AIBU to expect my husband to...

[Lonelylou]

wake up and help me with my heavy case when I come back from a weekend of looking after elderly parents. He didn't offer to get up even though he could see me struggling.

He didn't give me a kiss or a hug and say he'd missed me...does this only happen in films? I've told him before I get upset about the none-contact.

He does get up at 5.30am for his driving job and return about 1pm. This makes him tired. I got in at 2.30pm

I just ignored him because he'd upset me and did my own thing for the rest of the day and went to bed early. We barely spoke and I'm still seething!!!

I'm acting the martyr aren't I?

How could he see you struggling if he was asleep?

Maybe he wasn't fully awake?

Sounds like he would have had about 1 hours sleep when you got in?

I think YA perhaps BU to expect him to wake up mid sleep and hug you and talk to you if he is a deep sleeper or likely to be very tired. Maybe would have been better to save any re-union for when he woke up properly

He seemed to be snoozing on the sofa....and did so for the rest of the evening.

Hmm, well that is a bit rubbish of him

Maybe he sensed you were annoyed with him and decided to sleep though it

5:30 isn't that early that you'd need to sleep from 14:30. Does he normally do that?

I think YABU

YABU.

Give yourselves a break, for goodness sakes. He was likely half asleep and you were likely tired from your trip. Allow yourselves to rest instead of kicking up a fuss as soon as you walk in the door.

YABU and ridiculous tbh.
Firstly, how was he supposed to know you were struggling, if he was asleep?
Secondly, why on earth would a small case needed for a weekend at your parents, be so heavy ? Perhaps you need to pack a bit more carefully.

YANBU... my husband gets up at 5am most mornings and works until 5pm, and can still manage to help me.

Did you ask him to help? Or just sulk in silence?

First time I've ever started a new thread. Your replies are giving me a kick up the A as I didn't realise I was sulking...I thought I was feeling sad and unable to talk to him.

lonely just go and give him a hug, it sounds like you have missed him. :o

I think you should have just asked him to help you or just left it downstairs for him to take upstairs later.

I cannot understand why he would be asleep that early when only working 530-1pm, my dad who is probably a lot older than your DH works 12 hour shifts starting at that time in the morning.

YAbothBU so probably best forget about it, next time ask him to help and if he refuses to help then you can sulk

I understand how you feel, I am a bit daft like that sometimes then suddenly realise I am upset over something really trivial.

I don't thnk YABU, I'd be upset if dh didn't greet me nicely in that situation and I know I'd want to make the effort if it were him.

He was a Git but you need to forgive him and have that hug or kiss you were after.

Why didn't you say, "Here give me a hand with this would you please?"
I have come to the conclusion my Dh is not a mind reader and I thought he was for many years. Now if I want something or want him to do something I ask him. It makes me less resentful.

I get up at 5.30am ish every day for work, home by 6pm. That's pretty normal isn't it? What's his problem?

My BIL gets up for work at 5am, works 6-6 and sleeps less than your DH.

Sounds like a lazy fecker to me, and the lack of affection isnt good either.

How are things generally?

I think it's mostly about the fact that I NEVER get greeted with a hug, a kiss or a 'I've missed you'.

Is it just me that doesn't ever get this? We have spoken about it often and he says he's sorry he'll change. I suppose I know already what he'll say if I ask him about it...same old...same old.

well get rid of him then

don't bloody martyr yourself over a bloke who cba to even greet you nicely

life is for LIVING, grab with both hands and cling on, don't shuffle towards a lonely old age

I think YABU expecting him to get up in the middle of the night tbh

Oh just read your last post, clearly there is a bigger problem

allnewtaketwo...don't understand your reply.