to think that marking your place on a sensitive thread with a . is crass and insensitive?

[MardyBra]

There is a watch thread function, if you want to lurk.

Of if you must, at least add a phrase of support or something for the OP.

I'm always happy for someone to post "I agree with Mardy"

I've not used watch, yet.

Freddos thank you thank you! I had to change one of the settings in Customise but now it works!

Brilliant, I am going to save so much time.

Oh, and obviously I agree with Mardy.

You have redeemed yourself Hearts

"It's like the posters who watch sensitive threads, don't post anything, and then about a week later come back and demand an update from the op . Not even a "I'm wondering how she is" but a "why hasn't she come back to tell us"."

Oh god yes, there's always this absolute outrage that the OP got advice and then didn't have the "decency" to keep people updated, like they are owed an update.

I know the thread you mean, I was shocked someone could be so insensitive and so blatantly as well. I wanted to say something but that would of been just as bad :(

To be fair if someone posts a "." at least they are not pretending. There are som many posts where the poster is obviously just posting the bare minimum to mark their place, which is pretty sickening.

I saw it too and thought it was wrong but a thread about a thread is also wrong. :)

Is that what they're doing!? I saw that and assumed it was a mistake, how awful to do that!

Lemon In this case, it's a thread about a full stop. A separate thread is justified in this case imo as I didn't want to derail the thread in question. Unfortunately it has been derailed anyway.

ItsAll I know what you mean. But at least posting with the bare minimum is offering some support, and could potentially be given the benefit of the doubt. It's a fine line.

Annie The person who linked to Facebook derailed it. And that has obviously upset the OP. And it was important that it was pointed out.

What was sad was that it turned into a debate about Facebook linking.

Mardy actually I take that back I think you are right to start this thread. You are right that it would not have been appropriate to mention it on the thread.

I think whoever reported it was right to do so too.

Thanks Lemon.

Anyway, maybe we should back away from this thread now that the OP in the other one has asked for some more privacy.

I saw that today, and thought the same thing. The poster could've just said they had nothing to add, but wanted to voice support.

And if bumping, surely could say "bumping to get to the top of Active Convos" which shows support, as well.

I saw the one (I assume) this post is about and was a bit too

I had meant the comment on thread aboit a thread in a jokey manner anyway, hence the smiley.

And as for whoever linked it to fb, there really are no words to express my disbelief at that.

Lemon I'd assumed that was a passive aggressive smiley. It just goes to show how things can be easily misinterpreted. I tend to go for the if I'm joking.

Annie - everything you said was spot on; you shouldn't feel bad. Other people were being idiots.

Anyway, as I said just now, I think we should back away as the OP in the other thread wanted some privacy.

I saw it and thought it was completely out of place there. Also cannot believe someone would treat it like some daily mail story and recommend it on fb as worth a gawp. It slams the door in the face of the OP who needed and got some great support and advice.

Couldn't do a wink as I'm typing on my kindle. Not ideal for mning.

I don't know the thread you're talking about but I hate it on all threads. On sensitive threads obviously it's incredibly rude and unsupportive, but on normal threads it's also rude as people don't want to have to trawl through loads of posts containing only full stops or 'marking place' to actually read the thread!