Young teens, strings & pubic depilation

[tsunami]

My eldest daughter is just 14 and I've found a lacy string in her room and now a big wad of pubic hair in her shower: suspect we're talking a close shave, and I dread to think how much she's taken off. I don't think there's a (serious) boy in the picture or if this is just peer-pressurised body-angst, but - while I'm no saint and have been around the block myself in my time - I really hate this current pole-dancer/porn shaved pussy trend. Call me a square (and maybe a hypocrite as I do wax up to my bikini line - sorry; TMI but I'm hoping we're all girls together in here - or can at least tolerate girl talk) I think total pubic baldness is unreconstructed pandering to male fantasy... IMO even Brazilians and landing strips are inappropriate for young teens. Still trying to cope with the string (yes, this is my first daughter, and she's growing up, so maybe I have to get used to it. We've had the high heels conversation, the provocative dressing and the make-up one...is this just the next step?)

I find it gutting that such young girls fall for this kind of stuff. OK - once you're older then it's your business, but kids need boundaries and should we and can we draw the line? Given the images they can get access to online - which they can and do, no matter what precautions you try to put in place at home - I'm not surprised they feel under pressure. Yes, I have looked - half the porn girls are bald; most have breast implants. Call me old fashioned, but - yeeuch.

I would've died if my mum had ever discussed my depilation issues with me. I can just see it: 'Darling...about your pubes...' 'Yeah, Mum, whatever: bog off.' You can't! Maybe I just tell her I don't think she should leave big clods of pubic hair in the plughole from a hygiene and self-respect POV.

What do I do? Do I do nothing, and leave it? It's her body...AIBU even to think of getting involved?

Surely a 14yo has better things to do with her time and money than piss about in a salon getting waxed?

Mind you, so has a 35 year old woman.............

We have someone come to our home, which I pay for and its about 10 minutes out of her life.

I think its good she does this, its got her into good habits.

"good habits"?

dear God in heaven!

Also @ "good habits"

The fact you find pubic hair "disgusting" hasn't skewed your judgement on this at all, has it? I think most people in the UK would find the idea of taking a 14 year od girl to have all her pubic hair waxed off pretty unpleasant.

Personally I hope that my DDs, when they are older, don't get any messages about how their pubic hair is disgusting and they must submit to time consuming, money consuming and often extraordinarily painful procedures to conform to the current fashion for women to have abnormal hairless bodies AKA the porn aesthetic.

I suspect they will succumb as they are normal girls but bloody hell I won't be taking them to get all their pubes torn out at 14.

I must say I'm a bit surprised by this thread. I'm in my thirties, so not that old, but I feel very naive now. I had no idea a large number of young girls barely out of childhood were taking all their pubic hair off.
Also, Ruby, your "good habits" shocked me a little. You said you find pubic hair disgusting and I struggled to understand but I thought fair enough, everyone's different. The idea that waxing everything off is a "good habit" is on another level though, because it implies not doing it would be a bad habit. Which it plainly isn't.
Sorry I'm not trying to pick on you, I'm just a bit surprised that's all.

Good habits for. 14 year old. Hmm

Regular exercise
Sensible eating
Read something every day
Get your homework done before the deadline

Hmmm. Nope. Waxing your lubes isn't up there!

Or even your pubes!

RFN, you have clearly over-facilitated (or should I say brainwashed) your dd into removing her "disgusting" pubic hair

You pay for someone to come to the house to "get her into good habits" in the same manner you might get a ratcatcher in.

That's rather fucked up

i find it disgusting when its blocking up the plug hole, is that ok?

My cousins are 17 and 19 and they are pleased that it's cool to wear surf shorts and a bikini top swimming because they can't be bothered with bikini line shaving. So no not all teens shave everything off.
I couldn't give a stuff if women have bikini line hair on show at the pool and am shocked that anyone should care...do you really look that close?
Just because things have become normalized doesn't mean we have to think they're acceptable.

how funny that the OP never came back

not verbally anyway

shes at the orthadontist

since 9am yesterday ?

RubyFakeNails.

With your "good habits" and your username I'm building up a mental image of the comings and goings of your household.

Has the St Tropez lady been yet?

Nowt wrong with looking after yourself Ruby is there and not for my man but for myself and for girls to feel good about themselves. However it is personal choice.

anyfucker possibly, my last husband went out for a pack of fags i didnt see him again ever.

I shaved my eyebrows off when I was about 13, with my mum's Ladyshave.

Rapid lesson learned.

sock, that is erm, shocking

and your exH was up to no good, presumably?

case in point

i expect so but it took me a few days to notice. but then again i didnt really like him that much

perhaps shes up to no good with the ortadontist that would explain the lenght of time there, also perhaps it involves 50 shades of toothpaste and a few coloured bands

Fuck me, I go out for a bit and come back to this.

Yes, I do find pubic hair disgusting, that is my personal choice. It makes me feel unclean, smelly, I have extremely heavy periods in the first few days and idea of being hairy while this is going on is not something I want. I originally used to shave but found waxing to be a much better answer to this.

If you had read my earlier post I said, my dd has never seen me with pubic hair so its what she is used to. But that she first asked me to do this as it had been quite the topic amongst her friends at school. I don't spend my life marching round banging on about disgusting pubic hair, unsurprisingly its not something i ever discussed with my DD1 until she brought it up, I haven't brainwashed my daughter with some anti-pube rhetoric. She asked me about shaving it and I told her try it but I find waxing better.

My dd1 is now 16 and has been quite happy with the system for a number of years. She is a swimmer so she was going to have to do something about it anyway, so I don't really see why her choosing to go the whole hog is such an issue.

Also having someone come to do treatments at your house is very common, the girl I have is part of a team of 12 and they are fully booked up weeks in advance so I don't see why thats an issue.

You've all gone off the bloody deep-end over 'good habits', obviously its better habits to have a regular waxing schedule rather than just taking a razor to yourself will nilly. The more you wax the less you have to it makes sense. I know it is not the 'mn' way for people to want to have treatments and make an effort with themselves but I don't see there is anything wrong with it. To me its the same as going and having your eyebrows threaded which lots of teens do, I don't know why there is such deep attachment to some fanjo hair.

And no Bumble the St Tropez has not crossed the threshold. I work the "I'm so pale I'm blue" look while DD1 is mixed race.

I have once considered a vajazzle.

Should i send in my TOWIE application tout suite?

Ruby I so agree and do the vajazzle !!