to think that if your sibling gets there first (name thread)

[Ithinkitsjustme]

Reading through another name thread, I remember a friend who called her son Jack, even though her brother also had a Jack. AIBU to think that you should choose another first name for your child, even if you really like the name. How confusing for grandparents.

Yes, I agree. One of my sisters has given her boys names I liked and might have used, and the other sister has done the same with one of her girls. I wasn't even in a relationship when my nieces and nephews were born; my sisters got there first and that's fair enough. There are lots of other names to choose from. It wouldn't occur to me to have a problem with it.

Yes, makes sense to choose a different name to save confusion.

YABU. I'm sure the grandparents can figure it out, may even be helpful in their old age

Every first born male child on my mum's side was named John. Now, my mother's mother was 1 of 10 children, so you can imagine how many John's popped up in my mother's generation...

Yes a different name would be better and more unique, there is nothing worse than over-popular names especially when family choose to name everyone the same name

YANBU, no one owns a name.

*YABU

Different names would have been better.

My dads side of the family have a boys name that they all get, going back many, many years. It can be confusing !

I actually know someone with two sons with the same name. They have different mothers, but obviously share a set of grandparents and all the other members of their father's family.
One of my great uncles was called Albert and he had a brother named Bert

My mother and her sister had children with the same name.I think my mother thought our cousin would be flattered, and my godmother also had the same name.

My brother and my cousin have the same name (dbro is younger) my uncle was flattered. Suits them both as well.
Not an issue for me.

Yabu I don't think it is a bus deal for cousins to have the same name.

Dh and I 'chose' our boy's name 8 years ago. 2 years ago SiL said she liked that name for a boy (but had a girl). It wouldn't stop us using the name we love and feels right even if there was another in the family.

A bus deal? Big deal!

My sister had a melt down when I told her we were planning on calling DS1 the name she liked (we didn't know she liked it, she was not pregnant and wasn't planning on being pregnant!) anyway we chose a different name. She had a girl 5 months after DS1 was born and has recently had a DS, I told her I would be very upset if she didn't use the name after the fit she had. she did.

DS1 is now 4, and I'm glad we chose a different name cos he really suits it.

I think it's confusing, but it's really not a big deal, imo.

But perhaps that's 14 years of my inlaws Let's pretend my surname is Mwangi. The eldest son of each of my PILs children is known as Mwangi. Even though their first names are not Mwangi. It goes back to the old way of naming children. Before surnames as they are today (the english model) The eldest daughters each have the same name too. Let's say Njeri. My husband is one of ten and each of them bar one had at least 2 children, most had 3!

So you can have conversations like "I have just been speaking to Mwangi, he's at mum's with Mwangi and Mwangi. They're meeting Njeri and Mwangi later, but Njeri can't come.

I have been known to scream "WHICH BLOODY ONE?" at him

I also get calls from my inlaws where they ask me how my little Mwangi is (meaning my eldest son) and my little Bernard (let's pretend that's my dad's name. Second sons go with the mother's father's name)

You do manage to work out who you're all on about. Eventually.

Bet 2 Jacks ain't sounding so bad now, eh?

I did.

My sis stole the name I had chosen for DS.

So, I had to go with second best and TBH I hardly remember that it was second choice.

Wow. That must be fun at family parties .

Palviaso os right, though.

It would have been easier for my parents if 4 grandsons had the same name. :o

YABU, it's forindividualfamilies todecide on this.

Names can be changed, as in Will, Billy, William, Tony, Anthony, etc.

It has happened on the male side of my ex DH's family, there has never been any confusion. It is unlikely that they are born on the same day, so become Big.. or Elder....

I once knew a family where all the men were called Paul and all the women had Paul as their middle name.

So there was

Paul Smith-GF
Mary Paul Smith- GM (changed name officially when DH asked her too!).

Then:
Paul Smith - DF
Sarah Paul Smith - DM (changed name like GM).

They had children

Lizzy Paul Smith

Ruth Paul Smith

Paul Smith.

*Surname wasn't really Smith.

They were a strange bunch.

honestly I'd rather my mother had had a little more imagination and not given me the same name as my cousin.....

different surnames so not a huge deal but I'd still have preferred to have my 'own' name

alphabite that is the strangest set up ever

Although hecate isn't far behind!

My cousin has a cousin on the other side of his family with the same name as him. They often get each others emails apparently.

In my dad's family loads of boys have the same first name (pretend it's John) so at least 50% of the boys are refered to by there middle name, which meant that some of them were refered to by there cousins first names, so those children had to be refered to by there middle names...

eg:

John Edward (known as Edward)
Edward David (known as David)
David John (known as Jack because no name available)

It's bloody confusing!

Mil has 2 brothers both called John

Her dad had an affair and mistress used the same name as nana!

Is it jerome Jackson who has funny names for his kids?