to be getting more and more pissed off?

[GotMyLittleLamb]

DH has invited some mates over to ours tonight to play a tabletop game they are all involved with.

About 5.30pm he mentioned that he told them I was cooking for them but "you've left it to late now so we will just have to not eat" I said no worries and made lasagne, plus a quorn one for his veggie mate.

It was ready (along with garlic bread) at 7pm, I asked them if they wanted it and they said they were just finishing a game so I should plate it up, its now been sat on the side going cold for over an hour, I've mentioned it twice in between feeding 5 week old DD and trying to settle her (I actually made their tea with her in a sling) and they have still not touched it.

I'm proper pissed off, he didn't tell me he had offered my cooking skills and now they are being really unappreciative. I know its daft and its really out of character for DH, he's normally very appreciative of anything like this.

should I just ignore it and let them have it cold or not bother if thats what they want?? I'm tempted to bin it or donate it to our struggling neighbours who would be more than appreciative!!

I'm being tired and hormonal aren't I?? Maybe I should have a gin and leave DD with them while I have a bath.

I may well have set fire to his hair if my husband had invited his mates over when I had a newborn and promised them a home cooked meal to boot.

OP, it is great that you don't mind cooking.

Still, I would not cook for people who do not appreciate it, or if my DH had a sense of entitlement about me doing any catering come hell or high weather.

In this scenario, the boys could have ordered a pizza/curry, and you could have just gone and had a nice bath.

when I had a newborn, and we got friends over, I often got pizza. Never done it since as I like cooking, but life can be hard with a new born. And partners better appreciate that! My DH made ME snacks and drinks in that stage!

Flipping eck, didn't expect people to be quite this outraged. DH is not disrespectful, he messed up and got carried away in his game and him and his mates apologised later on. I wouldn't be 'setting his hair on fire' or anything really. This was the first time he had friends over since DD came home and he normally cooks for me and looks after me. I was simply feeling bloody unappreciated when I started the thread.

Not sure why people are calling dedee for the term hobby wife, I described myself as a 'warhammer widow' up thread, these hobbies are just quite all encompassing for the people who play them.

I don't think you're a doormat - I'd have been a bit peeved at his comment but it obviously wasn't meant in a nasty way and I'm sure he's sorry.you sound like you have a lovely relationship. I struggle to understand the 'i's never cook for my husband and friends' comments - why not? I've cooked for dp's friends (and taken them drinks - gasp) and dp has cooked for mine / set up the garden and bbq when I had a girly day with friends etc! Enjoy your gin OP!

I know what your saying about being a warhammer widow - my friend describes herself as a fishermans widow! She doesn't mind and we actually have great days out at the woods/ beach/ swimming whilst her DH goes fishing. He often springs us some cash for coffee and cake (from his tips so his not their money iyswim?).

He also has all 3 of our DC's (1 is mine) so my friend and I can go out sometimes. Works both ways.

Have read your DD was premmie - 26 weeks WOW. She sounds as if she's doing really well and so do you.
I also wonder of your DP 'forgot' himself as he relaxed after these stressful weeks. I know it's been stressful for you too but I hope YSWIM.

FWIW you've handled yourself brilliantly on this thread.

LOL!
You are very good, i would have thrown a multipack of crisps on the table and left them to it!

hi youarekidding thanks, your absolutely right. It has been hugely horrible for him too and he was probably just relaxing and forgetting about all the crap he has been dealing with. He has been hugely supportive of me through all this and he has had to be at work while I have been coping with it. 26 weeks was a bit of a shock yep, she is doing just amazingly :)

doublecake I thought it was pretty normal in a partnership to do things for each other, seems we are a rare breed and I should never cook for my DH

thanks nosleep might be the plan next time.

DS plays warhammer. I paint them. It is very handy. I drop him off at the club Friday evening, his dad picks him up and has him for the weekend.

It takes AAAGGGEEESSS to set the flaming things up before they even start playing and then they spend half the time arguing over what the rules really mean

I would love to see other painters models if they have piccies.

Well without actually having been there, I'm guessing that if your DH is lovely most of the time "you've left it to late" could have just been shorthand for "I've left it too late to ask you to cook something"...

I totally sympathise with the situation, my DP is a gamer and it is SO annoying when I have a lovingly-cooked dinner ready and he just needs "10 more minutes" to finish his level or whatever. Add the multiple other friends plus the newborn and the hour-long wait...yeah, I'd be fuming too.

It's kinda sweet that he and his friends all eventually appeared one by one suitably chastened to tell you they appreciated your cooking though :-)

Of course cook for your DH. But cooking for your DH and mates without argument after he's been really rude to you seems a bit odd from an outsiders perspective, even without a baby in tow.