To ask if you have a best friend?

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I don't have one and sometimes it seems as though the rest of the world does! I had one at school but the 'best' friend bit never continued into adulthood. I've met a couple of people in adult life I'd like to be best friends with too, only for them to refer to someone else as their best friend.

It does bother me a bit. Not a huge amount but I do sometimes with I had the security and closeness of a best friend.

spuddybean, that is very .

No I don't. And I cringe abit when I hear an adult using the phrase. Sorry I seem to have a very different view to the others and not to denigrate your relationships but I associate the term with the schoolyard. I have lots of friends, new friends old friends, great sisters I am close to but don't feel the need to categorise and pick one as "best". I had a best friend at school but she married a very odd unfriendly guy and moved abroad so wouldn't really even count her as a friend now.

I's rather have close friends than have a cast of thousands that I just socialise with. I have two best friends - both live in different cities and have children younger than mine. We don't get to see each other very much but are in touch by phone.

I broke my school friends heart and will feel eternally guilty and sad. I only realised after another close friend died and I had my baby.

I currently have a vacancy for a close friend in the city where I live for drinks, dinner and trips to the theatre/cinema. Dh is fab but I need female company.

I have one very close friend (not sure I could bring myself to use the term best friend at my age).

See her 3/4 times a month but I'm quite a private person and too wrapped up with family/work so not masses of spare time.

She has lots of friends which I am really glad about as it spares me from having to socialise too much

I love her to bits though and would hate to be parted from her

I did have a best friend but she passed away 5 years ago. I don't think anyone will even come close to replacing her as she was one of a kind IMO! She never ever judged me badly and she was always on my side. She was a very good listener and very clever and very very funny!

I do have other friends, but I can't open up to them in the same way as I did with my best friend. Also I could happily spend a week with my best friend and not run out of things to talk about. Saying that we could have comfortable silences too, we weren't just chatterboxes!

I just try to be grateful for what I had and I try to accept any offers of friendship as you never know who is going to turn out to be a good friend!

I have 3 best friends. One who is like an older brother to me and has looked out for me/always been there for me since we met in the first year of secondary school, another who was also in my class at secondary school, and another who is so so SO amazing (honestly, she makes me cakes and they are so bloody mouth wateringly good!!). She is always there for me, night and day. I would actually be completely lost without her. We only got close when she was in a relationship with DP's friend, and even when they broke up, our friendship continued to grow.

I don't have a lot of friends, but those I do have, I treasure.

I have one best friend who I've known for 49 years. Is that a world record?

I am lucky enough to have two. They both lives miles away from me, but it doesn't seem to matter. They are both wonderful.

I'm also lucky enough to have a number of other friends as well.

Life is better with friends.

I have a best friend of 14 years we had our babies at the same time, also (going to sound cheesy) but my DH is my best friend too

I have friends who are mums and dads) (ie met though the children, at school, nursery etc) and friends who I met prior to having children. Generally, I am closer to the friends I have known for a long time but some of my newer friends I am becoming closer to as I can see them much more easily and without 4 month planning schedules!

I used to have a "best friend" when I was younger and until recently (she was oldest friend) but I realised she did not like me and was tolerating me. I occassionally miss her emails but then I think of the number of times she let me down. I realise that our friendship was based on history and not the future.
I think having a best friend is over rated, having good, kind and reliable friends means much more to me.

I can't see what's childish about having a best friend as an adult! It's only a problem if you keep things exclusive. What's wrong about having one friend that you would turn to before all others and whose company you relax in most?

It's horses for courses I guess as the idea of a huge group of casual friends and acquaintances horrifies me. It really is quality not quantity, and besides I don't have the time or energy to keep up with loads of different people.

I feel v sad reading the posts about sisters being best friends. I have one sister and would have loved more than anything for us to be close, like many sisters I know, but it wasn't to be. After being chalk and cheese all our lives we no longer speak and although it's for the best, I will always mourn the sister relationship we might have had in a parallel universe.