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Original poster

to think that after an hour of ballet, an hours walk in the park and 2 hours at indoor climbing centre...

49 replies

ontheedgeofwhatever · 07/07/2012 18:06

Its alright to let DD have a big slab of chocolate cake and a milk shake and the snooty woman who was sitting at the next table going on about it being no wonder there are so many obese children should keep her nose out of our business.

IMHO DD had used a lot of energy and there was nothing wrong with a treat

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ontheedgeofwhatever · 07/07/2012 18:07

Pressed post too soon - I did say to her taht DD had done a lot of exercise today so was allowed a treat but she just kept on bad mouthing the youth of today as she picked at her manky looking sald

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whatlauradid · 07/07/2012 18:07

YANBU. There is nothing wrong with treats in a balanced, active lifestyle. Judgey woman!

frankie76 · 07/07/2012 18:08

Yep I hate judgy pants
My dd lives on healthy food but once every few weeks we go have tea (me) and cake - hate the looks you can get
Its her monthly treat!!

smellyolddog · 07/07/2012 18:09

You know what even without all of the morning activitys she can have some cake if she wants!!

GrassIsntGreener · 07/07/2012 18:09

Tit. Wish people wouldn't comment, milkshake isn't a bad drink anyway it's not like you had an 18 month old drinking coke!

GrassIsntGreener · 07/07/2012 18:10

*tut

BeatriceBean · 07/07/2012 18:10

You only have cake once a month?!

whackamole · 07/07/2012 18:11

I think it's absolutely none of her business, and unless your daughter has rolls of fat hanging off the edge of her chair then I don't even know why she noticed!

BonnieBumble · 07/07/2012 18:15

Ds was eating a chapati the other day it was left over from lunch and he grabbed it as we were on our way out the door to collect ds1 from school. A little girl asked her mum what he was eating and she replied " it's some sort of cake and it's huge for such a little boy, you only eat healthy food don't you sweetie".

I didn't bother wasting my breath on correcting her and was bemused that somebody could mistake a chapati for a cake!

WorraLiberty · 07/07/2012 18:15

Where are these people who are always making comments like this to total strangers?

Why have I never come across people like this in over 20yrs of parenting? Confused

KittyFane1 · 07/07/2012 18:19

Who are these people? Do some people really never eat cake?!

KittyFane1 · 07/07/2012 18:20

Who are not are !!

BBisHavingAnotherBBaby · 07/07/2012 18:27

Loud pretentious parenting, she obviously has something to prove. Tit!
We had this on holiday in shitty minehead had some woman comment on how "its disgraceful teenagers dont work and have too many kids" being pregnant irrational and not a teenager i approached her table and loudly corrected her Grin and told her that if she was "going to be so loud in her bigoted opinions she may wish to ensure she was correct, or alternatively get a bloody life" she left pretty sharpish Grin

Meglet · 07/07/2012 18:29

yanbu.

CurrySpice · 07/07/2012 18:32

I've never come across these people either

CecilyP · 07/07/2012 18:37

I would just tell her to stay away from cafes that sell cake, in future. And, if you want to buy your DD a cake, you really do not have to justify it to anyone.

Catsmamma · 07/07/2012 18:41

me either and I have three children and love tea and coffee shops!

MammaTJ · 07/07/2012 18:42

It is horrible when people think they can judge your parenting.

WorraLiberty, you probably give off a 'don't fuck with me' vibe, so people don't try it. They don't do it often with me either.

BB, at the risk of outing myself, my home town is lovely!!! Did you stay at the shithole on the seafront though? That often colours peoples opinions!

Callisto · 07/07/2012 18:45

I never come across people like this either and regularly buy DD huge slabs of cake/chocolate/icecream in public. I hope that means that I have a 'don't fuck with me' vibe too, though suspect it is just because I am inobservant of those around me.

Callisto · 07/07/2012 18:46

Oh and YADNBU ontheegde.

PomBearWithAnOFRS · 07/07/2012 18:47

Just ask her if she "always takes such an interest in other people's children?" and do the Hmm thing as you ask.

AllieZ · 07/07/2012 18:48

YANBU (unless your DC is overweight, of course). However, even in this case, it's no one else's business and the person making that comment was way out of line.

Tiggles · 07/07/2012 18:53

I've never had it from other parents particularly, but starting to get sick of the propaganda coming through from nursery. Took DS3 out for a treat this morning whilst his brothers were in a club. He was thirsty so stopped in a cafe for a drink. Asked him which cake he would like. He quite genuinely, aged 3, said "Cakes aren't healthy food, I can't eat those." I wasn't sure whether to be Shock or Sad.

Tiggles · 07/07/2012 18:54

Oh and YANBU. Kids can't just live on salad. A healthy diet needs to be balanced not just lettuce leaves.

BalloonSlayer · 07/07/2012 18:54

I'd have let my DD have that even without the exercise.

You could have stood over her in a threatening fashion and said "You callin' my gel fat, missus?"