DS is my eldest, so possibly being a bit PFB, but also a bit wary because I never enjoyed school at all and I want him to have a better experience than I did. I also don't know much about how schools operate these days, everything is very different than it was when I went.
DS is going to be one of the very youngest in his year, and will only just have turned four when he starts school this Sept. He's also not spent a lot of time away from home, only had 9hrs a week at preschool since November.
For all that, he's not a shy kid, and has settled in pretty well. BUT, he has a real temper and can be very very defiant if not handled properly. By handled properly, I mean you have to encourage him to do something rather than tell him, threaten him etc. If he perceives that he is being told what to do, it's like a switch flips and he reverts back to the terrible twos - screaming, hitting, kicking, refusing to do anything.
Over time, I've realised the best thing to do for a calm household is to encourage him gently to do things and tell him he is helping me etc. I don't sweat the small stuff and things are a lot smoother.
Preschool has been ok, a few behaviour problems but his carer has handled him brilliantly, and brings the best out of him in the same way i do at home.
I'm worried that when he moves up to school, he might just seem like a naughty kid and just get an endless series of punishments rather than have the best brought out of him if the teacher doesn't realise how to handle him.
On the other hand, maybe it would be best if he realised he can't behave like a silly toddler every time something doesn't go his way, and it might help him to stop this behaviour? I have had no success with this approach at home, BTW.
I'm asking for opinions because the teacher is coming for a home visit next week and I'm not sure whether to raise it with her.