school teacher. One of the 9 yr old kids wrote a story in which one of their characters said "shit" a lot. My mum let it go as it was the kind of thing this character would have said.

She wrote it up on his report as "Jack understands appropriate use of colloquial language in dialogue"