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Original poster

missed calls

60 replies

MyLittleMiracles · 12/07/2012 00:51

Does anyone on here think that 81 missed calls in less than two hours is far far too many at nearly one AM from the same person you told you were going to bed three hours ago, and still ringing!!! I have told them to let me sleep BTW.

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CaliforniaLeaving · 12/07/2012 03:06

Don't answer it at all. If he is a stalker he'll say to himself that she'll answer if I keep ringinf eventually. Cut him off completely and let the Police know.
Then read Gavin DeBeckers books, Protecting the gift and The Gift of fear. It'll give you a whole new out look on creepy and scary dangerous people.

CaliforniaLeaving · 12/07/2012 03:07

That was ringing not ringif

LottieJenkins · 12/07/2012 03:48

I had a similar problem a few years ago. You can take out a harassment warning order. When i rang the police they asked if i had told him to stop i replied that i had and that he had continued after. They said that because he had continued then that was grounds for the order!!!

RichManPoorManBeggarmanThief · 12/07/2012 04:07

Pick it up and blow a whistle down it

LottieJenkins · 12/07/2012 04:24

I wouldnt advocate the whistle. If you do go to the police then he can hold that against you. Don't give him any excuse to have comeback at you!!

Dprince · 12/07/2012 07:21

Just call the police this morning, please.
He sounds unhinged and dangerous. If he is just a knob he will shit his pants when if the police go round. If he id dangerous you need to start logging the instances.
I had this once. Guy I hadn't actually ever gone put with assumed that because me and dh split I would go out with him. He would phone me screaming and threatening me, then text 30 mins later asking if me and my dd wanted to go round for Sunday lunch.
It ended because my neighbour (an ex policeman and friend of my dads) saw him hanging about outside my house in the middle of the night. He went out and this bloke had a bat. Scared the shit out of me. Luckily my neighbour scared the shit out of him and called the police who arrested him. Never heard from him again.
Me and dh got back together and I still worry what would happen if this person saw us together.
Please don't ignore it.

Suzietastic · 12/07/2012 07:25

Call the police. That is not normal behaviour.

chipsandmushypeas · 12/07/2012 07:30

Does he know where you live?

HecateHarshPants · 12/07/2012 07:34

Sorry about your friend's dad.

This guy calling you is a nutter. You need to log it with the police and tell him that if he doesn't leave you alone, you are going to report him for stalking you.

Noqontrol · 12/07/2012 07:56

You need to call the police. This man sounds dangerous and you do not know where it will end. I had an ex who stalked me once. I only got rid of him when i moved a long way away and told close family only my address. Even 20 years later i have no idea what he would do if he saw me, but it would not be a good outcome.

101 calls in this amount of time is not good or even vaguely acceptable behaviour. You need to contact the police. Seriously, the guy is unhinged, and not in a good or endearing way. And you need to be careful.

storminabuttercup · 12/07/2012 08:02

YY police, as soon as you get up. Keep a note of all the numbers he is using too just incase they go off your call list.

Don't engage further.

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ErikNorseman · 12/07/2012 08:05

Instead of posting about it on mumsnet how about doing something about it? Police, today.

SoleSource · 12/07/2012 08:12

Nutter alert! Change your number/FB name etc Hope he doesn't know where you live?
How long has this been going on for? Advise police so they at least have been informed. Change daily routine if possible.

LottieJenkins · 12/07/2012 08:14

Erik the lady was asking for advice which is what Mumsnet is all about!!!!

LottieJenkins · 12/07/2012 08:18

I am on BT Choose to Refuse which you pay quarterly for. I blocked an old lady the other day who has been ringing my number for years asking for Audrey!!! Angry

Noqontrol · 12/07/2012 08:28

Is am AIBU an advice forum though lottiejenkins? you might get advice here, which actually erik has given, but advice isn't something that is a requirement here.

LottieJenkins · 12/07/2012 08:34

withdraws her remark!! Confused

valiumredhead · 12/07/2012 08:58

Why don't you just block the number?

Noqontrol · 12/07/2012 09:53

Lottie Grin

Kayano · 12/07/2012 09:55

Call the police

Original poster
MyLittleMiracles · 12/07/2012 10:00

He has phoned from (so far) 6 different numbers, tried with holding his number, texts from various phones, it all is freaky. Reporting to the police today. I don't phone or message people constantly, unless of course we are messaging each other back.

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FormerlyTitledUntidy · 12/07/2012 10:03

Erik, I think we can say that about most things on MN.
OP I think you should call the police. Someone ringing that many times is worrying. Combine it with the Facebook stuff and he comes across very unwell.

FormerlyTitledUntidy · 12/07/2012 10:03

X post. :)

CockOff · 12/07/2012 10:06

PSYCHO ALERT

You need a loud whistle

ErikNorseman · 12/07/2012 10:35

My comment was because op didn't seem to be taking it seriously. And does anyone really need to ask whether being stalked and harassed online and by phone in the middle of the night is unreasonable? How fucked must your danger radar be not to immediately delete, block and report?
Op I'm glad to hear you are going to report to the police. This man is a danger, not just a weirdo.

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