To think she could have offered some money back

[crazedupmom]

Ds aged 11 recently went on a sun holiday with a friend from school and I offered £40 to the mates mother to cover a meal a day although she said she wasn,t too fussed.
Ds also went with £90 pocket money.
It was for a monday to friday stay.
Anyway ds is a bit of a anxious sort long story and it was a question of whether he would settle with them whilst on holiday.
We did end up collecting ds on the tuesday evening and I sort of thought that I would have been offered at least half of my 40 back.
The time they was there from what I can see ds and his mate spent all of their time in the arcade where ds managed to spend £40 of his pocket money ds also tells me that he spent at least half of this on his mate down the arcade as his mom had only given him a couple of pound.
I had told her to just give ds a tenner at a time but she let them both go off with ds carrying £90 in his wallet.
What do you think am I been mean or do I have a point.

I think an 11 year old should know to spend only 10 a day and take only that amount out with him

YABU grow up

YABU on 3 counts

First in listening to your family when they say she is taking the piss. WTF? Do they think she planned it as a money-making scheme? I could think of better ones...

Secondly in giving your DS £90 pocket money if you didn't want him to spend it.

Thirdly in thinking you should get some money back because he didn't stay the whole time - as pp's have pointed out, if you cut a holiday short you don't generally get any money back unless it's the holiday company's fault.

YABU on a few levels...

1. Being petty over that amount of cash. She took your kid on holiday.

1. Letting your son go on the holiday in teh first place if you knew he was anxious/would be likely that he would need collecting. They could have asked someone else more likely to stay on the holiday with their DS. Bit dog in the manger of your DS tbh.

1. He is 11, not 5. Will you drive and collect him if he does residentials at secondary school? He will be a laughing stock if you do.

1. He is 11, not 5. He needs to learn to budget a bit better.

1. You gave her £40 for food. I imagine she incorporated it into her money when she did the food shop. Did you want her to take the food your son didn't eat and get a refund for it?